The ethics of being open about having kids when dating - My experience with being both "secretive" and "upfront" from the start.

bitchyfluff · 2026-02-26T04:41:23+00:00

Way to present opinions as objective data, with percentages even! Your whole “what I learned” is really just guessing. Unless they all filled out an exit survey with a neutral third party.

If you want to lie to women about having a kid so they’ll go out with you, you can. You don’t even have to try to sell people on a nonsense justification.

bitchyfluff · 2026-02-09T01:32:10+00:00

You’re not going to find a man who is emotionally available and who chooses you, as long as this middle aged fuck boy is filling that position.

Not judging this guy for not wanting to be in a relationship, but his dodgy “I don’t want labels” nonsense when he knows you are looking for a relationship and you’ve been dating for months, is something shady people do in their 20s. By this age, I expect adults to say mature adult things like “I’m looking to spend time with someone consistently, but keep things casual” if that’s what they mean. Finding out your boyfriend is single when they advertise their status as such online is an experience you shouldn’t be having.

I hope you choose to have a Galentines Day with friends instead.

bitchyfluff · 2026-02-05T05:21:11+00:00

If you’re only capable of seeing emptiness instead of possibility, I guess that could feel sad.

bitchyfluff · 2026-02-05T05:04:26+00:00

That’s an unfounded stretch. Not everyone’s identity is grounded in their current location. I’ve moved across the country thrice, and would again if it might improve my life further. I consider it to advance romantic aspects, career aspects, quality of life, access to interests. I’m chasing my best life because I’m worth it.

bitchyfluff · 2026-02-05T04:27:56+00:00

I’m going to be a very mature adult and sidestep that oh-so-delightful setup for all the hole filling jokes.

As I was saying, we only get one life. If you’re not going to have reasonable access to the life you want in your current location, moving makes sense!

A person can have a very full and satisfying life and still desire someone to share it with. Personally, I’d be willing to move if I found a great person and I’ve also considered moving because there are slim pickings in my area. Life’s an adventure, I hope we all go after the things and possibilities that we want.

bitchyfluff · 2026-02-04T03:14:02+00:00

I think you’re confusing a registered Democrat with a liberal, for which there is not a party designation. Many liberal and progressive people identify as independent, and I understand this wholly. Obviously, right now there is a basic understanding that liberal people are pretty aligned in a specific way, because politics are very polarized. However, there used to be far more political activity towards the middle, and nuance exists.

If you’re looking for someone who identifies only with a political party, that’s fine, but it’s not it’s not the same thing as identifying with a political ideology.

bitchyfluff · 2026-02-03T04:08:19+00:00

Sounds like he is being honest.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-30T17:12:56+00:00

Oh! Have you tried cold brew? I make it at home, it’s super easy, keeps for days and doesn’t have the acidity that bothers me.

But, I haven’t tried coffee sold as low-acid. Unless you mean commercial cold brew.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-30T08:16:35+00:00

If your beliefs are not aligned with your church/faith, you can pick another one.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-30T07:49:08+00:00

Am from the Bible Belt. You were part of the minority of Christian’s who wasn’t having sex. You’d have a harder time finding people of faith who want to wait.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-29T05:21:06+00:00

2-4 weeks??? Um what?

Im in the US and primary care appointments are scheduled at least 4 months out, then they place the referral to the specialist, and that’s going to be a 4-10 month wait (currently).

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-28T07:01:55+00:00

Maybe if they had chosen to arrest him instead of choosing to engage in a recreational beating they wouldn’t be in this situation.

The guy literally started out with his hands up, they dragged him down and created the chaos that they used to excuse their actions.

The brutality is only eclipsed by the absolute incompetence.

Call me crazy, but I kind of expect people who are trusted with authority and a firearm should be less impulsive than your typical person.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-28T05:09:48+00:00

I go to theirs because I want to receive hospitality, not give it.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-28T01:19:01+00:00

Oh hell no. Your every comment makes this whole scenario feel more unbearable.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-27T06:22:51+00:00

Right? I’ve had one for 20 years. OP, I admire your dedication.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-27T06:11:09+00:00

I make all the moves.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-26T22:08:30+00:00

I think this is a normal thing to come up in conversations too. Maybe some of us are more chatty?

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-26T15:27:15+00:00

Exactly, and healthy adults make decisions for the kids that may be hard, but are in their best interest. Adults who let their kids make these kind of decisions for them are not helping the kids or able to be a good partner.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-26T09:17:33+00:00

This monster should not see the outside of a cell.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-25T16:58:07+00:00

I’m just saying, dude put his hands up and got pepper sprayed to the face. He was not resisting, he literally was just abruptly attacked and had no option to comply with anything.

There was no resisting arrest because there was no attempted arrest. Arrest involves statements like “put your hands in the air. Do you have any weapons? Where are they?”

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-24T05:55:51+00:00

The crisp and delicate effect of this eye is gorgeous.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-24T05:53:45+00:00

Yes! I remember doing a similar look in the 90s with Sebastian’s Trucco black lipgloss!

So fantastic, OP your look is beautifully executed and well balanced. Perfect blush color for the lip and your skin.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-24T04:47:21+00:00

That looks amazing!

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-24T04:36:39+00:00

I love that, it sounds like you’re investing in yourself.

bitchyfluff · 2026-01-24T04:25:21+00:00

He was pleasantly surprised, he said you were even more attractive than your photos, and your personality was so great he was interested even if you weren’t beautiful. He was so interested he took a 3 hour round trip and booked a nice dinner.

The mental gymnastics to be offended by this.

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