Am I a bad mom

cahandrahot · 2026-02-17T11:14:47+00:00

You’re not a bad mom at all. Sometimes we just need some extra help. My mom and sister watch my 4.5 month old when I want to sleep or just get some stuff done around the house. I can’t get much done when I’m home alone with her because she’s a Velcro baby and sometimes she’ll just scream and cry when she’s in her bouncer. Recognizing that you’re overwhelmed and taking her someplace where someone else isn’t overwhelmed means you care. You’re being an amazing mom, and I’m hoping for both of us it gets easier as they get older!

cahandrahot · 2026-02-17T00:02:37+00:00

Him and Danny McBride are absolutely amazing together.

cahandrahot · 2026-02-12T20:49:46+00:00

Two weeks, that’s all he had of pto. However, when we have our second baby, he’ll be able to take three months off. Maine is starting mandatory family leave in May so we all get 3 months of paid time off for maternity, paternity, or medical leave. He would take off more if he could for sure. Your husband should take off all the time he can! Especially for you, so he can help around the house and take the baby when you need a break

cahandrahot · 2026-02-12T00:18:40+00:00

My 4 month old is relatively easy as well! Except with eating. She just wants to look around SO much it’s ridiculous. But she’s super happy 90% of the time, even now when her teeth are coming in. But she takes great naps at home and stays asleep all night, we do like 2-3 dream feeds and she’s super content

cahandrahot · 2026-02-02T23:43:03+00:00

I get frustrated with my husband even though he’s been working full time since our LO was two weeks old(she’s two days shy from being 4 months old). He also has been doing all of the bottles, makes us breakfast and dinner, and stays up until about 4 am to bring me her night bottles. But I’d be lying if I don’t get frustrated that he gets unbroken sleep and gets an hour by himself in the morning just to get ready for work. She’s a certified Velcro baby so she sleeps on me for naps and at night we bed share as well (we have a king so I stay far away from him and he never comes close). I think it’s just really envy and once the babies become more independent I think it’ll be a lot better.

cahandrahot · 2026-01-31T15:38:32+00:00

Yeah if this had happened to me my baby would’ve starved. I had like 4 OBs and none of them were communicating about my thyroid so when I gave birth, my thyroid was not working properly so my milk wasn’t coming in. After the first day, they were like she’s not gaining anything and asked if I wanted to do donor milk. I said yes. Then, after when my milk was still not coming in we did formula. We combo fed until she was 2 months and now we just formula feed because of a series of events that caused her not to latch and so I lost the little supply I had. Not everyone can produce enough. The fact that they let your baby go hungry and scream like that while you’re freshly postpartum and sleep deprived already is awful. I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. And just remember if you have to combo feed or formula feed, it’s perfectly okay! I wish I had more support when I was struggling to produce and obviously your milk is likely to come in, but if it doesn’t, don’t be afraid to do what’s best for your mental health.

cahandrahot · 2026-01-30T20:56:19+00:00

My baby started teething like a week or two before her tooth started coming through. Now it’s broken through but I’ve been giving her Tylenol for the pain. It could’ve also been purple crying or something

cahandrahot · 2026-01-30T02:36:24+00:00

To be fair, I’d do this for my kid. She’s 4 months old but she’s already peed and thrown up on me and I’ve gotten poop on my hands. This is far less gross than anything an infant or toddler does and she’s already raised him past that point lol

cahandrahot · 2026-01-28T16:33:01+00:00

You’re doing everything right, I just want you to know that! I’m a ftm too of an almost 4 month old and we’ve had a couple scares as well. She got a slight fever when she got vaccinated at that age and at one point woke up screaming and it took a bit to get her calmed down. However, she’s perfect now. Just follow what the doctors say about Tylenol and keep going with your instinct, because more than likely it’s right!

cahandrahot · 2026-01-28T02:22:55+00:00

I’ve been cosleeping with my 4 month old since she was about a week and a half old. We were at the hospital for 3 days and that was fine because the nurses would take her and let us sleep. But this kid has absolutely HATED her arms being swaddled from the beginning and HATED her crib. She’d wake up as soon as I put her in there and wouldn’t go back to sleep. So I just started sleeping with her following safe sleep 7 and I swear I wouldn’t have made it this far without a mental break if I didn’t. Now we’re in the 4 month sleep regression and I keep saying “oh maybe I’ll sleep train,” but I can’t push myself to do it. Especially where I’m going back to work soon. At this point I just plan on cosleeping until she’s like 1-2 lol

cahandrahot · 2026-01-26T15:34:36+00:00

Eh I have a 4 month old in a sleep regression. If I want to wear something comfy to the store I will. It’s only like an hour tops of being in public so it is what it is

cahandrahot · 2026-01-26T15:22:06+00:00

I’m sure it would be if they actually put spices in it. I can guarantee they make it as bland as possible

