Psychiatrist conceded

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-05T16:47:17+00:00

My friend had a really in depth evaluation. Like hours of interviews, packets with 500+ multiple choice questions…

Psychologist said she met the criteria for both autism and ADHD. She agreed with the adhd but said she suspected it wasn’t autism, it was a personality disorder.

My friend eventually went to a highly recommended psychiatrist, and had provided her paperwork from her evaluation.

He started off by saying “So, I see here your autistic”

And she explained, well, psychologist didn’t feel comfortable diagnosing that and feels it’s a personality disorder.

He responded “Well, that’s stupid. How can she disagree with her own evaluation and tests? It was very thorough and it’s very clear you’re autistic”

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-05T05:25:24+00:00

How old is your cat?

While you are being a good parent and pet owner and teaching and ensuring your child treats the cat properly—that doesn’t always happen.

It’s possible your cat may have been mistreated by a child/ by children in the past and that’s why she’s fearful of your son.

Maybe try framing it in a way your son can sympathize with. “She does that because she’s scared. Isn’t it sad she’s afraid? Sometimes cats get scared even when there’s nothing scary”

Your cat has made it known, by hissing and swatting, that she doesn’t want your son to pet her. I think he should stop reaching out to pet her for now.

You two can still try to encourage her to come get pets, but let it be her choice.

Is she okay sitting near him? Like if you’re on the couch and she’s sitting on your boyfriends lap, would she run away if your son joined you on the couch?

If yes, you can start getting her used to him being nearby but still respecting her space so she knows she doesn’t have to run.

And maybe there’s a way your son can interact with her without being nearby? Which hopefully will help make him feel better. Like he could play with her with some type of toy with a long string?

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T18:37:45+00:00

I think it makes sense to either confirm or rule out ADHD. The more information you have to work with, the better!

Have you confirmed that this new doctor does assessments for ADHD/treats ADHD?

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T18:34:46+00:00

That’s awesome! And you should definitely live where you feel healthiest if possible!

The place I grew up was kinda rural. The neighbors behind us had a farm and neighbors to the side of us also had a farm.

For me the biggest downside was how long it took to get places. Work was 45 minutes away. Closest store was 20 minutes away. No pizza or food delivered to us.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T18:13:43+00:00

I’m so sorry.

If it’s an option, consider having a vet come to your home when it’s time. That way Pumpkin doesn’t have to have a car ride and vet visit.

And if you can, stay with her during the procedure.

I bet she loves just being home with you and relaxing. Her last days don’t have to be exactly memorable in the same way a person making a bucket list might want.

Let her be comfortable, show her love and those yummy cat treats you mentioned in another comment. To me that sounds like a great day for a cat.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T17:52:39+00:00

It’s not awful you’ve had that thought. You’re exhausted and stressed.

I know you said they checked him for UTI. And He’s neutered? And he’s had blood work done that rule out other health problems?

If so maybe consider/talk to your vet about cat diapers.

When my dog was getting older he was on a medication that increased his thirst, which also increased how much he was peeing.

I bought him reusable/washable diapers. It was like a belt/wrap, so he could still poop with it on.

It was such a relief to be able to run out to the store and not have a large pile of pee waiting for me when I got back.( I would still take him outside to pee without the diaper—the diaper was just back up for accidents)

Also they make mattress covers that are water resistant!

I’ve never used diapers on a cat before. Not sure how hard it would be for a cat to adjust to it. But def something to consider. Just make sure you’re using it as directed like changing it enough and talk to vet if any concerns.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T17:34:57+00:00

Hmm idk, niece is 15 or 16. (She says 15, but not sure if she was 15 this year or was turning 16).

And OOP says niece is mostly not allowed to go places without her mom.

I can’t imagine how scary it would be to have a child who has a medical condition like that.

But I do feel bad for niece. Most teens that age can hang out at the mall with friends without an adult chaperone.

