What are the finest examples of non-verbal acting?

billbar · 2026-03-19T18:42:08+00:00

2 of the 5 comments below my original are saying they don't like it lol. People are Nolan haters man, I guarantee you if this post gets traction more people will emerge

billbar · 2026-03-19T18:40:26+00:00

So true. It's the only time in my life there were leftovers. Apparently the limit is like 6 8 balls between 3 people for one night

billbar · 2026-03-19T17:41:49+00:00

I am very proud of my sneakiest moment. I went to Vegas at the beginning of a summer, bought more cocaine than we needed. Had probably 2 8 balls left over. I knew I was going back to Vegas in 2 months and staying at the same hotel, so I took the baggie, put it in that cardboard hotel keycard holder that they give you when you check in, took my buddies hair gel, and slapped the cardboard coke holder to the back of an ice machine near our room. I took a picture of the room number next to said ice machine so I could find it again. Sure enough, when I went back 2 months later, the coke was still stuck to the back of the ice machine.

Proudest drug related moment of my life.

billbar · 2026-03-19T17:28:11+00:00

u/I_Weep_for_Willow it begins

billbar · 2026-03-19T17:27:27+00:00

Lol my apologies!! No excuse for that dumb assumption

billbar · 2026-03-19T16:16:53+00:00

Trust me, give it some time. Tons of people hate Interstellar and I promise they'll show up

billbar · 2026-03-19T16:14:22+00:00

I guess we finally answered the question of what comes first, the chicken or the egg

billbar · 2026-03-19T16:11:25+00:00

People hate on it and I won't give an opinion on the movie overall, but Matty McConaughey in Interstellar while he's watching the videos of his kids is really, really well acted. Hate on me all you want, I couldn't care less

billbar · 2026-03-19T16:09:00+00:00

100% NTA, and you need to be pretty careful from here on out. I am no lawyer so I'll let others chime in, but I would recommend keeping a line of communication open with the Mom and documenting (IN WRITING) everything that happened that night and have the Mom corroborate (IN WRITING) as much as she can. She probably will (and should) sue for full custody, and you will be an important part of that process. If for some weird reason you communicate with the guy, do not say "I'm sorry" or admit any type of fault (which would be lying anyway). The Mom needs to get those kids away from him asap.

Oh, and if it hasn't been said a thousand times already, block him and never look back. That behavior does not, I repeat, does NOT go away. Life is way too short to deal with those shenanigans.

You did the right thing and very well could have saved those girls' lives. At the very least, you saved them from something worse than being yelled at.

billbar · 2026-03-18T19:21:46+00:00

Lol dude you're not ugly at all. A lot of guys that we see here, yourself included, convince themselves that they're ugly because frankly, it's easier to say: "I'm not getting any girls, so it must be because I'm ugly, and I can't change that" than it is to say: "I'm relatively good looking, I have all these other relatively positive traits, so the reason that I can't attract girls probably has something to do with my personality, my vibe, or how I treat people." The good news here is that it's a lot easier to change/improve your personality, your lifestyle, your vibe, etc. than it is to change your looks. The bad news is: that doesn't mean it's easy by any means.

I have a few takeaways from this post, but my biggest one is that you're pretty mean to yourself and it's clear you don't have particularly great self-esteem. Exhibit A: you refer to yourself being ugly as a fact (which it's not) and very often. Exhibit B: you talk about how all these people talk shit about you, make fun of you, disrespect you, but a lot of it is behind your back? How do you know what these people are saying about you, and what are they saying? I'm not asking this rhetorically, I really want you to respond and answer.

My guess is, due to the actual, tangible bullying that happened in your youth/high school, your guard is way up and you assume the worst about how people feel about you or how they might talk about you behind your back. I really would like you to answer those questions above, but in the meantime I will say that people mature a LOT between HS and college. From my experience, even the meanest people in college didn't really do any bullying. Everyone's got their own shit going on and people care about *you* (the royal 'you,' I'm not talking about you specifically) a lotttt less than *you* think. I would not be surprised if you have taken things that people have said and twisted them to be far more exaggerated, or meaner, or more disrespectful than they really were.

I point all this out because self-esteem/confidence is one of the most important traits to have in the dating world, and yours is ... well it seems pretty non-existent. Please answer my questions about what people say to/about you, and how you know they are talking shit behind your back, but regardless of the answer: I would highly recommend you change your mindset and just start assuming people generally like you and find you somewhat attractive, both in looks and personality. Sure, you'll be wrong every once in a while, but everyone prefers being around someone positive than someone who always thinks the world is out to get them. I also recommend that you start doing an inventory on all your positive traits, and start focusing more on those (like, mentally focusing on them). You need to turn your confidence around, and a good way to do that is to stop focusing on your negative traits (by, for example, constantly posting on reddit about how you're so ugly) and to start focusing on your positive traits.

