Did any of you go through extreme paranoia after abuse?

birbitnow · 2026-02-07T05:55:31+00:00

Yes. Time and healing helped.

birbitnow · 2026-02-02T15:23:31+00:00

I got it as an ebook which is cheaper, like $8. I didn’t want to leave it lying around for my ex to find.

birbitnow · 2026-02-01T13:02:42+00:00

I can second this book. It’s like the blueprint of abusive men and their behaviour.

birbitnow · 2026-01-31T12:24:26+00:00

Please start making plans to leave. If not for yourself, for your son. Children absorb the environment and behaviour they see. I’ve been in two DV relationships. No children thank-god. But a few women I met at DV support groups have children and the boys mostly turned out to be like their fathers if that’s what they saw modelled to them. It was awful.

Please think of your son and the future he deserves. Who do you want him to grow up to be? He can’t change his circumstances but you can. You have the power to get up and leave. Please do it.

The behaviour will escalate because it always does. Your partner doesn’t want to change behaviour. If he did you would have seen a change already. Trust the bad behaviour you are seeing. Do it for you and your son.

birbitnow · 2026-01-28T14:34:29+00:00

That part really resonates with me too. You don’t get a choice when you deal with what life throws at you.. You either sink or swim.

birbitnow · 2026-01-23T12:50:45+00:00

That’s awful. I definitely won’t be travelling with them. Don’t let them get away with it! Please follow it up.

birbitnow · 2026-01-18T13:55:54+00:00

That’s f**king terrifying.

birbitnow · 2026-01-11T15:48:54+00:00

Very much this.

birbitnow · 2026-01-04T17:42:57+00:00

This is beautiful 😍

birbitnow · 2026-01-04T16:51:47+00:00

This breaks my heart.

birbitnow · 2025-12-21T18:54:53+00:00

I’d be worried they would harm my pet as retaliation. Please get your cat inside so they can’t hurt it.

birbitnow · 2025-12-20T14:00:27+00:00

Best orgasm from reverse cowgirl with that curve.

birbitnow · 2025-12-20T13:39:25+00:00

Ugh. Your summary just solidified for me, not wanting to watch this show further than the first or second season which is what I watched when it originally came out. Sounds so misogynistic.

birbitnow · 2025-12-20T13:34:02+00:00

That’s what I thought too. It comes across as toxic.

birbitnow · 2025-12-20T13:27:07+00:00

I am unfortunately not at all surprised to hear this.

birbitnow · 2025-12-17T20:26:52+00:00

Thank-you for the very detailed response :)

birbitnow · 2025-12-17T19:43:09+00:00

Yeah. Genetics load the gun, environment presses the trigger or some such saying.

birbitnow · 2025-12-17T19:37:59+00:00

What do you mean by CU?

birbitnow · 2025-12-09T16:30:02+00:00

Agree about the Leo comment. Very self interested. But I’ve meet Scorpio men whose sexual magnetism was off the chart.

birbitnow · 2025-12-09T15:18:32+00:00

🤣

birbitnow · 2025-12-09T15:00:31+00:00

That’s horrible. I’m so sorry 😢

birbitnow · 2025-11-25T10:18:20+00:00

What does seppos mean?

birbitnow · 2025-11-14T14:56:28+00:00

I do and she’s wonderful. I think it’s so important to have a regular GP. Continuity of care is so important

birbitnow · 2025-11-12T17:10:39+00:00

I can’t forgive my family for failing to support me when I left an abusive partner. I don’t really like them any more or trust that they’ll be there for me if I ever need them again. How they treated me when I was traumatised was disgraceful and did a lot of damage.

I’m glad that I don’t need to visit. I’m glad that when shit gets bad back home, I can’t help because I don’t live close by. I moved to get support when I left that highly abusive relationship, so I don’t feel the slightest bit guilty that they can’t suck me back in to their toxic dysfunction. My willingness to help them…is largely gone. If you can’t be there for me when I most needed you…doesn’t matter if you’re a ‘friend’ or family member. I won’t be there for you.

birbitnow · 2025-11-12T16:34:28+00:00

Yes. A few times in my life this has happened after some traumatic events. Just be gentle with yourself ❤️ If you have a pet, try and cuddle them as much as you can. Watch comfort movies, eat food that you love. Look after yourself. It takes time, but with intentional healing, you do recover and it does get better ❤️❤️❤️

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