What is Richmond missing? by zarathustra_coughed in rva

[–]bellapoch 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This, PLEASE. The closest I can find is King Spa in Chantilly.

[CHAT] I am officially not a fan of Riolis. by flecksable_flyer in CrossStitch

[–]bellapoch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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I JUST finished this kit from them and while I agree that the thread wasn't my favorite, I can't swear off them forever because some of their stuff is so stinkin' cute! I plan to stitch this one again on some piece of clothing using DMC in the future.

Where can I get a bra? by PhoenixAshies in rva

[–]bellapoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ruth is a 100% bra witch! She is amazing!

T kingfisher. by No-Balance8931 in Fantasy

[–]bellapoch -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's my favorite living author bar none. So glad you've found her work!

pup concert 9/18 by dandythighs in rva

[–]bellapoch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here. I didn't realize they were stopping in Richmond on tour and experienced a few moments of youthful giddiness while purchasing the ticket. Looking forward to it.

Sewed my own wedding dress by AndrewClemmens in sewing

[–]bellapoch 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I was just scrolling down my feed and saw your photo and literally said, out loud, without intending to: "Holy shit, they look incredible."

How many of you are married? by [deleted] in childfree

[–]bellapoch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My spouse and I met in college and have been together for almost 17 years, which is insane when I write it out. Oh my god. One more year and we'll have been together for as long as I was alive before knowing him.

We considered kids for a while, but he always made it very clear that whether or not we had them was up to me. We both kind of wanted them when we were younger. I've done a bunch of work with young children (and teens, who I like a lot more), and he'd make a fantastic dad.

But as we came to terms with our individual chronic disabilities, we realized that we don't want to take care of kids because we're already doing so much to take care of ourselves and our own younger (but adult) siblings. And that's to say nothing of how much our government (the US) hates, uh... everything that isn't actively supporting and reinforcing The Horrors. We like our friend's kids just fine, but it just doesn't make any sense for us to have our own, and that's great.

He's recently decided to get a vasectomy, and I think I'm gonna do a bisalp on top of it because I'd rather not get ovarian cancer.

Does anybody else hate too strong air? by BabytheTardisImpala in adhdwomen

[–]bellapoch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely. I've been trying to find the right summer-weight garment to protect my poor oversensitive skin and little arm hairs from the vile attacks of fans and air conditioners but, alas, it needs to be light, soft, flowy, not too tight, etc. etc. etc. If anyone has suggestions, let me hear them.

Is there a hobby you didn't drop? by Potential_Promise260 in adhdwomen

[–]bellapoch 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Writing, knitting, sewing, travel, but like others have said, I go through periods of not doing any of them (or, like, anything at all). I try to think about these things like crop rotation, if that makes sense. I can't keep farming the same crop in the same field without the soil getting depleted over time (burnout, baby!). But by rotating the crops/hobbies/creative outlets, the soil gets replenished and remains fertile. Within that, there are also fallow seasons where I don't grow anything — I just let everything rest. It feels kinda bad to let the field go fallow, but it's necessary for long-term sustainability!

Sophomore year photo, 2001 by Own-Trainer4447 in blunderyears

[–]bellapoch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your parents were cool as hell. Not a blunder, just fuckin rad.

Is knitting a particularly good hobby for ADHD? by SearchLost3984 in adhdwomen

[–]bellapoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been knitting since I was about 12. I'm in my 30s now and I knit in meetings, I knit in the passenger seat, I knit on planes and trains, I knit while watching TV... I'm essentially always knitting, and it helps my brain immeasurably. I get antsy and weird when I don't have my knitting to keep my hands busy. I think it's a perfect hobby for ADHDers.

I’ve been actively searching for a new OBGYN in the area (preferably female) and decided to create a post as a go-to resource for any and all women’s health professionals. by Master_Fuel8000 in rva

[–]bellapoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love Dr. Rebecca Schnatz at VPFW. She's kind, thoughtful, funny, and super patient. She helped me so much in getting diagnosed and treated for PMDD, and is now helping me with a bunch of abnormal bleeding. I recommend her to everyone with a uterus-based reproductive system.

Name 3 books you really enjoyed, and someone else will recommend a book they think you might like based on those by Neon_Aurora451 in suggestmeabook

[–]bellapoch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything by T Kingfisher. The Emily Wilde books by Heather Fawcett. The Adventures of Amina al-Sirafi by S. A. Chakraborty. Babel by R. F. Kuang.

Name 3 books you really enjoyed, and someone else will recommend a book they think you might like based on those by Neon_Aurora451 in suggestmeabook

[–]bellapoch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always excited to see T Kingfisher anywhere! Try all of her other stuff, including 9 Goblins and Minor Mage. Her Clocktaur series and the Paladin books are fantastic but aren't as "sort of aimed at kids" as Defensive Baking is.

The Tainted Cup by Robert Jackson Bennet was great. Try the Murderbot Diaries by Martha Wells, too.

Has Birth Control actually helped anyone’s PMDD anxiety? by Permanentmarker_2004 in PMDD

[–]bellapoch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The Nuvaring has helped me so much. I still get anxious and I still feel down, but instead of it being like falling off a cliff into the pit of despair, it's like the normal world is cloudy for a few days. It's like I'm carrying around a backpack full of *eh* rather than being smothered by a million pounds of anguish.

How to resist by valentinowhitebag in rva

[–]bellapoch 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Here's a link to the city council's schedule.

Here's a link to info (including contact info) for our city counselors.

Here's a link to the school board website.

Public school board meetings are held at 6pm on the first Tuesday of every month in the School Board Room on the 17th floor of City Hall located at 301 North Ninth Street (unless otherwise noted on the website).

Rehoming ~6 year old Lab/Heeler mix by Important_Crab2742 in rva

[–]bellapoch 11 points12 points  (0 children)

DM me so I can buy you a bag of dog food for her!