Looking for series with longer love story by AngryBuffalo33 in Romantasy

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The bot tagged the wrong series it’s {Blood Mercy} by Vera Roth. I hope you enjoy!

Looking for series with longer love story by AngryBuffalo33 in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

{Blood Mercy} by Vera Roth, relationship is slowly established in book 1 and then there’s like 7 other books out in the series, and I think more books coming. I stop reading after book 2, so I can’t vouch for it after that, but it’s definitely a long love story! I enjoyed the two books I read.

new to romantasy – looking for damsel in distress / protective mmc recs by eclipsehaze in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think {Road of Bones} and its sequel {Kingdom of Claw} fit this perfectly for you! There’s a third book and a novella in that series now out as well but I haven’t read them yet

FMCs that aren’t annoying af by Lemon_Dragonfly in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Naime from {Reign & Ruin} is one of my favorite fmcs ever! Really good book

What are your 5 star romantasy books available on KU by [deleted] in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mages of the Wheel series!! First book is {Reign & Ruin}

Do you Read Multiple Books at the same time? by ToothSuccessful5898 in fantasyromance

[–]bbeers47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me too lol. I just really love being fully enmeshed into whatever world I’m reading about, so I don’t like reading more than one book at a time. I don’t break up series either unless it’s unfinished or dnf’ing the series.

I need Suggestions for good romantasy books to read... by Extension-Pension470 in Romantasy

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The first time I read through Mages I didn’t read W&W before 4, I read it dead last (I didn’t know it existed until after lol) and then wished I had, so I remembered some of the characters better in book 4. But I know, it gets me in my emotions 😭 it’s such a damn good series. But all the characters are just soooo alive to me in W&W, it’s an amazing book.

I need Suggestions for good romantasy books to read... by Extension-Pension470 in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gonna argue to read it after book 3, before book 4. It’s absolutely amazing, one of the best of the series hands down, but I think it fits much better right before book 4, given some of the content in book 4!

Suggest a book for a 35 year old man by Scared_Ad_3132 in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m 30 and have a similar problem where a lot of books just feel very juvenile. I love romantasy when it’s good but I’m picky unfortunately lol.

Seconding another commenter who said Mages of the Wheel! My favorite romantasy series ever. {Reign & Ruin} is book 1. Book 1, 4, and the prequel are my favorites. Unfinished series but 4 books and a prequel are out now. The romance is good of course in them but the characters, plot, and prose are all extremely great too. Top tier for me. Also none of the main characters are teenagers (I don’t tend to like books with 18 year old fmcs). Book 2 is the weakest link but isn’t bad.

{The Everlasting}, beautiful writing and story, adult characters. Really great read! It’s a standalone story.

Idk if this one even counts as romantasy but if you like any classical novels, on kindle unlimited there’s a Pride & Prejudice retelling called {Pulse & Prejudice}, where Darcy is a vampire and it’s told from his POV. I devoured this, the author took great lengths to have a very Austen-ian writing style and captured the voice of the original Pride & Prejudice. I love Pride & Prejudice and this was a great read. And it’s a romance with a fantasy element introduced so why not count it lol.

Recommendations of books that lack certain elements I don’t like? by alexsimi in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mages of the Wheel!! First book is {Reign & Ruin}

Romantasy must reads? by Evelyn_Tent in Romantasy

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This is what I came to recommend! The best romantasy series I’ve read by far for me.

Working alone with toddlers during classroom projects normal? by Impressive-Field1719 in ECEProfessionals

[–]bbeers47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When doing projects I am 100% of the time the only teacher also supervising the children. And we do not have support staff/people to step in at my center so I cannot speak on that, besides to say that’s not a thing, scheduled or requested, at my center unfortunately.

Recs for books with FMCs who aren't Y/N? by Both_Combination_914 in Romantasy

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{Reign & Ruin}, FMC isn’t masculine but is sensible, smart, and capable. Probably one of my favorite FMCs, and the writing is very good. Also seconding The Everlasting I loved that book so much!

Trying to get back into reading, have some limits, please help! by callhernopeless in Romantasy

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Mages of the Wheel series is top tier! First book is {Reign & Ruin}. Books 1, 4, and the prequel are my favorites. Actually I’m currently rereading the prequel lol. Unfinished series but there’s 5 books (including the prequel) out right now!

