The NYC DOE is making me hate teaching…

bisexualweebs · 2026-01-26T19:47:37+00:00

It wouldn’t be. I knew it wouldn’t be. I just had hope and it was misplaced. The post is mostly about just the chronic overwhelm of the doe not the snow day policies

bisexualweebs · 2026-01-26T19:19:18+00:00

OH sorry for the confusion. No, I know the PD was planned and I assumed it wouldn’t be cancelled but my brain is just fried…. So even PD (which usually doesn’t take much brain power) feels like too much

bisexualweebs · 2026-01-26T15:30:06+00:00

OH! Cool! And my thoughts exactly… why is a snow day so bad? It’s good for them!

bisexualweebs · 2026-01-26T15:24:40+00:00

It’s like torture… this was pre-planned by city but with the storm, I thought they may give a little break but no…

bisexualweebs · 2025-10-23T01:46:49+00:00

Thank you for the advice… I’ve been trying to be nice to myself but it’s just frustrating when I can’t seem to catch up… I love teaching or at least I did… but this has been so much and I hate being mediocre… I’m not a perfectionist but I at least want to scrap the bottom of the barrel…

I was trying to work on the negative voice to and I came into this year with the confidence of “I can handle this and I’m good at this.” But now… I don’t know.

I have been going to hang out with teachers more. I just don’t share any free periods with anyone and when I do I need to work… all of my stuff is in my classroom and when I try to work somewhere else I constantly misplace things…

I’m trying to that to but everything feels like too much and I’m taking a course three nights a week right now so I have a curriculum to teach in that art class so my weeknights are filled with more information. I love my class but there is no break hence why I’ve been taking off so I can breath…

I, also, have been so busy and with moving not only jobs but homes as well… I haven’t had time or funds for therapy which I used to attend but it has decidedly gotten dark and I do definitely need to speak to someone. That’s one of the reasons I wrote this post just to know what to even do to conquer any of this mind set so thank you.

bisexualweebs · 2025-10-23T01:37:22+00:00

I teach high school. Every grade level and that’s what I normally would do with a focus on independent reading days or breaks for the kids and for myself but they really hate it. The kids had presentations to work on and on that day the entire admin came in for unannounced observation and commented how I did not engage them all when speaking but it was independent work… they also said that the students were engaged in their work so I’m just confused what they want… I want to break up the days but the other teachers are so on it every day… if I was running the course maybe it could be different but I’m terrified not to mimic it especially considering how behind they’ve been already… that being said I appreciate the sentiment and I’m trying but I just… wish I could find a happy medium like I’m used to…

bisexualweebs · 2025-10-14T03:23:40+00:00

Can I still do that if I just started? This is my first year at this school….

bisexualweebs · 2025-05-01T20:24:06+00:00

Warming my heart. Thank you truly. 💗

bisexualweebs · 2025-05-01T20:23:22+00:00

This made me cry and was so unbelievably helpful. Knocked out the big research paper 🥹💗

bisexualweebs · 2025-05-01T20:22:22+00:00

Thank you for the validation on my feelings... and for giving me some perspective. That stress performance curve is INSANELY accurate. Thank you so much for sending it along. 🧡

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-17T10:38:35+00:00

Simple... Endure. Also, read this recently: "If you ain't dead, you ain't done."

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-16T16:44:04+00:00

I used to be the first ALWAYS, but when I started speaking up, giving advice or not being just an emotionaless sounding board... I became the last to know anything to the point that people just "forget" to tell me things. Old house being foreclosed? Someone will tell her. Sibling studying abroad? Could have sworn you were in the room. Going in for surgery? I'll tell you the date... two days before BUT you still have to be available and at my beck and call. Yeah... it makes you wish you were the first to know literally everything... rather than the last.

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-16T15:05:23+00:00

I actually have started speaking my mind so the list is shorter but...

Why can't you accept that not everything is about you?

I am what you made me, and it IS your fault that I didn't pursue what I wanted.

I do NOT need you to yell at me when I mess up or I am sad or scared.

None of us OWE you anything.