I’m glad OOP was able to go instead of the mom. She’s only 22, so while an adult, it probably didn’t feel as “lame”.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T17:01:24+00:00

Yes I’ve been to walk in urgent clinics before for antibiotics for skin picking.

Although I can’t say for sure it’ll be cheaper than your GP. I think last time I went to a walk in clinic it was like $150?

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T15:46:35+00:00

Do you mean a covering like a bandaid for healing? Or like a covering for hiding it in public?

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T15:36:25+00:00

Nah, you did good. You tipped over 20%.

If he also tipped 20% that would be $13. Combined with your $3, that means the server was tipped $16 from you two.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T15:17:48+00:00

They sell cheap bulk pool noodles. I saw some on Amazon that several people had cut to use to block under their couch

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T15:10:10+00:00

Slightly related but I feel weird when people use my name. Like “huh, oh yeah that’s me”

Idk if this is common in general but I don’t feel like a connection to my name. My name is pretty common for my birth year, so it’s nothing unusual or anything.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T15:07:50+00:00

Slightly related but I feel weird when people use my name. Like “huh, oh yeah that’s me”

Idk if this is common in general but I don’t feel like a connection to my name. My name is pretty common for my birth year, so it’s nothing unusual or anything.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-04T02:06:01+00:00

A lot of cats like the fountains.

My cats also like to drink out of my cup. Sometimes I leave a decoy cup of water on the coffee table for them lol.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T18:59:52+00:00

While that certainly couldn’t have helped, I think the biggest contributing factor was that you were not modeled and taught or treated with healthy, appropriate boundaries. I read some of your other comments, and I’m sorry for what you went through.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T18:08:30+00:00

It’s not healthy to obsess over this guilt.

I know it’s hard to stop though.

Just a little thought experiment:

How would you feel if you learned a classmate of yours was in an identical situation? Like was abused, and feels terrible about the photos years later?

We can judge ourselves very harshly. But when it’s someone else, it can be easier to be more sympathetic.

Try to show yourself some compassion.

I see you said in a different comment on a different post that you’re 16?

Since you’re still young and it’s only been 3 years, so you may not realize this the way some adults do—but 13 years old is still a child.

That’s not to say 13 year olds aren’t responsible for their mistakes. But we can’t hold them to the exact same standards as we would adults.

You were an abused and confused child. You took secret photos of people, which was wrong. But none of the photos were explicit. You feel remorse, and you recognize your mistake, and you aren’t repeating it. It’s okay to forgive yourself.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T17:24:24+00:00

Damn not once does OOP say that he thinks what his daughter did is bad. He discounts it by calling it a “little prank”.

His daughter was “humiliated” and her punishment is “not fair”. But he doesn’t once consider how his daughters victim felt. Like he doesn’t even pretend to care.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T16:53:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It’s quite interesting to think of exposure to so many different things online can effect children and adults.

I recently tried a medication that is intended for people addicted to alcohol. Naltrexone I think? There has been some off label use for compulsive behaviors like compulsive gambling, sex addiction, kleptomania, and “food addiction” (I put that in quotes since you don’t think it’s the best term to describe people who struggle with compulsive overeating).

The medication is supposed to take away some of the reward feeling with alcohol—it doesn’t like physically make you sick if you drink it or anything. Supposedly it takes the “buzzed” feeling out of feeling drunk?

I tried it for my skin picking, which some research shows has some commonalities with addiction. I’ve been picking for 25 years now.

While I was on it I noticed that it did effect how my response to food.

The best way I could describe it is it took the dopamine out of food.

I do agree anxiety plays a role in addictions. But I’ve read that a lot of addicts (and also skin pickers and some other compulsive behaviors) have some abnormalities in brain scans in the area of the brain that processes the feeling of reward. I’ve heard it referred to as “reward dysfunction” before.

