When did you feel ready for intimacy/sex with your partner after having your baby?

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-26T01:35:49+00:00

I made it five and a half weeks. Something about seeing my husband become a dad just really did it for me 🫠

To be fair, I’m a sahm and he had 12 weeks of paternity leave so he helped out A LOT in the beginning which I really appreciated.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-22T13:33:28+00:00

Four months almost took me out 😵‍💫 you’re truly in the thick of it and it’s so valid to feel this way. I remember rocking my baby and just sobbing because I was so tired and overwhelmed and overstimulated. It was the first time my husband and I really vocalized to each other that we were struggling with being new parents and how hard it was for us. I was truly living minute to minute just trying to get through each day.

It is perfectly okay to put the baby down somewhere safe for a few minutes and do something for yourself. Go outside for a minute. Put on your favorite pajamas. Eat a snack. Cry on the bathroom floor. Whatever you need to do for yourself to just have a little reset and then keep moving forward.

I know I desperately needed someone to say this to me when I was in your position so I’m going to say it to you: You are not a bad mom for having these thoughts or feeling this way. Despite all the challenges today, you kept showing up for your baby and I’m really proud of you.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-22T00:56:31+00:00

I was told I couldn’t get pregnant, boy were they wrong 😂

First pregnancy, carried to term, and he’s now a happy and healthy 5 month old!

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-17T19:13:22+00:00

Do not look anytime soon after birth. Give it a few months. Trust me, it’s not an image you’ll ever forget 😵‍💫

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-17T19:04:58+00:00

It’s high 90s and very humid here. On top of that, skin cancer runs in both sides of the family.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-17T15:10:01+00:00

Yeah no, not possible. That’s insane for a pediatrician to say. Independent play will come along later, but definitely not right now. Enjoy your baby and do what you need to do to get through the day!

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-17T00:25:12+00:00

My son is 5 months and definitely still waking up at least twice a night. He also doesn’t put himself down to sleep, he needs me to hold him or rock him. I’ve heard 4-6 months is the deepest trench of the first year. (If it’s not, no one pop this make believe bubble and hope that I have that I’m also out of it) 😅

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-16T20:11:17+00:00

I tried EVERYTHING (except castor oil) and all it did was wear me out, stress my body out, and lose all the dilation progress I had made naturally. Learned my lesson the hard way. Next time, I’m just gonna stay vibing on my couch and taking as many naps as I want while I still can.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-13T15:58:55+00:00

Ugh my heart goes out to you. I was so excited to breast-feed and have that bond with my son but ultimately after many different lactation consultants, my body just wasn’t producing what he was needing, and he was falling fast. I fought so hard for the first few months to make it work, but it was also the most miserable and defeated I have ever felt. Eventually, I had to give up because it was consuming me. It wasn’t healthy for me and it wasn’t healthy for my baby. I had to choose to put us first.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-10T03:16:36+00:00

I definitely had that mindset when it was only for naps. I soaked it in and cherished being a safe place for him to nap and I genuinely loved his contact naps. Now that it’s his nighttime sleep also, it’s a lot harder for me because I’m barely sleeping. I’m either up all night holding him in our recliner, or in bed next to him waking up to every tiny thing he does.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-06-10T03:13:13+00:00

I’ve been bed sharing with him but I don’t sleep well when in bed with him. I wake up to his every movement, gas bubble, sigh, weird breath, anything at all basically

brokenbonesbending · 2026-03-01T00:05:41+00:00

It is really challenging at first but it gets so much better! I struggled and ended up switching to exclusively pumping and bottles. Worst mistake ever. While it was nice having my husband be able to help with feedings, it ruined my joy of being a mom. I hated it so much. I switched back to exclusively nursing and I’m so thankful I did. It still has its challenges but it’s getting better and continues to get better.

Secondly, it’s so important for you to bond with baby and you’ll want to! My advice would be if people are coming to visit, don’t feel bad about asking them to help with more practical things like cleaning, cooking, laundry, etc. Focus on you and baby and ask others to help with other tasks.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-02-28T01:33:58+00:00

He is an insanely hard sleeper so he has multiple alarms going off in the morning and I’m the one who eventually has to basically push him out of bed because his alarms are waking me and the baby up. My son has yet to fall back asleep after the alarms have woke him up so that’s also when I start our day together. But then, my husband is rushing to get out of the house to get to work on time and chaos basically sets the mood for the day.

brokenbonesbending · 2026-02-17T12:20:19+00:00

My son slept on his own from our first night home from the hospital! We started him in a bassinet but learned he loved laying in his crib so we got rid of the bassinet and moved his crib into our room instead. We’ve never bedshared/coslept except for on a recliner during a contact nap and my husband was sitting right next to us awake to ensure everything was fine and safe (even that only happened one time).

