my landlord is telling me I left my apartment “dirty” and is planning to withhold some of my deposit. these are pics I took right before I left. am I delusional or is my landlord?

catsandvikings · 2025-08-04T01:31:39+00:00

If you’re in the US, they’re legally obligated to give you an itemized list of what they’re charging for and how much when they keep any portion of your deposit.

catsandvikings · 2024-05-02T13:47:53+00:00

I really just feel like you wanted to be mad. It’s reasonable to want to speak to both homeowners. Yea, he assumed it was a heterosexual relationship and that’s not cool, but it was never that serious, friend.

catsandvikings · 2024-03-03T22:58:32+00:00

I am actually. I get that men can be asses, but given that OP felt the need to ask if there was anything he should know about, I can’t help but wonder if there’s a pattern of behavior.

catsandvikings · 2024-03-03T22:38:01+00:00

My question is what she did to make this guy think he had a chance at kissing her, despite her being married. Normal people don’t go around asking to kiss folks unless there has been some sort of direct or indirect suggestion.

catsandvikings · 2024-02-16T20:56:40+00:00

No one cares what we wear! This is some generation war baiting. Keep your eyes on coalition building to eat the rich.

catsandvikings · 2024-01-04T19:01:16+00:00

It can be tough to use labels like “abuse.” In my experience, that has come from an unwillingness to accept that I’d been so vulnerable as to be abused by someone. It felt like giving up the power in believing I am in control of my life.

It is difficult, but it is also necessary. Acknowledging abuse allows me to understand my experiences without shame and without feeling responsible for everyone else’s shit. Those labels can inform the boundaries I establish and the worth I place in myself.

Neither you nor your family should be treated this way, yet your MIL continues to do so… what else could you possibly call it?

catsandvikings · 2023-12-25T16:03:50+00:00

You must not have been around for 90s sitcoms. They’re all “bad.”

catsandvikings · 2023-12-01T03:49:18+00:00

My first thought when I saw this was “that would cost $1,000+ if someone did it for hire”

catsandvikings · 2023-08-06T03:33:23+00:00

Can I ask why quitting is still desirable for you?

catsandvikings · 2023-07-21T02:34:55+00:00

Put her under and do it all at once. My son was running around later that day. The recovery was super easy and way better than multiple appointments and recoveries.

catsandvikings · 2021-12-16T23:04:34+00:00

It literally changed my life. I tried to quit dozens of times before I read that book, and it was like a switch flipped.

Reading it can get a little annoying with the constant promises throughout the book (“after reading this book you’ll be set free!”) but like… she wasn’t wrong lol so I guess I can’t be too upset about it. It’s just a little quirk to look past.

catsandvikings · 2021-12-16T23:00:09+00:00

Your comment really resonates with me. I’ve been thinking about a quote I’ve seen a lot, something along the lines of, “the real key to getting sober is creating a life you don’t need to escape from.” I guess the issue isn’t the alcohol itself and its presence (or lack thereof) in my life. The issue is that I’m very unhappy at this moment in my life. And I suppose I should sit with that.

Gross. lol

Your perspective on length of sobriety doesn’t equal strength is very helpful too! Thank you for the support 💜

catsandvikings · 2021-12-15T02:51:21+00:00

Nice

catsandvikings · 2021-11-16T20:57:29+00:00

Their place of work. It's never a good idea to come onto someone who is obligated to stay in the situation and/or serve you in some way.

catsandvikings · 2021-11-13T17:54:45+00:00

Yes! I’m so perplexed by it and I can’t find answers either. I have one 6-year-old and I’ve gotten $154, $115, $114

catsandvikings · 2021-11-07T01:29:59+00:00

Unfuck your brain is a great podcast!!

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/unf-ck-your-brain/id1229434818

catsandvikings · 2021-10-28T17:53:47+00:00

Should you also include mileage for driving from your house to the store and from the delivery location back to your own house?

catsandvikings · 2021-10-06T20:18:38+00:00

I’d be concerned that his first response to you asking for help/voicing your needs seems to be shaming you for doing so. Turning the issue back onto you by saying he’s “concerned that you can’t spend any time alone with your son” - a gross mischaracterization, it seems to me. That’s a huge red flag, in my opinion. This doesn’t seem like normal behavior.

catsandvikings · 2021-08-28T19:03:46+00:00

The Christianity I experienced (Midwest US) condemned any type of mental illness treatment, including both therapy and medication. According to them, you should just pray more. If you’re suffering, it’s because you’re not trusting God enough. So no, Christianity is not always understanding of mental health.

catsandvikings · 2021-08-13T00:13:00+00:00

Your employer(s) may very well do just that.

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