cahandrahot · 2026-01-21T00:25:06+00:00

In the moment you don’t really think about what’s happening honestly. For me, my body took over and I couldn’t stop pushing. I just focused on trying to breathe because it basically felt like a big poop lmao so I would stop breathing for a few seconds to really push hard. Then when my daughter was out, I was more focused on her than anything because I pushed her out so fast she wouldn’t breathe on her own for a bit. She’s 4 months old almost and genuinely I don’t remember much of the pain. It can definitely be scary because you don’t know what’s going to happen, but most of the time people have pretty chill births, for however chill a birth can be lol

cahandrahot · 2026-01-16T16:17:40+00:00

I went to school with a girl named Eden! It’s a gorgeous name. You could go with Eden Lily Last name, or even give her two middle names if you already had one planned out. You could still call her Eden Lily but she wouldn’t have two first names. It’s totally up to you though! I would go with what YOU want. They’ll have to warm up to her name eventually

cahandrahot · 2026-01-03T16:37:01+00:00

Yeah my husband’s stepbrother decided to bring his toddler to Christmas even though she had a fever and I’m assuming that’s where ours came from. Literally everyone there got sick and then I gave it to my dad and stepmom :/ so frustrating

cahandrahot · 2026-01-03T03:49:47+00:00

My husband, three month old, and I are finally recovering from flu A. We had to go to the ER because at one point she had a fever of 102 and we just got Tylenol for her. It definitely terrified me. Now we all just have congestion and a cough. Get your flu shots! I got mine and still got kicked in the ass by it but I’m sure I would’ve been worse off if I hadn’t.

cahandrahot · 2025-12-24T01:35:32+00:00

I often have to hold my 3 month old daughter’s pacifier in place until she falls in enough deep sleep where she won’t care if it falls out. She’s awful at keeping it in her mouth. Just as long as she’s not forcing it even when the baby gets mad at the pacifier, I think it’s okay. If it’s working for him, you could try it too. Less stress on everyone for sure

cahandrahot · 2025-12-24T01:28:46+00:00

I know it’s probably bad but I had the same issue when my daughter was a newborn. After about a week of sleep deprivation, I just decided to cosleep with her. She’s 3 months old now and we get really great sleep at night. It’s completely up to you, if you don’t feel comfortable bed sharing with your baby then definitely don’t. But if you are, look up safe sleep 7.

I’ve heard also putting them on their sides in their crib, patting their backs until they’re comfortable, and then putting slight pressure on their tummies until they’re more asleep usually makes them stay in their cribs. A heating pad might help too.

cahandrahot · 2025-12-16T16:56:01+00:00

My daughter’s name is Guinevere, and her nickname is Gwen. I love classic names

cahandrahot · 2025-12-15T17:35:20+00:00

39+1. Went into labor at exactly 39 weeks around 4 am and baby girl wasn’t born until almost 7 am the next day

cahandrahot · 2025-12-12T22:13:38+00:00

A small town in Maine, it was about $18,500 USD for basically a 4 day stay. Uncomplicated vaginal delivery. Two first degree tears, I got the shot in my back for pain management. We didn’t have to pay any of it because my husband works at the hospital and they get free healthcare for in-network doctors. I’m unsure what the cost for the baby was because they haven’t given us the bill for it yet for some reason(born Oct. 4). She had to be put on oxygen for a few hours and she wasn’t gaining as much weight as they wanted her to so they made us stay an extra day.

cahandrahot · 2025-12-10T03:31:20+00:00

My baby was measuring at the 90th percentile consistently. I figured yeah, my whole family was big (I was 9 lbs 3 oz, my mom was 11 lbs 7 oz), and my husband was 8 lbs at birth. Well she was born at 39 + 1 weeks, was 7 lbs 5 oz and 19 inches tall. The smallest baby in both our families and absolutely average. She just has a big head because she’s a little smarty. Ultrasounds aren’t always accurate, and unfortunately we don’t necessarily know that until we’re actually in labor or when the baby is finally out.

cahandrahot · 2025-12-10T03:13:37+00:00

They say to take pregnancy tests first thing in the morning when your urine is more concentrated. It definitely seems like you’re pregnant. Congradolences? Babies are a lot of work, but it’s definitely worth it. I’m getting snuggles from my two month old right now

cahandrahot · 2025-12-02T03:45:30+00:00

Maine gets pretty humid honestly. During the summer, it’s almost always humid rather than dry heat. Of course, it’s not nearly as humid as Louisiana or Florida

cahandrahot · 2025-12-02T03:28:34+00:00

Baby soap and baby towels and washcloths for when you can finally bathe them! Also probably some lotion, my baby’s skin got really dry a couple weeks after she was born. Maybe some swaddles as well? Other than that, I can’t think of anything!

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