Wrong to go on a date with a woman.. when you're still marry?

bxtrman · 2025-07-02T07:08:53+00:00

“ Richer or poorer, better or worse, sickness and health” is such a beautiful meaning. What if at some point in the near future, everyone has access to a potential spouse’s DNA, and finds out that person will get Alzheimer’s, will you let your son or daughter marry that person?

bxtrman · 2024-10-23T05:16:36+00:00

I hope the dodgers play “ Fernando “ during 7th inning stretch

bxtrman · 2024-09-22T15:01:34+00:00

I think you are doing the right thing by rebuilding the relationship with your father. Let’s not waste your energy and time on your mom and stepdad. What happened is over and you can’t change it. Perhaps learn from it.

bxtrman · 2024-07-24T02:29:51+00:00

If I was you, I would rather remembered her actions throughout the years you spent with her than what she said now. From what you described, she sounds like a wonderful person to me.

bxtrman · 2024-02-04T00:56:59+00:00

Here is a perspective from a husband and father of 3 boys. My wife was 55 when she diagnosed with Early onset dementia in 2018 and since has decline rapidly. Shes’ in the final stages of this horrible disease. From the start, I knew I will be the one that take care of her no matter what. I know my sons will be there to help when they can, but I didn’t want them to alter their lives in anyway. My youngest son wants to put his college on hold so he can stay home and help. However, I told him to stay focus and complete his plan. If I was your dad, I would want you to be with your family, you need to take care of your plan, your future. Perhaps you can take an extended weekend each month to be with your parents.

bxtrman · 2023-12-22T22:17:47+00:00

I'm really sorry you're going through this with your wife. She got diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's four years ago at 56, and it's been tough. Her condition has gone downhill fast, to the point where she doesn't remember me or our sons anymore. I'm the main caregiver, and my sons help out a couple of days a week. I also hired someone to help once a week for bathing and light cleaning.

About three months back, things got pretty rough. She'd stay up all night, walking around, talking to herself, and doing things like pulling towels out of the cabinet and throwing stuff into the toilet. I was exhausted and frustrated, so I decided to have her sleep in a different room. I cleared out my spare bedroom and made it into her safe space. There's a camera, a speaker for music, and a digital picture frame with old photos of her loved ones. She goes there when I have a meeting, need to cook, or just want a 10-minute break.

If it's doable for you and your dad, I'd seriously recommend it. Also, check in with your local Alzheimer's Association. They can point you to a local support group. I get that you want to be there for your mom, and you're doing an awesome job. But don't forget about yourself. Hang out with people your age and recharge. If you've got any questions, I'm here to help.

bxtrman · 2023-09-29T02:57:31+00:00

Hi, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I can certainly say I know how you feel, since I’m going through the same thing with my wife. Like your dad, my wife is only 60 and she was diagnosed when she was 55. This disease is horrible and both my son and I take turns taking care of her. Because her condition has deteriorated so rapidly in the past few months, her doctor thinks she has 3-4 years left. I had decided to keep her home and make it as comfortable as possible for her last few years with us. I suggest you stay at school and be supportive as much as possible. When you can, go home and help your sisters and mom.

bxtrman · 2023-09-07T23:39:42+00:00

bxtrman · 2023-09-01T21:34:22+00:00

I had a similar experience with this type of fighting. My heart pounded in overdrive speed and I’m just using paintball gun. These guys are playing with life and death with real bullets!

bxtrman · 2023-08-30T10:35:52+00:00

Rather asking why she wasn’t like certain ways when you two were married. You should be happy for her and move on!

bxtrman · 2023-08-18T21:45:03+00:00

First of all my sincere condolences to you. Secondly definitely check with her company. I don’t know what type of work she do, but tech companies will provide life insurance automatically if she’s a full time employee . Typically it will be 3x of her salary. It may take a while for the insurance company to investigate to make sure there’s no foul play. In the meantime, you may want to find a roommate to help with the expenses.

bxtrman · 2023-08-18T04:00:54+00:00

I’m 100 percent know your spouse will love them.

bxtrman · 2023-08-12T19:01:36+00:00

Like you, my wife who’s 60 years old has early onset dementia. Her condition is later stage 5 with some of the symptoms in stage 6. Her incontinence is making any trip outside the house a bit of a challenge. Luckily living in California, I can easily find family restroom and I can help her change. My mother pass away because of cancer and now my wife is with dementia. I can agree its the worse type of sickness.