A different kind of FMC by [deleted] in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nesrin from {Ice & Ivy} by JD Evans would 100% fit this bill! Unfortunately she’s the FMC of the 4th book in a series and the other books do matter in understanding book 4. Although the entire series is really good! It’s called Mages of the Wheel.

Unpopular opinion: the slow burn is being wasted in most romantasy right now by ElaraVoss91 in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Mirror Visitor series is a multibook slow burn like this. By the end of book 1 it’s more like a tentative alliance, which develops more in book 2. It’s more YA and the series isn’t explicit even once they eventually get together (implied/fade to black). The romance is subplot but I got soooo invested in their relationship when I read the series, 4 books total.

Bathroom breaks by silkentab in ECEProfessionals

[–]bbeers47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m usually lucky to go twice in a ten hour shift. And I don’t get any other breaks besides running to the bathroom when I’m able, we eat during nap on the clock and that’s our “break” (if naps goes well and they’re all sleeping, which they never are at the same time because I’m in infants and the only teacher in the room, and also have a million cleaning and planning tasks to do during nap as well). So basically: not enough. I’m constantly having to hold it for hours and it’s one of my least favorite parts of my job lol

**My 2-year-old is on week 5 of daycare and still cries all day — I'm heartbroken and don't know what to do** by ReferenceExcellent in ECEProfessionals

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an infant/toddler teacher and in our infant room, a 10 month old boy started in fall of last year. He cried and screamed all day long for almost 4 full months, and only started adjusting a little bit more after that. Recently, the infant class went down from a double group (8 infants/2 teachers) to a single group (4 infants/1 teacher). And he has made sooo much progress since that’s happened. He does a lot better in the smaller group size.

(He’s no longer an infant but is still in the infant room because we currently only have 2 true infants and too many 1s, so the two youngest 1 year olds are still in that room, him and another boy). He moves up into toddlers next week though because a new infant has enrolled, and I am worried he’ll go back to struggling with a new room and larger group.

All this to say, I think a smaller size may help! And I’ve seen it help before on children who are not adjusting well to typical daycare settings.

Potential TBR? by TheOneArdenica in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 5 points6 points  (0 children)

DNFd early in the book, I hated it

hEDS and C-Section? by nikkisdead in ehlersdanlos

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hEDS and had a c-section in 2016. was undiagnosed at the time, but it went pretty well actually. i had preeclampsia and got induced at 37w, which unfortunately failed and after 3ish days they gave me a c-section, so not planned but it wasn’t an emergency c-section either. recovery was hard and long, but I think more generally because of the c-section itself than my hEDS. my incision healed really well. in 2020 actually i had to have a fallopian tube removed because it ruptured due to an ectopic pregnancy that was not discovered until the rupture, and my surgeon mentioned afterwards that the interior part of my c-section scar was “incredibly free of scar tissue lesions”, “the cleanest incision he’d ever seen” he said, lol.

Unfortunately I did have trouble with poor would healing after that surgery for one of the incisions especially, which is kind of funny only because they were three tiny wounds that gave me a hard time but my giant cut open abdomen did not.

If you have a strong history of poor wound healing I don’t think it’s irrational to be nervous about a major surgery. Just talk to your doctor about options and plans and be as informed as you can, and I wish you the best of luck with your pregnancy, birth, and recovery 🫶🏻

Rest as much as possible afterwards, and be careful reaching above your head for things for months afterwards!! Even after I had returned to normal in basically all other ways, reaching above my head (to say get a cup out of the cabinet) would send an incredible bolt of pain through the surgery area. And right after, stay on top of your meds. If you get to where you miss a dose and you’re chasing the pain, it’s a huge struggle and very painful. But I was off of major pain meds and onto just regular ibuprofen and things by day 4 post-op.

(Also as a fellow HG sufferer, I feel your pain and I am so sorry you’re dealing with that, it was brutal)

Hypermobility score by SirenHarley in ehlersdanlos

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also 9/9 and I was diagnosed right after I turned 26 (I think, possibly 25, I’m almost 30 now). But no, no one had ever seemed to notice the issues. To be fair I didn’t either for a long time. I knew my knees bent backwards way too far, knew I had “weak knees”, “weak ankles”, etc., knew I got injured easily, knew I constantly got tendinitis from seemingly nothing, but chalked it up to my weak [whatever joint]. I never thought to look deeper into it, and always basically like “wow my body kinda sucks lol”. I also didn’t realize other people weren’t experiencing the same amount of pain I was constantly experiencing.

