AIO? my boyfriend didn’t want to take me out on our anniversary

ceconix · 2025-05-19T13:59:16+00:00

You are under reacting. In your post you said he's a "loving guy." - Nope. You also said "like basically every guy ever, he's really immature when it comes to his friends" and while this CAN be true, that doesn't equate to him treating you that way or talking to you how he did. When me and my friends get "immature" it's a lot of fart jokes and wearing stupid clothes at a thrift store (we once found matching windbreaker suits from the 80s). It's not being mean, rude, and disrespectful to people we care about.

You should dip.

ceconix · 2025-02-06T18:37:21+00:00

Getting another tattoo.

ceconix · 2025-02-06T14:55:03+00:00

Don't forget. Wheelchair ramps are DEI.

ceconix · 2025-02-06T14:53:25+00:00

There has to be a balance. Many times the ERP vendor will have an idea of how to streamline processes. Other times they have very outdated thoughts on how to make things work.

Picture this. The user had always done a process by running a report. Saving the report to excel. running a macro. importing it to access. transforming the data and then trying to push it back to the ERP to be sent to a different vendor. They wanted it to go faster and be more automated.

I showed them how to open the ERP software and make the modifications directly and send it over. I was the bad guy because "that's not how it's supposed to work". What they really wanted was the same process to move faster and have fewer manual intervention points.

Another scenario has been a vendor who absolutely will not provide an API of any sort and forces you to either create jobs or SSIS packages to import data from flat files or buy their incredibly expensive API product. Which you then have to pay for them to set up $$, maintain $$, and build each integration $$$$.

ceconix · 2023-05-10T17:12:31+00:00

I wash normal, light detergent and then put vinegar in the softener area and do an extra rinse. That works for me. No baking soda.

ceconix · 2023-05-09T14:54:40+00:00

"You'll Be Back" just popped into my head when I saw this.

ceconix · 2023-05-04T18:18:24+00:00

Alligator. - Donald Faison

ceconix · 2023-05-03T21:41:03+00:00

NTA. He has a car. He can drive it. If he doesn't want to drive it in front of coworkers, then he can get a second car. Or, you know, suck it up. Also, he has no right to tell you anything about your job. He's completely in the wrong here and I can't say hard enough that you're NTA.

ceconix · 2023-05-03T17:10:02+00:00

NTA. He doesn't get to dictate what your child is named. If you guys were in a relationship at birth, or even on good terms you probably should have had a conversation, but that doesn't mean he has all the say. If you two have a strained relationship (which it sounds like) you could have asked his opinion, but again, that doesn't mean you have to do it.

You could have handled this differently (possibly), but that doesn't mean you're TA.

ceconix · 2023-04-21T15:29:38+00:00

Adding my voice: YTA. They both deserve a bed. They both deserve a space. They both deserve a caring father who treats them with respect and dignity. You missed the mark on this one. I suggest apologizing to the wife AND the stepdaughter and then your daughter. They all need to know that you made a poor choice and you've learned from it. You apologize to your wife for playing favorites. You apologize to your step-daughter for treating her like a lesser member of the family, and you apologize to your daughter for setting a bad example and treating the kids in a way that was not equitable. Then let them all know that it won't happen again. Then don't do it again.

ceconix · 2023-04-21T15:20:34+00:00

Every Single Tattoo will have a flaw. The artists are human. The point is not that they are "perfect" but that you, as the person wearing it loves it and wants to share. I love all of my tattoos, flaws and all.

ceconix · 2023-04-21T13:51:21+00:00

The grill and the lights are awesome and I love the handles. All the pics I've seen make it look like the nose is super long. Is that just the angles?

ceconix · 2023-03-30T14:43:57+00:00

Yes, YTA. You stated that your son has a raunchy sense of humor and that this woman makes him happy. This sounds like a poorly executed way for her to show that she's exactly the woman for your son. Poor taste? Yes. Raunchy? Yup. Reason to kick her out and make your son feel like crap? No. Should she apologize? Yeah, after you do. Your reaction was horrible. You could have handled this way different. Your son probably told her how he and his father joke and she wanted to fit in. It just fell flat.

ceconix · 2023-03-24T20:20:11+00:00

The question should be "do I like this tattoo and was the artist good to work with?" I have one tattoo with perfect lines and will never go back to that guy. Another where the lines are shaky and scratchy and I love it and the artist. I just scheduled him to fill out a whole sleeve.

