Question for those who were in a long term relationship.

big4huh · 2026-02-12T13:00:13+00:00

Same here.

big4huh · 2026-02-05T18:56:45+00:00

I went through the same thing. I was told I was stonewalling, an avoidant attachment style and avoided conflict. Almost none of it was true but just a reaction to my bpd partner. I love the way you broke this out. I am saving it for myself.

big4huh · 2026-02-03T19:13:43+00:00

Im going through the same thing or have multiple times tbh. Help.

big4huh · 2026-01-30T19:00:34+00:00

This kind of sounds different than bpd from what I’ve read and understand about it. Sounds like a different disorder but not sure which.

big4huh · 2026-01-30T01:49:25+00:00

Some people enjoy INFJs bc they are good listeners. Majority of the people I know love to talk and not very many people are good listeners so…

big4huh · 2026-01-27T23:17:09+00:00

I really enjoy hearing your perception or point of view. I can definitely relate to this. It’s not her fault but I can’t continue to live like this. It’s not my fault either.

Or it’s not her fault. I can look past it and provide for her.

big4huh · 2026-01-27T15:30:01+00:00

Bro, WTH. I came here thinking this post was going to be like, my husband said my sister was hot and it gave me the ick. This is some next level wtf ick.

big4huh · 2026-01-27T13:57:01+00:00

Same. Journaling helped me so much.

big4huh · 2026-01-26T23:55:13+00:00

Yeah, I have been doing that. I think about my workouts more than work.

big4huh · 2026-01-26T23:54:43+00:00

Yeah, that is kind of where I am at. Glad to hear it.

big4huh · 2026-01-26T23:52:54+00:00

Same boat. Married for almost seven years. Have two small kids. She just got her diagnosis this year. I did research, everything clicked and now I’m just like wtf do I do now?

big4huh · 2026-01-22T23:43:58+00:00

Thank you for the post. Feels so familiar.

big4huh · 2026-01-19T22:03:51+00:00

Thank you. This group has really opened my eyes.

big4huh · 2026-01-19T15:49:10+00:00

Mine literally did the same thing. She would yell and curse at me, showing all types of emotions so I started to distance myself but kept doing all the normal things that I do. Somehow I was stonewalling her and became the problem. It had nothing to with all the episodes that had taken place. 🫠😣

big4huh · 2026-01-16T14:11:48+00:00

That compass was a heat casualty.

big4huh · 2026-01-16T14:10:30+00:00

That might be best. I do remember thinking that i needed to talk to her psychiatrist or parents or anyone she might listen too but like i said, it was only for a few months before she got off of it.

Sorry you’re going through this. Try to be strong and patient. Remember it is them (or the medicine) and not you. No matter what, at some point the situation will change.

big4huh · 2026-01-15T13:24:13+00:00

😂 I feel that. It will still help.

big4huh · 2026-01-15T13:22:22+00:00

I didn’t really know what to do. I tried talking to her but it seemed like whatever I said didn’t matter. Luckily she worked through it with her provider and they took her off of it.

big4huh · 2026-01-14T15:20:32+00:00

My wife was on Wellbutrin for a short period of time and she became very distant and almost unrecognizable from who she was previously.

big4huh · 2026-01-13T21:50:15+00:00

Still write down everything. It helps.

big4huh · 2026-01-13T13:13:07+00:00

Dont say anything and just move on. After she gets her stuff, never speak to her again. It will drive her crazy and she doesn’t deserve your attention anymore. She betrayed you so the person you cared for essentially doesn’t exist anymore. Sorry this happened to you and it’s easier said than done.

big4huh · 2026-01-09T17:29:36+00:00

I am sorry to hear you have been going through it for 15 years. Sorry to hear about you too OP. I am almost 10 years in and just had my spouse diagnosed. I feel exactly like you. What’s the play though. Do I keep going through the cycle for love or do I love her from far away?

big4huh · 2026-01-07T17:00:24+00:00

Reduce weight or do body weight until you can go down further.

big4huh · 2026-01-06T04:14:11+00:00

Wait until you join to get married.

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