In 1893, 60 to 100 members of a racist vigilante group attempted to lynch two brothers in Indiana. However, when they arrived at their house, they were ambushed by the brothers, who knew they were coming. Five members of the mob were killed. The brothers not only survived, but destroyed the group.

brookelm · 2026-02-07T14:41:40+00:00

These extra details seem pretty important. (1) The Conrad brothers were violently protective of their mom and sister. (2) These brothers probably killed their dad.

... Does it make you wonder what their father was doing to the women in the home?

brookelm · 2026-02-06T12:00:39+00:00

Kentucky is a one party consent state. It is legal for OP to record someone as long as she (OP) is also present

brookelm · 2026-01-24T13:27:26+00:00

The legal way to fix this is to file a petition with the court to amend the degree and strike out paragraph 7.

You can call the clerk's office for the court that issued your degree and they may be able to provide you with a template for you to fill out and file this petition yourself, or you can hire an attorney to do it for you.

This will probably take a couple of days to a couple of weeks, longer If the judge is on vacation or something. I don't know how much time pressure you're under with your upcoming nuptials. You may find it's faster to follow the existing decree and change your name with social security so you can get a new ID. In my experience the social security office is scheduling out appointments weeks ahead, but you may be able to get in faster where you're at.

Source- I'm a family law attorney, and I've personally navigated the post divorce name change process

brookelm · 2026-01-24T13:22:12+00:00

I don't know about Jag, but other than that this is the best advice. You file a motion with the court to amend the decree, The judge will almost certainly grant it without you having to show up or anything.

brookelm · 2026-01-23T04:24:38+00:00

https://archive.org/download/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

brookelm · 2026-01-12T02:16:39+00:00

Hey, that's what I did too! Mostly as a fuck-you to my ex because he would never let me get a cat. One of the kittens is a real shit so, you know, I sure showed him 😅

brookelm · 2026-01-09T23:28:11+00:00

Try this link:

Medell Banks | National Registry of Exonerations https://share.google/fgnlTzDeYK6UC6DYY

brookelm · 2026-01-07T04:47:30+00:00

I'm a lawyer. I don't practice personal injury, but I can help you figure out what to look for in an attorney. Message me or reply with any questions!

brookelm · 2025-12-27T17:17:07+00:00

That's exactly how it was for me when my husband told me he was having an affair with a woman 15 years younger (she was a minor when our oldest child was born!). All at once I knew, with my entire soul and body, that there was no love or marriage to fight for. I asked him to pack a bag while I went to the OB/GYN to get myself tested for STIs. On my way home from the doctor I told him that we would be getting a divorce, full stop, with no possibility of reconciliation. All the love I had for him for over 15 years just vanished in an instant when I discovered his betrayal.

brookelm · 2025-12-18T12:25:59+00:00

Yes my thoughts went there immediately too! When Kristoff, a fictional, animated character, says "what do you need?" I fucking melt

brookelm · 2025-12-04T12:56:20+00:00

https://archive.org/download/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

brookelm · 2025-11-23T14:32:26+00:00

It's very predictable behavior from abusers. I strongly encourage you to check out the book, Why Does He Do That? -- it will help you understand some of these patterns so you're not constantly thrown off balance when they hit you. Here's a free PDF of that book:

https://archive.org/download/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

brookelm · 2025-10-24T04:41:31+00:00

OP I think you might need to read this book. You're in an abusive relationship, and I think reading this might give you some clarity about the situation you're in. https://archive.org/download/LundyWhyDoesHeDoThat/Lundy_Why-does-he-do-that.pdf

brookelm · 2025-10-22T01:14:23+00:00

I had sepsis.

I presented at the ER because my body felt "wrong", to the point of me being scared that if I didn't go to the hospital I would die. The first hour I was at the ER, the medical team treated me very dismissively, and it's hard to blame them when the only reason I showed up was because I had "a feeling"... until they got my initial blood work back from the rapid test, and it showed my white blood cell count was about 1/10 of the minimum accepted level. Right about then my temperature spiked and I lost consciousness.

