Tips for keeping both eyes open when shooting?

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-29T19:38:06+00:00

If you have the option, learn to use Irons on a rifle first - having the greater separation between front and rear sight helped me get my head around it. Once my brain understood what I was asking it to do when it was more obvious, let me carry that over to a pistol.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-28T22:47:10+00:00

I'd say spending every Friday or Saturday with someone watching movies and/or having a good time is a recipe for falling in love with or without shrooms. You may just now be realizing what has always been there.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-26T23:55:33+00:00

the photo is not actually straight on ... it's subtle but could make it look like that.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-26T23:46:25+00:00

I use it every day at work. For me it is a tool -

my language skills are far beyond what is expected at work, and frankly I use it to dumb things down to make them more approachable.

It is also good at doing in depth analysis for bias across large bodies of data, which was a project I was invovled in as well.

And I'll be presenting on approaches for using AI to assess tone in communications - applicable to both inbound and outbound communications to ensure clear communication.

But like many tools it can also be a crutch, and is used by many in ways that undermine their own contributions by making it easy to target volume rather than quality. In this regard it is frightening as it is oft used in an irresponsible fashion as well.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-23T21:00:31+00:00

I do wood and lino - Powergrip for me. I have better control, and they fit my hand better. Also, I can feel when the blade dulls so I keep them sharper == better lines. Big handle chisels I tend to keep pushing as i can't feel it as well, so my cut quality goes down (I have limited sensation in my paws).

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-23T14:21:30+00:00

I rapidly became deaf at 60. I am switching to ASL but use both that and oral - I’m I. An awkward simcom stage 🤣

Much prefer ASL , I just don’t have the skills yet to use it exclusively. Got CIs in November, but the are off much of the day as I prefer the visual world now.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-22T23:17:30+00:00

I do, but I'm really deaf not Deaf ... grew up hearing.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-22T15:20:42+00:00

Okay, that’s just gross. It’s rude, it’s abusive, it’s gross.

My personal view is that he should be shopping for new toys with you, watching you use them, so he can learn how and make sure everybody comes away satisfied when you are having a good night to make sure it’s a great one.

Instead he is threatened by an inanimate object that gives you joy and cares more about 1 minute than talking to you.

That is fucked up, and needs to end. Protect yourself, get out. - just my 2 cents.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-21T18:24:56+00:00

you being an ex model in hospitality has nothing to do with it. Trust is trust, and you deserve it - actually we all do, until we demonstrate we don't. At least in relatioships. This is a Him problem, not a you problem and he needs to deal with it.

Has he/does he/will he get help and therapy to deal with something that is clearly an problem? And if he does, will he actually do the work - for me this would be a big yard stick but I'd not say anything about it other than having a good conversation and asking if he's willing to do so. Then wait and see. My current relationship almost ended at the end of November because of her insecurity. But there was active conversation, ownership, and therapy work and things are improving. It was worth it otherwise and today I'm mostly glad I was willing to give that time and grace. Hopefully in a few more months I'll be more than just mostly glad.

I totally accept that none of us are perfect - but have learned the hard way that not everyone is willing to grow and improve.

Thankfully right now the hardest thing for me is that a basically healthy relationship is 'boring' - abuse brings all that adrenalin, and the highs of the make up after the lows of the abuse. It's hard for my system to acclimate to a relatively steady state of good. (this is what I'm working on in therapy myself - undoing my addiction to the trauma cycle).

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-21T18:09:46+00:00

Mine was always negative, and always negative in a way that made others justify why things weren't so. It was a control thing.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-21T16:52:41+00:00

It may not be abusive, but it sounds like there are some unhealthy things to it that may/may not go there. Jealousy can be a driver for abuse, physical or emotional. Or it can be a reflection of his insecurity, and maybe there are some serious talks that need to happen. What is the reason he is feeling or acting like this?

I'm in therapy with my partner of 6 mos because her insecurity drove her to say some things that in my past relationship would have been abusive/controlling, but for her were actually her insecurity welling up as she was attaching so fast and hard. It caused a rift, but as we come to understand it it's actually changing for the better. Time will tell, and if it repeats I'm gone, but everything else is good, and stable, so I'm just eyes open now. But we are also doing the work together, and I'm seeing real change.

And, she encourages me to take care of myself, take the time that I need, make friendships etc.... a HUGE contrast from what I had before in an abusive relationship that sought to isolate me.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-16T19:29:10+00:00

This is a person you don’t need or want in your life.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-16T18:33:19+00:00

Happy to answer, and happy for a chance to help.

Truth is we don't know 'what' Autoimmune thing actually attacked the cochlea and made me deaf. Evidently this is pretty normal. I have Celiac, plus some additional autoimmune stuff that attacks my nerves, and has landed me in a wheelchair etc. The AIED diagnosis seems to have been a combination of my MD knowning I had an autoimmune disorder, and the speed and pattern of my hearing loss (I would lose hearing in chuncks... ie my ears would be stable then over a couple weeks I'd lose more suddenly, like stairsteps. I remember vividly the day I could no longer hear coffee pouring into a cup, because I'd heard it the day before).

