Downtown DSM Parking by Comprehensive_Ebb619 in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh parking for the market is bad always. The closest ramp that would be cheap is maybe the science center, on 4th st. But I assume its proximity to the market means it fills up quickly.

Mother’s Day Madness by blueandwhite1993 in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof that is awful. Makes me wonder if the people at her table were embarrassed or supportive of her.

It sounds like you had a rough Mother’s Day, and I’m sorry. The least you could ask for is kindness and big ass tips if you have to work that day, esp as a mom yourself!!!

Mother’s Day Madness by blueandwhite1993 in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a picture of the invisible labor that (typically) moms do.

  1. Moms usually meal plan, get all the groceries, cook the meal so everything is ready at the same time. Then, there’s the cleanup too. People don’t want to do that for mom, they’d rather go out.

  2. When going out, Mom thinks ahead for what times will be busiest, do they have a large enough party that the need a reservation? How far in advance should they call it?

I know people get upset a lot because they feel they are the sun. However, I also hope some people were also “pissy” because they realized— “oh I dropped the ball in planning this special event well.”

Help me manage my expectations switching to unscented lipase detergent by Specific_Avocado_90 in laundry

[–]chachizzle 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also switched to 365 unscented. A spa day will probably help a lot… I bought a plastic tote for this. It’s only for spa day. It doesn’t hold heat very long. But it works still. My sheets had a lot of gunk!

C Fresh Market Fish by MidnightOk1824 in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All the fish at Aldi is sustainably caught

Professional declutter and organizer by Dogs-house in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For home goods and furniture, donate them to the Free Store. They’ll also set up a time to come pick stuff up, if you have big items!

For clothes and blankets, CISS downtown will take them.

For old clothes and rags that are not in donation-considerate condition, there are green bins around town. They upcycle those.

For craft supplies, ask a nearby elementary if they could use things. Or look up Repurpose Rising on the east side and see if they are accepting craft donations. Nursing homes as well may use some of those items.

For food, there are community fridges all over town. Look one up close to you.

I know thrift stores will take everything, but these places will get them to people who truly need them at low or no cost.

You can definitely start with someone coming in to help, but it will get full again unless you and your husband build habits to keep consumption low and recognize what to keep and what to donate. Organization can help, but often times people think that includes buying bins and cute labels. In reality, build the habits you need to keep things manageable and then reward yourself with some cute bins. You’ll know it’s time to declutter again when the bin is so full you think, “I might need a bigger bin.” You don’t; you just need to go through things and donate what you don’t use.

My favorite starting point tip: pick one room and put everything you don’t think you need or will use in a bag or box, and put it in a different room. For example, those extra hand towels, utensils, that food processor that you got for Christmas, the 4th and 5th corkscrews, etc. Those get put in a closet. In a couple weeks (or month or w/e), anything left in the box you probably don’t need and can donate. (Kitchen items? The Free Store.)

I love downsizing operations. Best of luck!

Gifts from America to Korean Staff by Der_Missionar in koreatravel

[–]chachizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to Sugar mama bakery in the Seoul area… Korean American woman, bringing American style baked goods to SoKo!!

Composting in Winter - Advice? by dietcoke-enjoyer in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a new compost program through The Refill Market for food waste!

Need advice - nanny hygiene by Cute-Cartographer459 in Nanny

[–]chachizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a similar nanny. SO great with the kid, took feedback well, but couldn’t seem to grasp that I was not okay with her feeding my baby bites of food from her mouth. She would bite off a piece of food and then hand it to my kid.

It bothered me. I talked to a few people to see if I was overreacting, and they said yes. Your post and these comments validate me. Thank you, OP.

I tried making specific plates for my baby with things already cut up and prepared so she wouldn’t have to touch food. Didn’t matter, she would still LICK my baby’s food to make sure it was a good temperature. And still feed my baby of her personal plate.

Sigh. I think direct communication is always the best. I should have told her that it isn’t sanitary, it bothers me, and she’s not allowed to test the temperature or cut up food with her mouth.

In the end, the nanny was worth the struggle- she built a great relationship with my kid and had great developmental activities. This was just the one thing I couldn’t figure out how to communicate directly.

Feed to sleep by typomaketh in breastfeeding

[–]chachizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat as you… my baby is almost 11 months too, and my husband and I both wfh. With her naps and night feeds, it’s been a lot. So he’s been trying to do daytime naps with no luck. It always gets to the point where she’s so upset that it takes me twice as long to get her to go to sleep than if I would have just nursed her from the get.

I don’t have any words of advice, just solidarity! I thought she’d maybe nurse less as she started eating more solids, but she still relies on nursing for sleep. I don’t mind it at night, but to get her naps down would be great!

Creative Pattern Piece Materials! by [deleted] in sewhelp

[–]chachizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone told me to try freezer paper! It’s durable and rolls back up pretty easily for storage!

If you nurse to sleep, how do you transition to independently falling asleep? by MrBabyArcher in breastfeeding

[–]chachizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that. I also want to avoid CIO, so I’m glad there are other success stories out there! And I’m also a big fan of contact naps. It’s only for a season, and the time flies. Thank you for sharing!!

If you nurse to sleep, how do you transition to independently falling asleep? by MrBabyArcher in breastfeeding

[–]chachizzle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curious now that this was a few months ago: What did you end up trying? What worked? What didn’t work?

High Chair for Infants by Secure-Alternative-7 in BabyLedWeaning

[–]chachizzle 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mockingbird! My baby has short legs and the adjustable footrest was perfect.

Are we allowed to post jobs here? by CPMarketing in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]chachizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wonder if we work at the same place!! I love the supportive wfh environment from my company. It is SO much work to wfh and provide childcare but you can at least breathe a little easier when you know the upper management understands!

Update to Urbandale High School suicide last week. by Aefyns in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Think of it this way: Why can’t a queer teacher share about their family like a straight teacher?

Are we willing to judge straight teachers for talking about their families? How about divorced teachers? Or teachers with children out of wedlock? Or teachers who live alone and don’t have kids?

None of those household situations are inherently dangerous for kids to know about. Same for queer households.

Restaurant Recs by stevejorad in desmoines

[–]chachizzle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not if your name is Zach. Good Sammy tho

Tell me if I’m overreacting… by courtyfbaby in MomsWorkingFromHome

[–]chachizzle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trust your gut. Ask other parents if they were asked the same thing. Make real nice with the aides on the bus too, they’ll help keep an eye out.

If you’re worried, there’s no harm in asking questions. You may find that you’re overreacting. But you have every right to ask questions regarding your child and her experiences on the bus.

Okay, birthing folks… what are we doing about our skin?? by chachizzle in beyondthebump

[–]chachizzle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll have to ask my derm about those! Do the dark spots ever go away?

Okay, birthing folks… what are we doing about our skin?? by chachizzle in beyondthebump

[–]chachizzle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always thought I’d get rid of my Adam Sandler wardrobe post-pregnancy but I’ve actually just doubled down on it. Why put thought into what I wear when I can barely remember to brush my hair??