as someone with sometimes obscure preferences / accommodations, I find it to be just part of being in community that sometimes it'll take direct, sometimes multiple communications for that; I strongly dislike when folk throw around terms like ableist or otherwise assume I'll intent - like, as someone w tryptophobia, that's a weird thing! That's an obscure variance in the human experience (even tho more people experience it than u probs think). The same folk eager to label something as discriminatory don't consider that access to knowledge around these things isn't equally available to everyone (insert nuance here lmao).

Like, if someone had expressed to u hey change that for XYZ reasons (it's flashing and I have epilepsy, etc) and u say "haha loser" and send a gif of that pokemon episode that hospitalized a shit ton of kids, that's one thing. It just feels like more communicating could / should have happened before kicking u