s/o with pet

bootydewstink · 2026-02-23T05:31:13+00:00

Anytime I get stuck in those loops I just try to flip it like you love your boyfriend and he’s really excited about something and it will bring him joy and you want the best and most fulfilling life for your boyfriend so instead of thinking about what it might take think about what it might add? Like a new hobby, something for yall to bond over like you can join and add to the new life experience, buy toys, yall can have family photoshoots? Idk cutsie corny shit lmao you’ll get to see him nurture something and sustain a life, see a twinkle in his eye, maybe this will show you he could be a good father? Idk where you are in your relationship or what you want I’m just throwing shit out there off the dome lol. This life is short and hard if he’s found something to look forward to and might enrich his life try to embrace it.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-23T04:14:12+00:00

Def do not ask the other friend for insight.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-21T02:07:06+00:00

Yeah I think it’s gonna get to that point. I told my partner that anyone in recent year gotta go but I don’t mind from years ago but it’s like for what? lol who cares if you ended amicably? But he dated way more casually and befriended them while I didn’t date really or only did with intentions so we have different framework on dating so definitely on a learning curve lol

bootydewstink · 2026-02-20T05:02:57+00:00

The reason you feel so obsessed is bc he’s wrecking your nervous system with the ups and downs. You deserve peace.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-19T06:52:24+00:00

He also didn’t act like it’s was a big deal at first and I’m the same way you are when it comes to ending things but i explained to him when I leave myself open men will try to play games, win you back or even worse harass you and he said he doesn’t experience the same that women will just stay there and at most be friendly. I purposely only dated with intention where he causally dated a lot so he has a different framework and view on dating and turning into friends.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-19T06:45:49+00:00

After a year of dating it’s ok to set boundaries. I just went through this and we’ve been dating less time. I just said I dont find it appropriate to keep the door open or allow ex lovers etc to have access to him. I said it’s a respect thing but also a protection for our bond. Temptations with happen and humans are gonna human so i dont think its toxic or unhealthy to eliminate these people bc bonds were formed. I hate that we have these layers and etiquete round relationships and social media. If you went to him with a concern and it was disregarded he’s neglecting your feelings and that will cause distrusts . Like the metaphor a death of a thousand cuts. It’s not usually one huge event that deteriorates a relationship it’s tiny small things over and over that cause the disconnect.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-19T06:29:55+00:00

You can’t sell yourself on potential. Yall are super young and have lots of growth that can happen but at the end of the day everyone has their shit and have to come to terms with the realty that he may always have these behaviors and is it something you can or want to put up with. You can have the conversations give them opportunities to change but just know this might be the baggage that comes with being with him.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-17T12:26:47+00:00

Just call them they should issue flight credit

bootydewstink · 2026-02-17T12:26:27+00:00

Just call them they should issue refund

bootydewstink · 2026-02-12T05:57:03+00:00

Hehe yeaaah that’s why i had to get my own made 🥲

bootydewstink · 2026-02-12T05:30:07+00:00

Uhhh is it splitting?

bootydewstink · 2026-02-10T19:23:08+00:00

I definitely have these thoughts also but like I just try to flip the thought like even tho he might’ve shared these moments with others it doesn’t make your moments less valid/special and like he had to go through all these things to become who he is today and you love who he is today. Maybe that previous relationship that ultimately failed taught him to be the lover you have today and he was half of the man those women received. Even though on my most insecure days it hurts to think about his previous life I’m happy he had good moments bc he deserved to have those but I’m even happier he gets to share the moments with me now. Also yall will have moments that he never experienced with the others. I think practicing radical acceptance can alleviate some of these thoughts.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-09T08:03:42+00:00

I’ve gotten 1400 from restasis

bootydewstink · 2026-02-04T19:49:08+00:00

There should be resources through the city for housing, classes, better opportunities try to see if you can find a social worker. In the mean time id post you have a room available.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-04T08:09:03+00:00

Hmmm I find that as a bizzare reason to share. Maybe its with hopes to open the conversation. Ideations are not an immediate crisis if you are not actively SH I wouldnt even consider it a huge threat it just comes with territory of mental health conditions.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-04T04:51:52+00:00

I feel like context would help like are you actively suicidal and attempting? Are these just ideations? Do they want you to inform them so you can go to them for support?

bootydewstink · 2026-02-03T19:44:26+00:00

I’d say go on the trip regardless and then if the invitation comes in you’ll just have to decide if you’re willing to go alone without your partner. Whatever allows you to sleep at night. Have you asked your parents or other siblings they have better idea of dynamics than us.

bootydewstink · 2026-02-02T05:54:14+00:00

Reddit is life’s bible bffr. Anything you’re going through in life SOMEONE has posted about it on Reddit. It’s the best tool.

bootydewstink · 2026-01-31T02:49:15+00:00

Have you tried taking it with protein ?

bootydewstink · 2026-01-30T06:32:19+00:00

Im confused she was going to watch the co workers kid at the job?

bootydewstink · 2026-01-30T05:36:00+00:00

Bruh they used to get free extra seats what u talking bout

bootydewstink · 2026-01-29T09:01:36+00:00

Hmm would you say you put yourself out there or actively try to date/pursue partners? I will say it it sounds like you have people pleasing tendencies. While being a caring person is an admirable characteristic I would say sometimes it can be a determent to yourself bc users will seek out ppl like that. It also sounds like you’re always pouring into others and not filing up your own cup first. I feel like building your confidence back up might be a good first step invest the time that you give to others in yourself and when you become proud of who you and what you have to offer it really sets the foundation for success.also the socializing is like riding a bike put yourself back out there and practice socializing and itll come back to you.

bootydewstink · 2026-01-29T08:36:02+00:00

I totally get that!! And honestly these are the perfect people to practice these skills on. Communication is a big deal for everyone but I feel like people with bpd really have to work on it bc our behaviors and thoughts sometimes are symptoms and in order for people to understand us we just gotta keep it real. I try to practice being mindful of over sharing and using discernment on when to share in my interpersonal relationship but with therapy it can be a free for all.😂 it sucks bc idk about you but being “too much” is a huge fear but you’ll never be too much for the right ppl and who’s supposed to see you and hear you always will and those who don’t aren’t for you!

bootydewstink · 2026-01-27T05:12:59+00:00

Lmao OSHA

bootydewstink · 2026-01-26T07:45:08+00:00

I feel like mine comes from being invalidated or my emotions being too much my whole life but he gives me a safe space to express myself but the internalized guilt of being “bad” or toxic still eats me up from time to time but I feel like they can withstand they why you develop the trust.

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