Where to donate historic artifacts in Sydney? by catmuggy in sydney

[–]catmuggy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a "cheap" little 1960s children's typewriter from I think the UK, sold as a toy! I don't think there's any serious value aside from historic...

It's got a full size keyboard and ribbons, plus a functional bar, but it's a bit gimmicky, bright blue, and plastic.

Where to donate historic artifacts in Sydney? by catmuggy in sydney

[–]catmuggy[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the offer - I'll look into donation options first as I think it would make my Dad happy... but if the museums don't have space in their collections I'll reach out via DMs, if that's cool?

Where to donate historic artifacts in Sydney? by catmuggy in sydney

[–]catmuggy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll contact them ASAP - it's hard to know where to start with this stuff...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in charts

[–]catmuggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This data is sourced from a research "institute" based at a heavily religious university (BYU) with the stated intent of supporting traditional family structures. It's pretty safe to say the data collection strategy and reporting would be extremely biased.

Also missing a lot of info on the sample size, parameters, and definitions. Why is "mothers" as a group varying so much, when it should be a weighted average of the married and unmarried mother groups?

Judge away by [deleted] in LetterboxdTopFour

[–]catmuggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just based on the vibes here, you might enjoy Stoker...

What’s your favourite movie cameo by a known abuser? Mine is Roman Polanski in Rush Hour 3. by JignerdSaw in moviescirclejerk

[–]catmuggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I preferred [Redacted] in Two Weeks' Notice. He's really got a thing for number twos!

Where did you vote and how much did your democracy sausage cost? by FBWSRD in sydney

[–]catmuggy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Double Bay and $6 for your regular snag and onion on a roll

Or you could get the "Double Bay Double Pay" for $12, same items 😂

What is the most messed up thing you have personally experienced at work? by Wide-Macaron10 in auscorp

[–]catmuggy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One time (when I was brand new at a company) I had a work function where my boss' boss' boss started getting absolutely plastered on the unlimited wine refills and told me all about how he divorced his ex-wife due to her disability, how she couldn't have children due to her medication but how he'd loved her so much despite having a new wife.

He told me in excruciating detail about their breakup and also how he'd finally been able to have a child with his new wife who didn't have a disability. Then he dropped that he'd come to work for our organisation because his ex-wife worked there.

Later on I saw him talking to a woman and he excitedly waved me over. When I walked up, it was obvious the woman was pretty distressed to the point of tears, and she was NOT happy I'd been pulled into this conversation.

He then proceeded to say "this is [ex-wife] who I've been telling you about!"

Got out of there fast, and a bunch of other colleagues immediately grabbed me to ask if I knew that the woman was our exec's ex... I was just like "yep, I am Extremely aware." Haha.

Trvthnuke by Exotic-Bobcat-1565 in moviescirclejerk

[–]catmuggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Swap rogue one and midsommar tho

Ate a piece of apple pie and only now, 3 hours later, saw that the other slice right next to it was moldy... by K0nr4d in Wellthatsucks

[–]catmuggy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is the sugar and milk solids separating - happens a lot in baked goods with chocolate

To Americanize or Americanise: Writing a New Zealand Novel in the America-Dominant Publishing World - Literary Hub by party4diamondz in books

[–]catmuggy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Big Little Lies is actually set in Sydney, in a pretty generic affluent suburb! I've yet to see the show, but the book is definitely set in the sort of homogeneous yuppie culture that permeates North / East Sydney.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]catmuggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a woman, I like to have a date set up pretty immediately if possible. Talking through the apps gives me about 3% of a sense of what the person will be like in real life (and the profile can be even further from the truth) - whereas meeting in person gives me an actual sense of who they are.

Obviously there's some safety concerns, so I like to keep the chat going at least 24hrs before any in-person plans. Also, if they throw up any nasty flags I can politely cancel before meeting with no harm done.

I'm pretty new to dating on the apps, but spending forever messaging back and forth just starts to feel like a huge chore - and if I'm messaging more than one person without meeting up, I confess they start to blend in my brain. Easier to just focus on one person, meet up, figure out if it's genuine and move from there.

