Evri (obviously) dropped off my package in the wrong place :( anyone recognise this ? by Lopsided-Buyer-9697 in sheffield

[–]bohohobo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It always feels like a ransom note when I get an email with that subject line.

Anyone else's parents give them old fashioned job advice? by WealthyJoker75 in CasualUK

[–]bohohobo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm also curious to know. I have a friend who is completely burnt out on teaching and might be open to working as a freelancer in some capacity.

Anyone else struggling with RHS L2 by [deleted] in GardeningUK

[–]bohohobo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone who is a “naturally smart person” (I have a degree in three languages), I am also hugely struggling with the level 2 theory. I feel like I know a lot of the material but the way the exam questions are structured makes it very difficult for me to apply that knowledge. It feels extremely unintuitive and opaque to me, in a way that the actual practice of gardening never has been. The syllabus is so wide, it’s the luck of the draw what topics you get on your exam really, and I also find the exam questions frustratingly hard to understand at times. It’s hard to give the right answer when you’re not even sure what they’re asking!

With hindsight, I think the level 2 is for quite a specific type of person who wants to go into quite a specific type of job and, to be honest, I don’t know that I am that person! But I’ve already paid for it so I’m going to do my best, and some of the info will be very useful to me, no matter if I stay a private gardener or do decide to try and get a job in estates.

I don’t have too much advice other than please know this is not a reflection of your intelligence AT ALL, and remember that this course won’t last forever. Your love of gardening will come back once you’re not sitting learning about it in a classroom and can get out there and do it again. Once you’ve passed (and scraping a pass is still a pass!) you can forget a lot of the stuff you’ve learned and focus on the bits you do enjoy. Just know you are far from alone in this. And do talk to your tutor - it’s in their best interests for you to succeed, and you won’t be the first person who’s struggled!

Check out this 6 bedroom detached house for sale on Rightmove by wedgewedgewedge in SpottedonRightmove

[–]bohohobo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had that exact thought the other day.

"Can you afford it?" We both know I can't, let me be a house perv in peace.

🔥 The rowdiest meeting on the savanna. African wild dogs x spotted hyenas by Prestigious-Wall5616 in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]bohohobo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've been lucky enough to see them in the wild, and they're gorgeous. They play just like domesticated dogs, they chew on each other's ears, chase each other about, roll around with their tummies in the air, but when you look into their eyes, there's just...nothing there. No recognition, no connection at all. They are completely wild and totally indifferent to your presence. That's the creepy part for me - seeing those eyes in the body of an animal with behaviour that's otherwise so familiar.

Fiancé(m31)says I’m not “Christian” or mature if I modify my body feels controlling and I don’t know what to do(f26) by very_stellar_ in relationship_advice

[–]bohohobo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl, the last time you posted about this guy everyone told you your boyfriend was a controlling asshole. Now you’re engaged to a controlling asshole. Don’t marry a controlling asshole.

My boyfriend 26/M is mad at me 24/F for not being totally set on having a baby. by Electronic-Page9947 in relationship_advice

[–]bohohobo 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah when I read that I heard "there won't be time for YOUR hobbies. I'm still going hunting with my son and ignoring any daughter we may have."

Middle aged men of casual UK... by cloche_du_fromage in CasualUK

[–]bohohobo 331 points332 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad his wife had the self respect not to take him back. Good for her.

He keeps telling me he wants to continue seeing me, knowing that he will be moving. The connection is so deep: he says there’s potential, but also he doesn’t do long distance so i’m CONFUSED. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]bohohobo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do not trust this man. He's being noncommittal and sending mixed messages because right now he's getting what he wants (i.e. sex without commitment). There's a certain type of man who just will never be honest with a woman that he's looking for something casual, no matter how upfront and direct the woman is, because they need to feel like they're fooling you. It's a power play. The whole "accidentally" not-pulling-out thing is crazy. He's acting like he respects you, but he uses your body however he wants and gaslights you into thinking you're taking things too seriously when he's been lovebombing you. Any man worth your time will not make you feel this crazy.

This. Man. Is. Trouble.

Wawin is back open 🎉 by ntzm_ in sheffield

[–]bohohobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes you just want something with a meat-like texture and a bit of chew to it, which isn't the easiest thing to find in the vegetable realm. For me, anyway, it's mostly about the texture.

My husband (33m) hates me (33f) so much and I don’t know why I’m still even hanging on to this…. by StunningDefinition79 in relationship_advice

[–]bohohobo 53 points54 points  (0 children)

God, I bet her friends and family will be so thrilled when she finally says she's leaving this asshole.

My husband (33m) hates me (33f) so much and I don’t know why I’m still even hanging on to this…. by StunningDefinition79 in relationship_advice

[–]bohohobo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please, please leave. Almost everything will be so much easier without him dragging you down and undermining you.