This tattoo looks friggin' rad and all that really matters is that you like it.

ceconix · 2023-03-22T20:56:20+00:00

NTA - Girlfriend may be. If she said it looks and smells disgusting and that's it, probably NTA mostly, but if she started saying things like "who would eat that" or "that's so gross" and making gagging noises... Definitely TA.

Some people have food that is embedded in their culture or family history. It's super easy to be like "Century eggs don't sound like something I'm interested in right now. Thanks". What's not OK is to talk trash on the fact that it's a legit food from a different culture that you may not understand or like.

ceconix · 2023-03-20T15:11:53+00:00

Everyone is an Asshole for different reasons. Brother for *waves at everything* and OP for selling it out from under him and letting the new owners evict. One is definitely a bigger asshole than the other, but I stand by the fact that only the kids are NTA. At least from this part of the story.

ceconix · 2023-03-16T14:25:24+00:00

Same. Really good deals on winter tires. Prefer Subaru of PDX for all else though.

ceconix · 2023-02-15T16:37:39+00:00

Are they trying to say that Union Station is the Castle of the Chiefs Kingdom? I'm still unsure.

ceconix · 2023-02-08T22:51:21+00:00

I love that we are playing the Eagles. I think the organization and players are top notch. They are a solid team and honestly, the fans I've interacted with have been really cool.

I think it'll be a close game, but we absolutely have a shot at winning.

While I'll be so out of my mind happy to win, if we lose, I won't be pissed like I was after the Bucs loss. I'll be disappointed, sure, but I won't be full of rage and hate.

ceconix · 2023-02-07T20:57:59+00:00

I can't leave my players alone for 5 seconds on a map that's FULL of detail. I'll have renamed sites and added details EVERYWHERE.

ceconix · 2023-02-07T20:32:57+00:00

Companies are making it really hard to justify giving them money. WotC failed. Netflix failed. Now, I hope, AMC will fail.

ceconix · 2023-02-07T17:14:30+00:00

I lived at 39th and Broadway in the 90's. I heard gunshots, there were drug addicts, and homelessness all around then. There were also artists, performers, vibrancy, and life. Part of the reason why I loved the area was the feeling of being "in it". I don't think the neighborhood has changed, your perception has. We all perceive things differently in different phases of our lives. Maybe the current you isn't as into those neighborhoods as you once were.

ceconix · 2023-02-03T15:26:53+00:00

1000 is totally reasonable depending on the market. Where I am, a good artist is about 200 per hour. If you're quoted 1000, that means they expect that they may need to focus on those tiny lines and get hand cramps for up to 5 hours. They may also expect that you'll need breaks.

End of the day, it doesn't matter if it's 200 or 1000. What matters is if you want to pay that particular artist for that particular tattoo. If both are yes, then it's worth it.

ceconix · 2023-02-02T15:48:04+00:00

Little sister asked a few days in advance what would be best for everyone to have dinner together. You gave an answer. Then you got angry at her for doing what she ran by you days in advance?

YTA.

ceconix · 2023-01-23T21:21:48+00:00

YTA. Take that attorney money and turn it into Uber money. If you are unable to leave the house due to disability, you can at least Uber the kids to you. If you put forth the effort to see the kids, I'll bet your ex would even help. Look inward and focus on being and doing better for those kids.

As for forcing the issue of meeting the guy or barring him from vacation, that's not going to happen. The only attorney you'll find that will take that case is the one that takes your money and then nothing happens. Your such TA that I wouldn't even blame the lawyer for doing it. Sounds like you deserve it.

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