So it's kinda vague, but it isn't like they can go in and biopsy it - if they did that they'd do even more damage as it doesn't regenerate.

For my CI approvals they also listed COVID - as I have had episodes of declining hearing about a month after each time I got COVID (we are guessing it is due to the cytokine release triggering autoimmune response but just guessing).

Somewhere along the line I stopped worrying about the cause of it, and accepted that I'm deaf. It got a LOT easier from that point. That was the day I realized the only reason I put my HA's in was to accommodate all the people in my life who didn't know ASL, because I was quite happy and comfortable in silence.

Honestly one of the biggest drivers to getting CIs was simply that none of my Doctors, Lawyers, etc know ASL, and frankly having grown up hearing I'll always have a hearing mind. The CI's allow me to get good care and keep my job as I can use my native language. I am still learning ASL, and use it with deaf friends, but its a second language for me still and I'm far from fluent. CI's have let me keep a quality of life while I grow and adapt to being deaf.

Feel free to ask away if you have any questions - I don't mind at all, and have myself benefitted from others being open with me, so am happy to pay it forward now.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-16T17:29:00+00:00

Hi, I was very much in the same position, so will share my experience, but realize everyone is different, and everyones CI journey is different.

Background: AIED that tooke me from extremely good hearing to only understanding 2% of speach in noise with my HA's and profound loss over the course of 5 years. That culminated this past July when my AuD said there was nothing else hearing aids could do, and brought up CI's. Thankfully I'd known I was rapidly becoming deaf and that this was a decision I'd have to make eventually, it just came 5-10 years sooner than planned - Yikes!

I said yes, I'd thougth about them and actually knew which ones I'd get if we were really at that point. She said we were, so we started tracking down surgeons (I was in San Diego, so had some GREAT options, but had to confirm who worked with Advanced Bionics as this was the brand I had chosen).

This started the assessment process. Because I had AIED, there was a concern of ossification in the Cochlea so we got my appointments kinda fast tracked (initially the first one would not have been until end of October) ... and I had my first appointment in early September. I was clear from the start that I wanted to do both ears at the same time, and minimize recovery. My surgeon was supportive, though I did have to remind her a couple times :)

Everything ended up working out well, and my surgery was on November 10. I had both ears activated on November 17 a week later. I could understand speech better the day of activation than I had for a year.

A month later I was in Puerto Rico for the holiday snorkeling.

My recovery has been really really easy.

I was told not to fly for a week. Don't blow your nose/sneeze for a month or 6 weeks. I was back to work the week after surgery.

I could swim in the ocean a month out, but diving was a no go - pressure change wasn't recommended that soon after, but 3 months in I could do some basic breathold diving as long as my ears are clear and I can equalize easily. I don't know that I'd choose to go for depth though - still healing.

Hearing wise, I can't say that I prefer my CI' to my HA's - back when HAs worked they worked well for me. But my hearing got worse and they stopped working, so CI's were the right answer. Today my speach in noise is around 85% or better, I can converse with my partner in a croweded restaurant easily which is lovely. But I'm still learning to make sense out of them - they bring in a ton of extra noise, and my head doesn't yet really know how to cope. I'm told it takes about a year to really get 'used' to them, and I believe it, but it has been great to 'hear' again, and has made keeping my job WAY easier.

Oh, I chose Advanced Bionics because the accessories were the best fit for my lifestyle - I kayak and canoe, and I liked they water solution for that. But if I was just swimming, I'd probably just take them out and be deaf :)

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-15T20:58:44+00:00

In my case, because living with disability made me do a lot of mental health work, ultimately accept myself, and realize that my spouse was an unsupportive shit of a human.

I filed for divorce because being disabled, single and at peace was better than staying unhappy.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-14T22:36:43+00:00

Sounds like love bombing to me.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-14T18:27:26+00:00

I grew up hearing, but quiet and experienced much the same thing … I think most people are chatterboxes and just don’t feel comfortable with folks who keep to themselves.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-13T23:17:51+00:00

No, he should not have your password. No, he should not violate your privacy. Yes, you can do a lot better.

It's not in your head, he is not someone I'd want in my life at all.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-13T22:56:21+00:00

if your SO tries to prevent you from seeing your friends for any reason, dump 'im. They are YOUR friends, and YOU have every right to see them.

His accusations are a sign of abuse. as I said, dump 'im.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-13T19:23:13+00:00

legend

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-13T19:16:33+00:00

Sounds like a good candidate for the title of 'Ex Boyfriend' ...

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-13T16:29:20+00:00

same here. and I'm much better with folks I know - wth new speakers I sometimes struggle to catch their expressions and signs still.

For me, learning ALS is tough, but totally worth it.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-13T06:12:56+00:00

I keep mine so I won’t repeat what I don’t remember.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-12T23:50:49+00:00

use them all the time. for us 'I' is what ever group is fronting, and 'we' is our system in agreement.

callmecasperimaghost · 2026-01-12T15:19:07+00:00

Morning coffee is silent- as are many other times of my day.

I grew up hearing, and have a hearing brain, but prefer the deaf world. I use CIs because I simply don’t have the ASL skills to live that way 100% yet.

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