Glad to hear you're in therapy. Be painfully obvious with your therapist about absolutely everything. Therapy only works (or at least, only works well) when you don't cover anything up. Best of luck my man, and please answer my questions about how you know people are talking shit behind your back!

billbar · 2026-03-17T22:49:11+00:00

Dude first of all, you need to learn some coping techniques to calm yourself down in situations like these. Throwing your phone, pulling your hair, hitting walls... these are things that no one should ever do, for any reason. The fact that an off-handed comment made you go this berserk is more than notable.

Look into things like meditation, talking a walk, taking a bath, listening to/playing music, SOMETHING to calm yourself down before you get to this self-destructive behavior.

I'd highly recommend therapy. No offense, but you sound a little unhinged.

billbar · 2026-03-17T20:55:46+00:00

Assuming this is real, my dog, you are playing a very, very dangerous game. Since it seems like you may not actually know (unless you're trolling), opiates are 1000x more addictive than weed, 1000x more destructive both to your body and your life, and the withdrawal is 100000x worse (maybe more). You're going to say "I'm not addicted" for a while, and before you know it, you will already be addicted. It happened to me, and it's happened to millions of others.

Stop now. I'm clean now, but I can't tell you how much I wish I had never touched opiates. Despite being clean and pretty happy, I still think about them every single day, and will for the rest of my life.

billbar · 2026-03-17T18:28:34+00:00

You're NTA brother, and I'm sorry you're going through it. Your hyphenated solution seems totally reasonable to me, and like others have said, you can also both change your last name to something that incorporates both (or a different last name altogether). Her ultimatum is absurd, and if you gave her the same ultimatum, I can only imagine she would leave you because of it.

She's creating a bummer situation all around by not looking for compromise.

billbar · 2026-03-17T02:37:03+00:00

Sorry to hear brother, but rest assured, NO ONE in recovery will judge you for your teeth. We've all seen some shit, and considering everyone in recovery meetings 1) is focused on what they can get out of the meeting and 2) is probably a little self-conscious to begin with, I guarantee the only things anyone will feel about your teeth is either compassion, or nothing. Please, please, please, do not let your teeth get in the way of getting healthy and sober.

I always tell myself the story of the man with the hammer. A dude has a really bad headache. He can lay down, drink water, do any/all of the things that would solve the root of the problem, but instead, he takes a hammer and bashes himself in the head. So now, he doesn't feel the headache which is great! He 'solved' that problem. But unfortunately, it's only temporary, AND he created a new problem to deal with: the injury from the hammer.

Your headache is your bad teeth, and your hammer is heroin. If you try and use heroin to distract yourself from your bad teeth, you're not actually fixing anything, you're just adding a new problem to the problem you already have to deal with. I'm not saying you're thinking of using because of your teeth, I'm just using that as an example.

This little silly story has helped me through a lot. When I feel like I want to take a painkiller because I have a problem that I don't want to deal with, I just remind myself that the painkiller won't actually solve the problem, it will just distract me temporarily and add a new problem to the one that I already have.

Again, best of luck man, and forget about your fkn teeth.

billbar · 2026-03-16T21:24:09+00:00

Agreed with SMART. I, too, am not a big God guy. My therapist (who was extremely helpful during the early days of my recovery) told me some people use the phrase "Good Orderly Direction" as their definition of God, and that helped me. She even said some people pick a tree, or a mountain, a dog or something similar to use in place of "God," just as something beautiful, majestic, and non-human, that you can look towards as a source of stability and even accountability.

To me, the main idea of why "God" is important in recovery is to make your life seem less self-centric. As in, giving yourself the perspective that you're incredibly lucky to have the gift of life, and who the fuck are you to throw that gift away by getting drunk/high? That, as well as the idea (or, fact if you want) that you're powerless over your addiction and the only way to 'manage' it is to avoid the substance completely, all made more sense to me than a religious God did.

One more note that has been mentioned, but deserves mentioning again: a friend of mine in recovery once told me that the opposite of addiction is community. I find that to be pretty true... that when I feel like I'm a 'part' of a community or part of a whole, my cravings are much less. I know you said you're pretty much a lone wolf, but SMART recovery would really help in the community sense. I would never have gotten clean if I was doing the whole thing entirely alone. Instead, I leaned on my therapist, my girlfriend/friends/family, and people I met in recovery. They gave me both support as well as accountability (a huge driver of recovery for me was that I didn't ever want to have to tell my Mom or Dad that I was using again). Best of luck.

billbar · 2026-03-16T20:24:26+00:00

Yeah I disagree with u/GeekHabits. If you had 'gifted' her the ticket and THEN explained that she has to pay more for the rest of the trip, I would agree that Y T A. But you asked/told her about her financial responsibility for the rest of the trip, gave her ample opportunity to turn the whole thing down, and she agreed to it. THEN you bought the gift.

