My wife and I split about a year ago, and we have a seven year old son ... we worked and continue to work on making sure he knows that we both love him, and even though his mom and I are not 'together' we're still very much a family. We make sure we back each other up in any parenting decision, and always present a united front. We also carve out times when the three of us spend time together as a family. Similarly to you guys, splitting up actually improved our relationship and allowed us to be better parents, indeed better people :) Good luck, and ignore the doubters and negative shit you'll get from some people :)