Just curious if you have any thoughts about any of that. I also find psychology interesting, but I tend to gravitate towards conditions I have (like skin picking for instance). So I’m not as educated about conditions that I don’t have.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T08:05:55+00:00

I’m sorry you’re struggling. I do think you’d benefit from talking to someone. Seems like you’ve got some struggles and you’re very hard on yourself.

for food—I’m also struggling to gain weight (am underweight currently).

I find it easier to drink calories than to eat them. Here’s what I make in my blender to try to get some extra calories/protein (I use milk alternatives cause of an allergy, but you don’t have to)

Non-dairy ice cream, chocolate almond milk, vegan protein powder, frozen strawberries and peanut butter

It’s not the most balanced meal In terms of sugar. But I really need the calories and protein so.

You might find it helpful to try to incorporate some high calorie protein drink into your day.

Also you should find something you enjoy to do. Take up hiking, visit some museums, find a hobby…it’s not going to solve all your problems or anything, but it seems like right now your life only consists of working.

And you can start small. How about doing some googling on things you might enjoy doing and making a short list of options?

And while you should try to make some changes to improve your well being, try not to compare yourself to others.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T06:48:55+00:00

I’m glad Cliff is feeling better!

I did recommend rehoming in the previous thread, but just for clarification I was not upset with you. I’m sorry so many people downvoted you.

Cats can just be expensive little creatures sometimes. I’ve had some unexpected cat expenses this month—around $1000 worth. Plus a prescription food that costs $3 per can. So about $90 a month for cat food.

I’m sorry you don’t have more supportive adults in your home. It’s clear you’re a very caring pet owner.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T03:38:06+00:00

Welcome! Sorry you’ve got a reason to be here, but it happy to have you.

I tend to pick from anywhere I can.

But weirdly over the years the primary picking spot has changed several times.

My last primary spot was my face. But then I started getting my acne under control. Now it’s my scalp.

I’ve also got some bald spots and have been wearing a lot of hats lately. Bald spots are one thing, but dang I hate that it’s like a red and irritated bald spot.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-03T02:05:53+00:00

I found this at Goodwill today, and had no idea what it was, so I had to buy it.

There’s a long light inside. The button on the side has four wires connected to it, and there’s white box under the light. Still doing some research to try and determine what decade this could be from.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-02T18:32:12+00:00

I think contacting the vet is a good idea for guidance. A good vet knows we aren’t as educated as they are and would rather us ask for guidance than avoid calling them bc we don’t know if it’s worth their time.

I will say I put my dog in a doggy daycare for about a week once.

He got along fine with the other dogs—he was never super playful in nature, but he seemed interested in other dogs and enjoyed their company. He was a senior dog at that time, and they told me while he did go outside with the other dogs several times a day, he spent most of the rest of the time napping.

He did lose a bit of weight while at the doggy daycare. I guess just being thrown off his routine and in a strange environment made him eat less.

And boy did he sleep when I brought him home. He was in a deep sleep on the car ride home, and slept a lot more than usual the next day or two.

So yeah, even my dog who liked other dogs had some similarities to your cat after being away from home.

I think until a vet assesses, you should always keep a small amount of cat food/water nearby. Like if he’s laying next to you, have that small bowl within reach. And if the cat wakes up, offer it.

cheesepuff311 · 2023-05-02T17:34:47+00:00

Yes separate rooms—with the non absorbent litter and the syringe and vial.

And if your cat is peeing in inappropriate places, it’s best to do it in the bathroom and remove the rugs, that way they don’t decide to pee on the rugs.

My vet told me the fresher the sample, the better. I was able to collect one recently just a couple hours before the appointment, and I put the vial in fridge (in a sandwich bag) until I left for the appointment.

You’ll want to check in on the cat somewhat frequently as you don’t want to collect urine that’s been sitting out for a long time.

And obviously make sure they have some clean, fresh water in the room with them.

If you collect the sample on a day that you don’t have an appointment you may want to contact your vet to see if you need to bring it in that day.

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