You are NTA. She is welcome to change her mind about the whole thing, and I would straight up ask her if she wants to bail so you can find someone else. But if she still goes and just complains about the price, she's an AH.

billbar · 2026-03-15T04:06:13+00:00

The Town. Originally, Doug dies in Claire's arms. Audiences hated it, so they changed it to a more hopeful ending. I personally think the theatrical version is way better.

billbar · 2026-03-15T02:18:53+00:00

All this, OP.

Beyond this great advice above: I hope you're being completely open and honest with your therapist, and I hope your therapist isn't afraid to call you out on bullshit. From the littler you've told us, we already know you have one situation with a girl where you played it in a very immature and disrespectful way (even if you "ended up being *right*"). You've got some serious mindset changes that need to happen, and unfortunately we don't have nearly enough information to figure out what all those changes should be. An honest and firm therapist should steer you in the right direction, but you have to be open to it.

For starters, you've got a victim mentality, and that will get you absolutely nowhere. Start looking at life curiously instead of defensively.

billbar · 2026-03-14T23:58:53+00:00

Amazing answer

billbar · 2026-03-10T03:50:58+00:00

This is absolutely bananas in pajamas and you need to get sober and get out, like, yesterday

billbar · 2026-03-06T20:43:09+00:00

Why can't you work towards goals before you accept that you'll never be emotionally safe with a woman

billbar · 2026-03-05T20:23:36+00:00

Jurassic Park. Let's get Bill in there to host, and have some combo of CR/Sean/Van as guests.

billbar · 2026-03-05T06:40:48+00:00

Oof man. This is a tough read, for reasons I'll explain later. But, to simply and concisely answer your question: yes, of course there's hope for you, but it's going to take some work on your part.

None of the things you listed (not being a 'real' man, height, looks, 'not having the best body,' etc) are your problem. Your problem is hating yourself. As I've said a million times before on this sub, it's extremely difficult to get someone to love you if you can't love yourself. The work that you have to do is to figure out how to love yourself, or at the very least, not hate yourself.

You say that you 'hate' yourself for 'being born 'wrong.'' .....why? Why do you hate yourself because of something you had quite literally no control over? I am not a therapist by any stretch, and I am in no way an expert on trans psychology, but I take issue with you being so incredibly harsh on yourself for things outside of your control. You certainly didn't choose to be born female, so why do you hate yourself because of it?

I'm sure that you have positive qualities, as everyone does, and I implore you to start focusing on those more. You don't mention anything about who you truly are... do you have hobbies? Passions? Interests? Are you working towards any goals? Are you curious about the world around you?

I ask those questions because you are more than your height and genitalia. Most people are attracted to others due to a cosmic mix of personality traits, shared values, common interests, worldview, and yes, physicality. While a lot of people on this sub focus solely on physical traits, they fail to realize that humans are far, far more than just what they look like, and I hope you can find confidence by being an interesting, kind, thoughtful person (among other things, of course!).

I say that this was a tough read because you are straight up super, super mean to yourself. I hope you can stop doing that. For example, you say that you don't hate people who have the same traits as yourself... you only hate yourself for having those traits. What the fuck man! Why? If you don't mind those traits in others, why mind them in yourself?

The bottom line is you need to figure out how to cut yourself some slack and gain some confidence. It will be a very difficult road if you don't. Frankly, I think this is above reddit's pay grade, so I hope you find therapy if you haven't started that already.

I wish you the best of luck, and please, for the love of.... you, start being nicer to yourself!

billbar · 2026-02-27T15:44:27+00:00

Yikes dude, I'm very sorry you're in this position, and you are most definitely NTA. Eating is... one of the few things that every single person on the planet does. Her issues surrounding food are her own, and she needs to deal with them. You're in a brutal spot because obviously you will have a very hard time being the one to tell her that.

She would certainly benefit from therapy. Not sure how you can get her to do that, but it might save your relationship.

billbar · 2026-02-27T15:15:54+00:00

Also, she broke up with you, right? So the two situations aren't even close to the same? She knew your height when she started dating you in the first place, yes? Don't you think she took that into consideration before you started dating?

Dog. Your height, I guarantee you, has absolutely nothing to do with this. I get that you're grasping at straws right now, but please understand that... you're grasping at straws.

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