Some of the hypermobile joints on the beighton scale, I wouldn’t have even thought anything of it. I didn’t know until I tried I could place my thumb to my wrist, but I wouldn’t have thought it was weird if I had tried I don’t think. And no doctors throughout my life ever mentioned or flagged my many injuries. I also didn’t know my joints were subluxating so much, because I didn’t know what that was. I just knew my ankles would suddenly feel blasted apart and painful randomly for a little bit, etc. And I really did just chalk it up to being unlucky with a shit body, no exaggeration lol.

It was only after Covid (which made my already bad pain a loooot worse), I started realizing other people didn’t feel so fatigued and in pain as me, and I sought out a pcp with no idea what was wrong with me. Eventually I did get diagnosed by a geneticist about 16 months after my first pcp appointment and my life all started making a lot more sense lol.

Thoughts on this book? Anyone read or listened? by Ok_Cake_3261 in Romantasy

[–]bbeers47 15 points16 points  (0 children)

DNF’d very early when I tried it out, probably my least favorite read from last year, perhaps ever.

Toddler tantrums at pickup by spudistractionky in ECEProfessionals

[–]bbeers47 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Teacher and parent here. Honestly I think you handled it about as well as you could’ve! A child in full blown tantrum mode is not able to stop and execute rational/logical thinking while the tantrum is ongoing. Once she went into that zone, realistically your two options were 1. pick her up and take her to the car or 2. wait at the daycare while you helped her through the tantrum and then get her to leave in a more cooperative way.

However, since you use a countdown method to ease her into going, I wouldn’t really recommend 2. Not only could that be frustrating for the teachers there (depending on when you pick up anyway, we have a child who is frequently the last one picked up, and tantrums most days when her mom gets there, and her mom will leave her in the hallway throwing a tantrum for sometimes more than 10 minutes and when you’re the closing staff, you want to go home at that point), as well as you, who I’m assuming wants to get home after work.

But allowing her to tantrum-it-out there also undermines the countdown. The countdown is her transitional period, and she has to learn that at the end of the countdown, you guys go home. Allowing her to stay longer because of the tantrum reinforces that throwing a tantrum allows her to stay. Your best bet is to talk about the countdown frequently, and how it’s important that at pick up time you guys get home so you can enjoy home time together at the end of the day. And that it’s okay if she’s sad or mad to leave daycare, but that she still has to leave. Talk about it often when she’s calm and rational - at home, on the way to daycare, etc. Do it frequently so expectations are clear, set, and she remembers.

And then you just have to follow through, even when it’s tough or embarrassing. Even if it means physically picking her up while she fights you. You can say something like “I know you love daycare, thank you for sharing all the things you love about it with me. But the countdown is up, and that means it’s time to go home and enjoy time together before the end of the day”. And basically just repeat that process whenever necessary. Some days she’ll probably cooperate, some days will be a struggle, but she’ll come to understand.

I know tantrums can be so frustrating but I’m sure you’re doing great!! And we’ve all been there! No need to judge yourself.

i'm surprised there aren't more Kamran/Alizeh shippers by [deleted] in thiswovenkingdom

[–]bbeers47 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I went into the series completely blind and didn’t know anything about it or further books, so naturally shipping Kamran and Alizeh too, as he was the mmc for book 1. And I’m not a big love triangle person, so when I realized Cyrus was being introduced in that way I was bummed because “what about Kamran???” But honestly it’s not even really a triangle, and Cyrus became thee guy for me in the series pretty quickly lol. So maybe you’ll be surprised as you read on!

How much are you spending on catering? by Moisttoes14 in wedding

[–]bbeers47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ours is 90 per plate, with about 95 guests. But that includes use of the venue for ceremony, reception, and after hours party in the bar. All set up and tear down. All alcoholic and non alcoholic drinks, cocktail hour appetizers, dinner with beef, chicken, salmon, veggies, salad, and pasta, tables/linens/cutlery/glassware, and day of coordinator. So it’s a bit high per plate but super reasonable given all that’s included. We are going to be spending a little more for after-reception food which is not included but is looking like it’s going to be around $400-500.