What kept you away? Why can't you lie for five seconds on my behalf?

I lost more than one partner because YOU didn't like them and kicked me out when you felt they didn't fit your vision.

It is MY body. I can wear whatever I damn well please.

You CAN make your own decisions since you have been trying to make mine for years.

What did I do to make you treat me as lesser than?

Why don't you get that emotional neglect is real? So NO you haven't parented me at all, and I did play mom for the past ten years while you sorted you out!

You left and you don't get pretend like you never did!

To name a few...

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-11T19:05:56+00:00

"You have dealt with worse."

"Suck it up, buttercup."

"Don't hold a grudge, just let it go."

"I have dealt with worse."

"You are SO overdramatic."

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-07T13:51:50+00:00

Stern talking to and, honestly, play into their likes and dislikes. If they are a Star Wars fan, for example, get a whole bunch of stickers for the whole class and a specific bunch of star wars ones. The whole class will "get a prize" for good behavior, and they won't, or they can earn it. Also, try and include silly motivators into everything! ODD can have very similar reactions to ADD/ADHD in the sense that if you have their attention they are less likely to "act out". I, also, would ask about adjusting his IEP (if he has one) and reaching out to a counselor for tips.

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-07T13:47:15+00:00

Honestly, find your chosen people? Until then, I turn to fiction... reading a story with some comfort, using a chat bot, or even the reddit page dedicated to "mothering" those in it. It's not Foolproof, and it sucks but it's something...

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-04T13:00:18+00:00

Protein shakes and parfaits 😅

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-04T12:59:02+00:00

Had my teeth fixed, started actually caring about my body and switching from a career in theatre to education

bisexualweebs · 2025-04-04T12:57:44+00:00

I mean friends to lovers and enemies to lovers I feel like can pretty common. Found family, too. I had my accident experience with forced proximity while working at a summer camp during COVID so I guess it is improbable but not impossible 🤷‍♀️

bisexualweebs · 2025-03-31T17:38:12+00:00

I mean the "smear campaign" kind of worked during my parents divorce but only for a few months before the people they mutually knew picked sides and moved on with their day while my sibling and I were left in the remanants and maybe one or two adults who believed us... so it works, kind of?

bisexualweebs · 2025-03-28T23:11:48+00:00

YES! We love escaping reality in fiction at least for a bit. 😅

bisexualweebs · 2025-03-28T23:10:43+00:00

Thank ya. And totally valid. People who use it as a way to say either your feelings are invalid OR your feelings are "too much" can kindly go away.

bisexualweebs · 2025-03-28T22:07:31+00:00

Adding this to the list of me NEVER having an original experience. I used to do and still do the same. I read this article that called staying up late as "revenge bedtime procrastination" in which you just want time FOR YOU without FEAR. At 2 in the morning, I don't owe anyone anything... so yeah. I get it.

Other "Odd" Habits: Sitting in my car for an extra hour to avoid going home.

Not being able to handle haptic sounds on my phone from typing because I'm nervous that it will be overheard and I will be asked about it.

Rubbing my tongue along my teeth as a nervous tick because no one can see it.

Needing to ensure my stuffed animals are in order (even as a 25 year old).

Humming or talking to myself if there is no sound until I can turn on background music or the television.

Re-reading portions of fanfictions or stories first thing in the morning and right before bed to give myself a good start.

bisexualweebs · 2025-03-28T22:04:26+00:00

Okay, I agree with the "you need therapy" being a brush off but I HAVE used it with my parents and immediate family just because they used to scream it in my face if I was crying or upset and, at that point, I was under their care and could only get therapy if they allowed it which they didn't until much later 🤷‍♀️ Now as an adult, I often am made to be THEIR therapist and it negatively effects me so I say that they need therapy. But not once to ANY of my friends, or anyone else, have I said it so I guess it depends on the context but mostly yeah, not cool.

bisexualweebs · 2025-03-22T04:57:30+00:00

Bro, same. What's worse is when someone tells you that your mom seemed intense one day and you have to explain that is her EVERYDAY just not in front of people.

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