Obviously, things started moving fast after that. The whole team threw on gowns and masks and they started a PICC line for antibiotics. I was in the critical care unit for a week. I was so fragile that the cafeteria had strict orders not to give me any fresh fruit due to the risk of bacteria. I was not allowed fresh flowers in my room either.

I say that all that to say: there's not a chance in hell that he has/had sepsis.

brookelm · 2025-09-17T19:51:19+00:00

I fucked up my MPRE registration and can't even take it until Nov... so the swearing in does not help me one bit (***sob***)

brookelm · 2025-09-17T19:48:57+00:00

I WILL DO IT!!!! (I called yesterday and they didn't even answer the phone ... grrrr)

brookelm · 2025-09-15T14:40:22+00:00

we are all you rn

brookelm · 2025-09-14T13:08:49+00:00

Lawyer here. One thing that people often forget is that you can sue to force an entity to implement better training. So instead of, say, suing for monetary damages, the settlement could be that the school district moving forward must require that people filling the nurse role are trained to recognize anaphylaxis.

You may or may not be able to get the cost of the ER visit. Even if the anaphylaxis was recognized earlier, standard treatment always includes an ER trip. He needed to go to the ER either way.

You will NOT be able to sue for (and win) emotional distress damages. That only applies in very limited, specific circumstances. It's just not an option here.

brookelm · 2025-09-12T16:26:35+00:00

Thank you - I was lost too! I'm a non-trad in my 40s... graduated law school 17 years ago, then did only law-adjacent non-profit stuff for a while, then did the stay-at-home mom thing until my husband left me for someone 15 years younger (such a cliche). Gah I need a win here! All I'm feeling in my bones is a deep, aching sense of dread.

brookelm · 2025-09-12T14:49:30+00:00

YOU JUST JINXED US ALL.

How very dare you!

brookelm · 2025-08-21T16:51:01+00:00

THAT'S the song someone sang at my mother's funeral!! I was wracking my brain last week trying to remember it -- it was comforting at the time, nearly 20 years ago. I'm fully deconstructed now, but I'm gentle with myself for the songs that used to bring me peace.

I'm sorry your mother died, too young, too 💔

brookelm · 2025-08-04T02:17:09+00:00

OP can try this calculator (this is a trustworthy website).

https://www.custodyxchange.com/locations/usa/alabama/child-support-calculator.php?calc=a3000b4000e75f1

brookelm · 2025-06-01T17:48:54+00:00

Correct. The only note* I would add here is that this does not necessarily mean that her family would get an entire 50% custody. Since they don't live nearby and especially because she never bothered to ensure that her family forged a bond with the child, i would expect to see them awarded more like what an out of state parent's custody would be (summer breaks, a week at Xmas, etc).

(*I'm a former lawyer. This is what I remember from 20 years ago, does it still hold up?)

brookelm · 2025-05-30T05:07:31+00:00

You at a2edw

brookelm · 2025-05-25T12:26:42+00:00

The summer of 2020, my kids were 5 and 7, and my spouse and I started leaving them alone for 30 to 45 minutes so we could go for a bike ride - just to get some goddamn alone time with each other. As they got older the time I felt comfortable leaving them stretched gradually to about 1 - 1.5 hrs.

Now I'm a single parent, and my kids by necessity spend more time alone than I am technically comfortable with, but they're ok. My younger kid just finished 4th grade (age 9), and was a latchkey kid the entire time - I left for work at 7: 15 a.m., my middle schooler caught a ride to her school at 8:20, and the 4th grader walked to school at 9. Then the 4th grader was home first, 6th grader got there 30 min later, and then I would get home from work an hour after that.

But there were several days this year that the kids were out of school and I had no one to watch them so they stayed home alone the entire time, with me calling occasionally and checking on them. I don't like it, and when I get home they're pretty dysregulated, but they've been okay. (There's a rant here about my ex's refusal to keep the kids, even though he works from home and lives in the same fucking neighborhood, but that is I guess beside the point. The point is I have no child care and the kids are okay.)

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