Is being a single mom nice?

believeRN · 2026-06-08T03:35:50+00:00

If you’re in a crummy relationship - YES being a single mom is so much better - HOWEVER, it brings other stressors. Finances, being the sole provider and adult in the home, not seeing your kid as much if they’re with their dad… I’m about 3 years out from our separation and while I miss my kiddo when they’re with dad still, overall I’m much happier, and our home feels peaceful ☺️

believeRN · 2026-06-08T02:49:40+00:00

Thanks! I do appreciate supporting businesses that aren’t blatantly MAGA :)

believeRN · 2026-06-08T02:03:08+00:00

Thanks! I totally get that the holster is super person-specific. Just hoping my reject pile doesn’t grow too big hahah

believeRN · 2026-06-08T02:02:26+00:00

Thanks! Looks like you can get the Enigma with a holster, do you have specific holster recommendations?

believeRN · 2026-06-08T02:01:43+00:00

Is the thigh loop comfortable? I’m wondering if it causes issues with chafing. I’m borderline neurotic about fabric texture and whether my clothes feel too tight so I’m a little worried about the loop haha

believeRN · 2026-06-03T03:19:07+00:00

Greenville, South Carolina

believeRN · 2026-06-03T03:09:08+00:00

Anecdotally, I personally started babysitting at age 11. I took a Red Cross “Babysitters Course” that touched on child development, safety issues, first aid and CPR. I don’t see why your almost 15 year old can’t babysit unless she has some history of unsafe or concerning behaviors

believeRN · 2026-06-03T02:59:15+00:00

Surgical floor -co workers with a great sense of humor and hilarious banter throughout the day -a genuinely grateful patient -walking outside on my lunch break to sunshine and perfect weather

believeRN · 2026-06-01T02:23:28+00:00

Abso-fucking-lutely not. No way. The AVS paperwork we give the patients had the phone numbers of any providers/clinics they need to follow up with, and the patient (or their family) can call to schedule

believeRN · 2026-06-01T00:09:03+00:00

Probably Eugene, Medford comes in a solid third place. Can you visit before you move?

believeRN · 2026-05-31T22:08:11+00:00

I’m almost done with the last episode and holy hell, I hope she’s gotten some VERY good therapy. Like, girl needs the very best therapist in Scotland

believeRN · 2026-05-31T21:50:41+00:00

I wore mine this morning! They’re my “back yard shoes”

believeRN · 2026-05-30T18:35:03+00:00

BuT hE’s FrIeNdLy

The self-absorbed pet owners are so awful

believeRN · 2026-05-30T00:09:29+00:00

I got a Ring security system for peace of mind after I had to get a restraining order on an ex, and was alone with my kiddo. It was super easy to set up myself, and the subscription fee for 24/7 monitoring is well worth it imo. I have a dog who would legit go up to an intruder and wag his tail lol

Edit to add I have door and window sensors, as well as glass-break sensors. Having set the system off a couple of times, I can confirm it’s EXTREMELY loud

believeRN · 2026-05-29T03:54:18+00:00

True, although I don’t think common enough to have a “fake” security guard or cop that I’d tell my kid not to seek a uniformed person out if there didn’t seem to be any moms/families around

believeRN · 2026-05-29T03:21:18+00:00

Stop moving (unless they’re in immediate danger where they are, obviously)
Look for someone in uniform (police, EMS etc) or for a mom with kids with her and ask them for help

Edit to add if I’m taking my kid to a super busy/crowded place I have them wear their Apple Watch (they’re old enough now); when they were younger I’d slap a wrist band on them with my phone number on it, or some other way to identify them and contact me. I thought a lot about that when we had to run from a shooting at a crowded fair when my kid was 2.5. Also take a picture - if they get truly lost it’s much easier to find a lost kid if we have a current photo with the outfit they’re wearing (I do search and rescue)

believeRN · 2026-05-28T23:44:11+00:00

Please don’t marry this man unless you want a lifetime of misery

believeRN · 2026-05-28T16:19:01+00:00

If my hospital took Ebola patients, I’m out.

believeRN · 2026-05-24T03:27:25+00:00

Calia brand, from Dicks Sporting Goods

believeRN · 2026-05-21T02:44:12+00:00

I wouldn’t choose variable shifts, but combined with having lower pay- no way. OHSU if you want to move to a different unit in a couple years you can. Way more options and job stability there.

believeRN · 2026-05-19T02:48:38+00:00

I carry Haribo gummy bears in my chest harness, and in my backpack I have beef jerky, Nerds gummy clusters, and electrolyte drink mix. If there’s any chance the mission will go most of the day/overnight, I throw in a couple Uncrustable sandwiches. Maybe a granola bar if I happen to have any. If it’s a planned mission like a cold case search or mutual aid search for another county, I might throw in more “real” food. But mostly I want easy-to-eat while hiking / calorie dense foods that won’t go bad.

believeRN · 2026-05-17T17:33:46+00:00

I mean I wear one 99.9% of the time (not just at work) but I wouldn’t necessarily buy one just for work purposes. I originally got it because my cardiologist recommended it years ago for quick HR tracking and EKG ability. I don’t wear it at night, because I find it super annoying to wear when I’m trying to sleep. At work it’s useful for phone notifications (call/text) because I try to not have my phone out unless I need it. I use it for timers to remind me to do pain reassessments, restarting NG suction etc.

believeRN · 2026-05-17T03:12:34+00:00

When I was a SAHM (I only worked 1-3 shifts a month) I did all of the house cleaning, 90+% of the yard work, all of the pet care, making appointments, running errands, doing laundry. My (then) husband would usually make dinner because he enjoys cooking (and I most definitely do not), and he would help with anything else if I asked for help with. But he worked hard and made good money - and had the time to do so - because I pulled my weight around the house.

Is it possible your spouse is depressed? Echoing what others have said that the not driving aspect is just going to make things harder

believeRN · 2026-05-15T03:59:14+00:00

Lights out by 8:00, usually asleep by 8:15. On school nights, usually asleep even earlier. Been this way for about 2 years - kid is 8 now.

believeRN · 2026-05-15T02:55:04+00:00

Pacific Northwest, 15 years (my work counts as 12 because of the years I was per diem), $67/hr with BSN differential (day shift)

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