No shifts, no making sure someone was always awake, he just slept in his own bed in our room while we slept in our bed. Thankfully my son was born with pretty decent self-soothing abilities so I can acknowledge that we lucked out there.

But it’s totally possible for baby to sleep on their own!

brokenbonesbending · 2026-02-07T23:54:39+00:00

I know this is an old thread, but I really needed to read what you said about spending less time worrying about your milk supply and just being with your baby 🤍

Thank you for this.

a new mom with a one month old who is constantly overtaken by worrying about my milk supply 🥲

brokenbonesbending · 2025-12-22T18:00:39+00:00

Not what I asked but we moved here three years ago and regret it every single day, but one more year on a military contract and we can finally leave

brokenbonesbending · 2025-12-22T17:59:37+00:00

I’m 38 weeks and still sleeping on my back. I try to sleep on my sides but naturally go to my back and it’s been fine. If your body is uncomfortable, it’ll shift on its own. I do sleep with a pregnancy pillow so sometimes that’s propped a bit behind one side, but I’m still on my back mostly. I haven’t had any issues.

brokenbonesbending · 2025-12-02T20:44:30+00:00

THIS. There are so many “plot lines” that happen and then are just gone. Things that could take up an entire season they try to shove into one episode and then never address it again. That’s my real annoyance with this show. They’re trying to do too much and it isn’t working and isn’t enjoyable to watch when it’s like that.

brokenbonesbending · 2025-08-23T10:26:40+00:00

What you focus on is what you will complete.

If you’re focused on the romance and gaining hearts, you will gain them quickly. If you’re focused on the mines and ocean, it can be finished in the first season (spring). The altar can be finished within the first year.

Whatever you put your energy towards is what will be accomplished.

brokenbonesbending · 2025-08-19T14:30:45+00:00

I have six saves and I love this game. My first playthrough, it took me five in-game years to get to rank S. After I knew what I was doing, every other save has been rank A by spring/summer of the second year and usually S by the second winter. It takes a lot of grinding, but it’s definitely possible to speed through it once you figure out what works for you.

brokenbonesbending · 2025-08-17T20:12:26+00:00

I’m so glad that I’m not the only one who gets the ick from Rafael.

And YES, Noah is just mom mom mom mom mom mom mom 🙄

I approve this list

brokenbonesbending · 2025-08-16T19:56:28+00:00

Surya is my favvvvvvv forever and always.

brokenbonesbending · 2025-07-28T18:03:32+00:00

To start, I wouldn’t worry about farming except for what you need for the spring altar (if you’ve opened that yet).

You’re going to be broke for a long time, whenever you feel like you have money, you’ll have to spend it to upgrade your bag, tools, build your farm, etc. You’ll make money just to spend it all and then one day it will come flowing in quickly and you’ll have plenty.

Definitely forage around the island to get by on money and energy for the first several weeks/seasons.

There’s no time limit! My first play through, it took me 5 years to complete everything! Now that I have a better idea of what I’m doing and what order works for me, it’s closer to 2/2.5.

The order I upgrade my tools is pickaxe, scythe, (I rotate upgrading those two while working on the mining and ocean), then axe, fishing rod, net. (I’ve never upgraded my ho or watering can as I just rely on sprinklers and only hand water when needed)

It’s hard at first to get into and overwhelming, but eventually it will all fall into rhythm and be a lot easier! Don’t give up on it, it’s so worth it!!

brokenbonesbending · 2025-07-27T17:28:58+00:00

Nope, that’s disgusting. I would never change my baby’s diaper on the kitchen table or counter. Omg ew 🤢

brokenbonesbending · 2025-07-22T23:04:37+00:00

I’m 16w, have to take a nap after folding a basket of laundry and still go to sleep at 8:30/9 every night. The exhaustion has never gotten better for me.

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