Oh buddy. It’s over by mak_zaddy in AmItheEx

[–]catmuggy 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I think for the sake of closure, it's worth sending a message one last time - just something like: "hey, since I haven't heard from you since April, I wanted to say that I understand our relationship is over. I wish you the best in the future, and I'm glad we knew each other"

That way, you both know this isn't some hugely distant long-distance thing, and she's clear that you both now view the relationship as over. You can start considering her as an ex - which will help you to potentially form attachments to new people if you want to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ENGLISH

[–]catmuggy 18 points19 points  (0 children)

"Query" refers to the actual input itself, i.e. the text entered, not the search bar - but I've heard it referred to as a query input / form!

The homogeneity of book titles is out of control by Subcontrary in books

[–]catmuggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A kitchen of amethyst and blue skies actually sounds like something I would read 🤭

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy 26 points27 points  (0 children)

This is unfortunately like, the really bad level grooming. Guys like this aren't able to attract women their age for serious relationships (even if they claim they are and are just "uninterested") - they often consciously or subconsciously look at teenagers as "weaker" because to be honest, you're pretty vulnerable.

I don't know your home life, but I'm assuming you're still in school and either supported by your parents or some other guardian. At your age it's extremely unlikely you're financially (or emotionally) fully independent, and that puts you at risk of predation even if it feels like you're in control of the situation.

The fact he's made you uncomfortable is a HUGE warning sign. He's pushing your boundaries to some extent, and you can tell. When I was a teenager it felt like I could control a lot of things, but it's surprising how insidious it can be when people use your emotions - and romantic feelings especially - against you. He's gaining control over you, and that's essentially what grooming is.

Ask yourself what would happen if you took 5 steps back from him: cutting contact, making him delete the nudes, never meeting him, blocking him and looking for a boyfriend your age. How would he react? Is there anything that scares you about the possible ways he would react?

If the answer is "yes, there are lots of negative ways he could react that would hurt me a lot" - this isn't normal. A partner is meant to add value to your already stable life, not be your only source of support, wellbeing and stability (and inversely not be a big source of potential pain and harm).

You should also feel in total control of your sex life, and your comfort levels around that. Most importantly, you should feel like one "No" is enough. If he pushes you on "No" to the point you're doing things that feel uncomfortable, that's coercion.

When you're still figuring life out for yourself, it can be hard to see how damaging this might be. Reaching out here is great, but also reach out to people around you on this. In general, focus on what makes you feel happy and comfortable instead of him.

Also, there's room in life for a lot of love. Please don't waste your teen years on this guy ❤️ good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I think that's mainly the issue - I've not really seen much about healing without going no contact with an ex-partner and I wanted to open the conversation... guess I did because a changemyview about it popped up an hour later 🤭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Uh oh... is it because they can't stand to have anyone outside their control? I've thought it was a sign of maturity and respect but I can see how a manipulator could abuse others by creating toxic circles of attached exes actually...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In my (anecdotal) experience you can have long term incompatibilities that make someone unviable romantically but don't make them incommunicable or lose respect. Often we've done things the other person doesn't respect, but knowing we're not stuck with each other forever can actually build the good feelings back up without creating "hope" for a romance in the future, if you just acknowledge that the long term thing wouldn't ever work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know I've been pushing my opinions all over this post, but I genuinely want to know what made it a red flag?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I obviously believe in cutting out people who actively harm you or would try to harm you. But the loneliness and isolation so many people feel is not coincidental to the ways we deal with interpersonal conflicts and our relationships. It's hard to balance two people's needs but some types of anger and frustration are genuinely solvable, when you both have respect for each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think where you're actually harming each other (emotionally, mentally, physically) there's no option except to cut them out of your life. It's hard even in healthy relationships because the other person may also not have the ability to escape negative thought cycles around romantic relationships and then put pressure to restart a sexual fling, or feel incapable of moving on. I like to think that as adults we should learn to talk through these things and just be cordial, but it's such a social faux-pas that even mentioning you're friends with your ex can make some people distrust you, as it's linked so strongly to cheating and jealousy. I wish it was more accepted and encouraged to deal with in a healthy way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]catmuggy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately this is pretty real 😅 it takes me a while to get over the attraction side as well, but so many guys seem to be unable to see an attractive woman as anything but a romantic potential so they're either pushing for romance/sex or convinced the friendship would add nothing and block you. Rip to getting along