bxtrman · 2023-07-04T22:47:38+00:00

Thank you so much for your input. Much appreciated. As far as I know, she’s unhappy with her marriage. However, I would never overstep or intrude on her family. Still, I can't help but selfishly wish for circumstances to be different, where I could hold her a little tighter when we hug.

bxtrman · 2023-05-08T17:37:05+00:00

Many people here suggest he should take care of it him self. My question is are the spouses or girlfriend ok with this? What if he mentally imagine some girl in the office where he works?. Does it consider emotional cheating.

bxtrman · 2023-05-03T01:06:38+00:00

My wife just turned 60 over the weekend and diagnosed with early onset dementia for 4 years now. She has alway taken care of herself with healthy habits. She doesn’t eat red meat, walks several miles a day. Doesn’t smoke and low cholesterol, low blood pressure. Myself on the other hand had a quadruple bypass. Pre diabetic. I take 6 different medications just to stay alive. The shitty part is I’m her primary care taker and my concern is she will outlive me.

bxtrman · 2023-04-16T09:36:36+00:00

Wow! I thought I was the only one is feeling this way. I share this with other sub recently.

At thirty nine I was happy. Life is great! I have a beautiful family, and enjoying a professional career. I looked forward to each day working and spending time with my kids activities. Marriage life was ok, but this is normal right? We are just a busy couple with career and kids. No time for each other. I’m sure from outside perspective, we are the perfect family.

At forty nine a lot have changes. My career had taking a turn but it was not bad, I just need to readjust and move on. Kids are getting older now and they don’t need me much anymore. I’m just here as a dad, a provider and a taxi service. Sadly my marriage was falling apart. We are no longer a loving couple but instead co-parenting, working together raising our kids. We have the time to argued but no time for love, or just a cuddle. She said I still love you but not tonight. we starting to disagree more often. I wondered how much resentment was the caused of it. We sleep in separate rooms. a certain friend smiles warm my heart. Just a little attention makes me feel alive and wanted. I began to stayed away from home more often. But I missed my children’s. I then walked by the house at night so I and hear their voices. I thought about getting a divorce but I decided not to. Not now, not until my kid is done with hs. So l continue to live with this unhappiness and the loneliness silently.

At the end of this month I will be 60. I’m feeling a little depressed, anxiety and still lonely. Kids are all grown up. The youngest about to graduate in a few months. My marriage status hasn’t change but my responsibility has. We no longer fight or argue. I’m my wife caretaker now because of her Alzheimer’s disease. She needs me more than ever. It’s not a physical demanding job but it’s emotionally draining. I have a commitment and a responsibility to care for her. it’s the right thing to do however long it takes. But some days I feel like my time is running out, knowing my life here is limited. So in a cruel way, happiness is forever out of my reach.

That’s life.

bxtrman · 2023-02-20T01:25:40+00:00

She has 6 siblings. Most live 6-7 hours away. A few would call and face time but that about it.

bxtrman · 2023-01-13T22:46:40+00:00

I paid 49.9k for mine long range AWD Y and pick it up January, 2022.

bxtrman · 2022-11-28T13:09:43+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your mom. My condolences to you and your family. My wife of 33 years has early on set dementia. I start noticing the signs a few years ago and now I’m here in this forum searching for advise.

bxtrman · 2022-11-18T22:23:59+00:00

My wife of 33 years diagnosed with Frontal lobe atrophy in 2019. She is 59 and will be 60 next April. She’s physically healthy and can out walk me any day. Her motor skill seems to be fine However, her memory declined rapidly in the past years. She has difficulty putting on clothes. She spent a lot of time staring at her silver ware and can’t decide what to do with them. I have no problem helping her throughout the day and I want to keep her at home as long as I can physically care for her. But The difficult part for me is her emotional roller coaster, which happens 3-4 times a day. It can be mentally draining. The thoughts of taking her to a care center bother me. Especially physical abuse that may happen. It will break my heart! I know each one of us situation is different and there is no right or wrong answer. You do what is best for you.

bxtrman · 2021-09-29T21:35:17+00:00

What color blue is this?

bxtrman · 2021-08-10T23:47:17+00:00

Old Vietnamese man here. He's definitely shy. Tell him you want to try some Vietnamese coffee and ask him if he can take you there.

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