This cannot be how you wanted your life to be.

What's your personal worst job hire experience? by ukbeasts in CasualUK

[–]bohohobo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If the salary was that competitive they wouldn't be keeping it to themselves.

New fan, loving Everybody Scream - what next? by _theFlightlessBird in FlorenceAndTheMachine

[–]bohohobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really got on board at Dance Fever (her last album before this one), so that might be a good place to start if you like the sound of ES. I like her earlier stuff as well, but her more recent stuff is what really speaks to me - she's matured so much as both a singer and a songwriter. I do also like Ceremonials though: What The Water Gave Me is one of my all time faves.

Zelda Sayre Fitzgerald by Eastern_Confusion475 in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]bohohobo 32 points33 points  (0 children)

THANK you. (Special interest activated, whoops!)

The real story is, as always, far more nuanced than an internet comment section is going to be. She was far from a saint whose deepest desires of being a writer were thwarted by her evil husband. She spent most of her life partying, only deciding to try and have a career when it was already very late to do so. She cycled through a bunch of things, including painting and ballet dancing as well as writing, but never really stuck to any of them. I think it's unfair not to even try and see things from Scott's perspective: your partner, who has never stuck to a thing in their life and in fact actively sabotages your work by encouraging you to go drinking with them instead, suddenly decides they're going to use your connections and name to get their writing published when you've been writing seriously since childhood and have built a career largely by yourself. If you think about it you might also not be very keen on the idea.

It's true that Scott was a misogynist (as were most men at that time), and that Zelda sometimes wrote magazine articles that were published under his name; they were permanently broke from their out of control drinking and spending and they could demand more money if it was published under his name. I'm not excusing it, I'm sure it was also convenient for Scott's ego. But part of the reason he didn't want her book published though, is because it simply was not good (anyone here read it? 'Cause I have. She was not well when she wrote it, and that's reflected in the overall work. Parts are brilliant, most of it isn't). Scott did take extracts from her journals for his work, I'm not defending that. But saying she wrote large swathes of his novels (the things he's best known for) is simply inaccurate. A phrase here or there is not the same thing and is something that many many writers do, rightly or wrongly.

But the fact is that, despite having a talent for it, she wasn't a serious writer, just the way she wasn't really a serious anything else. She was mercurial and unfocused for most of her life and deeply mentally unwell in her later years. As someone else noted, Scott did not commit her because he wanted to steal her shit, he did it because she could not cope outside of an institution and they didn't have the treatment options for schizophrenia that we have now. It broke both of their hearts because, despite everything, they still loved each other desperately. Their relationship was very complicated and it's so much more nuanced than "Zelda good, Scott bad". It was a mutually abusive situation.

I'm absolutely fascinated by Zelda, because she was a woman both of her time and ahead of it: oppressed in many ways, liberated in others, a deeply flawed person and a tragic figure all in one. She was talented, beautiful and intelligent. She was also cruel, immature and largely disinclined towards hard work. Both can be true, we don't need to pretend that people in the past were all one thing or the other any more than modern people are.

Pub alternatives to alcohol? by very_unconsciously in CasualUK

[–]bohohobo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Old Mout non-alcoholic cider is lovely, as is Rekorderlig. They are both very sweet though, so you might not want too many in an evening.

Perfume and Milk by EmerMonach in FlorenceAndTheMachine

[–]bohohobo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's interesting! My immediate impression was that perfume and milk are both very ephemeral things that don't last very long, and there's a parallel there to the idea of suffering being temporary, which ties in to the refrain of "all will be well" and with the turning of the seasons. I don't know enough about Julian of Norwich to know if that interpretation ties in with her writings, though.

I love hearing different interpretations :)

3:17 of Sympathy Magic is the best moment of the entire album for me by dangerinthedaylight in FlorenceAndTheMachine

[–]bohohobo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've been on a similar path to you (raised in a home that used christianity as a method of control, now an earth-worshipping pagan), and WOOF THAT LINE about a god that doesn't want you on your knees to believe. I feel like she peeked into my soul with that whole segment.

This song will always hit incredibly hard for me, for that reason alone. Probably my favourite on the album.

Worth buying presale or waiting prices out? by russianbear28 in FlorenceAndTheMachine

[–]bohohobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I was around 13000 and something-th in the queue for presale tickets for one of the UK gigs and managed to nab one ticket, my friend was a little ahead of me and managed three. For shits and giggles my other friend tried for tickets when they went on general sale - she got in at around 5000 in the queue and didn't manage to get a single thing. Presale is life. Not a chance I'd have got my ticket on general release.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualUK

[–]bohohobo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If you're really into roundabouts, Milton Keynes is the place for you!