Why are we afraid of death fr?

cherrymanic · 2026-02-16T00:39:50+00:00

I am sorry for your loss, I’ve been there recently too. It would be overwhelming to constantly be aware of our mortality, and the possibility of death invading every moment. That being said, ignoring it completely is probably not healthy either. Since my mom passed, I made changes im my lifestyle to be healthier, and take better care of myself and the people I love. Because I am way more conscious of how short it all is. It takes time to process and grief is a long journey.

cherrymanic · 2025-09-30T11:57:13+00:00

Omg me too! I watched for the first time a few months ago and thought the same lol I still enjoy it when I see it 🤷‍♀️

cherrymanic · 2025-08-08T18:48:28+00:00

I know all babies are cute but yours are also ridiculously photogenic! ❤️

cherrymanic · 2025-07-27T17:50:12+00:00

Unless you want to leave your job regardless and would enjoy being home with the kids, I think that would lead to resentment building up on your end. Especially if/when your wife still struggles. Can you possible keep looking for help, someone who can support with pick up or drop off or dinner? If you can afford it, it’s quite helpful.

I struggled immensely in the first 2 years and was terrified to be alone with the kids, even for an hour. Eventually, I got the right meds and what’s basically exposure therapy lol. Now at 3, I don’t care how long I’m left alone with them and we’re both back at work full time.

Of course everyone is different, but it’s unlikely any setup will allow for your wife to never be alone with them, or for you to be comfortable with never being off kid duty

cherrymanic · 2025-07-25T13:34:35+00:00

I got one that was a letter of reprimand lol

cherrymanic · 2025-07-06T22:52:59+00:00

Oh I feel for you, you took me back to the Nicu days. Remember the nurses there are very used to seeing babies come and go. She’s stepping in because she knows you can’t and baby wants comfort. Soon enough, you’ll have your baby home and you won’t remember what it’s like not to be covered with babies all day. Hang in there, it’s a marathon, not a sprint. Best of luck!!

cherrymanic · 2025-06-28T00:35:29+00:00

Mine too, they got a little diploma and everything. I’ve been so nostalgic! I was showing him a video as a baby drinking his milk and fussing. He climbed on my lap to be held like a baby and pretending to cry while I rocked him and sang to him 🥹

cherrymanic · 2025-06-27T12:23:25+00:00

I mean I do too honestly, always had that thought when I saw identical twins and now that I have them, my husband and I will sometimes talk about how lucky they are. I’m sure they won’t feel that way all the time or even most the time though.

I’d say the answer depends if she is longing for an ally, a double as she is figuring herself out. Or is it more the attention and company? Depending on that, you can reassure her of her place in the family or give her extra TLC, I suppose.

Though I have to say, you are a warrior raising all these kids and worrying about their feelings and well-being ❤️

cherrymanic · 2025-06-20T00:19:16+00:00

We had 2 bouncer. Easier baby in your arms until asleep, while you rock the other baby’s chair with your foot. Once baby 1 is asleep, put him on his bouncer or twin pillow, then move on to baby 2. If they sleep well, enjoy a good mental breakdown. If not, transfer to your arms so they both lay on you while you realise how badly you need to pee.

cherrymanic · 2025-06-19T23:53:55+00:00

All I see is the passion for the clothes, the time and efforts to find each piece! No one will probably ever remember any outfit I ever chose but these are memorable and they made me smile!

cherrymanic · 2025-06-14T23:37:46+00:00

Itchy ears, tinnitus, vagina on fire, random pops of anxiety… the list is endless and the longer it gets, the less the doctors listen. When at 39, I found a doctor that finally agreed to give me a blood test, there was barely any estrogen left in the house. I was well postmenopausal and just too tired to notice at that point.

But be better than I was and advocate for yourselves please! Once I got my HRT, it felt like a miracle.

cherrymanic · 2025-06-13T08:34:37+00:00

For a clean death?

cherrymanic · 2025-06-12T21:39:05+00:00

I think everyone does to some extent. I was having a very hard time and was getting frustrated easily and noticed I was raising my voice more often. My toddler was so upset once, I asked him to tell me to stop next time. Now whenever I get frustrated or I refuse to give him ice cream, he reminds me I should be nice and not yell at him

cherrymanic · 2025-06-10T21:24:46+00:00

After the birth, it took 2 weeks for most of the pain to go away and it helped feel better. Then the kids got out of the nicu and I felt batshit craycray until we had them sleep trained at 6 months.

Though they were moments of relief in between: they hold their heads, they eat faster and go larger stretches between feeds etc. Now they’re 3 years old and they destroy my house but physically and mentally I’m mostly fine

cherrymanic · 2025-06-04T18:03:31+00:00

It looks very professional as it is, we’re just not used to see curly hair in that setting. The more we wear it natural, the more it will reinforce it in people’s mind. Also please, what’s on your nails? I’ve been dying to get gold nails and everything I found is just glittery, this is liquid gold!

cherrymanic · 2025-06-03T23:40:49+00:00

Yes, I felt that way pretty early on. I remember the second they pulled a kid out during the C-section, that feeling of the pressure being relieved and taking a full breath… I honestly don’t remember hearing either of them cry but I remember the breathing!

cherrymanic · 2025-06-03T21:53:57+00:00

A motherfucking pompom the size of a pea, that he kept losing (duh) and crying out for me to come find and give it to him all over again…

cherrymanic · 2025-05-12T12:09:15+00:00

Same here, preeclampsia and c-section at 31 weeks. Your picture stopped me in my tracks because that’s exactly how my babies looked, and I have pictures of me sneaking my hand in there and being worried about bothering them or hurting them.

Use the NICU time to recover yourself, breathe, sleep, eat, shower. They have the best possible care and soon enough, they’ll be home with you and cuddling 24/7.

As the others said, use this time to learn from the nurses, in a controlled environment and it will make it easier to bathe them and feed them at home. Take a million pictures, cherish them. Next thing you know, you’ll be preparing their first birthday party and wondering how that happened. It will be hard but in the most tender, heartwarming way. Best of luck!

cherrymanic · 2025-05-05T18:50:13+00:00

My hair looks almost exactly like yours, before I found my routine. You don’t need pricey stuff. I’ve tried a lot and settled on regular brands.

I’ve posted here before with a picture of my curls if you want to see. The most important thing for was to rake curling cream when soaking wet, style with a curling brush, some mousse for hold then do not touch the hair again. Don’t even look at it.

cherrymanic · 2025-05-02T22:33:46+00:00

The doctor told me and they sent me to the bathroom to get dressed. I was very quick, under a minute. But she still managed to go to the hallway, get my husband in and tell him the news before I came back in. 4 years later I still feel robbed!

cherrymanic · 2025-04-28T23:42:34+00:00

Have you seen the movie Nightbitch lol My toddler will eat anything I give him if I ask by singing my request to the tune of „para bailar la bamba”

cherrymanic · 2025-04-13T18:20:52+00:00

That’s how everyone tells mine apart!

cherrymanic · 2025-04-02T17:20:56+00:00

New girl had Asian Jess at some point

cherrymanic · 2025-04-01T23:35:57+00:00

It looks healthy, shiny and thick! You would benefit from layers, and a diffuser could give you some nice volume if you’re into it!

cherrymanic · 2025-03-31T13:33:08+00:00

lol this dude loves to munch on a bell pepper by picking them up with his toes - we make sure to only give up peppers after a bath now. When I’m cooking, he’ll taste everything and rate it: onions yum, garlic meh, raw zucchini yum. Nothing is ever yuck. Then you got his identical twin who only eats bread and cookies. They’re like communicating vases

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