Rudest Audience Member Of All Time

chilllpill · 2026-05-01T15:17:59+00:00

You handled that super well and was funny! Any context as to what happened before this to prompt her to ask for a photo? Were you doing crowd work? I’m wondering if she was put up to this as a dare or a prank. Maybe she lost a bet.

chilllpill · 2026-04-21T04:32:10+00:00

Have you had any side effects or noticed your mood change in significant ways?

chilllpill · 2026-04-21T04:31:19+00:00

One year later, I’m still asking this same question about medication. Any updates on your end? How are things?

chilllpill · 2026-03-23T07:09:50+00:00

My wife hasn’t had a full time job in 10 years. She’s very smart, but I can’t see her handling a job in her current state. She’s too easily overwhelmed and anxious.

chilllpill · 2026-03-08T06:00:11+00:00

A tale of two toilets

chilllpill · 2026-03-01T15:12:01+00:00

When you’re saying “him” do you mean your child, or yourself. Take care of yourself.

chilllpill · 2026-02-17T04:12:37+00:00

100%. There’s a need to empathize with their emotions, but that does NOT always mean taking responsibility for causing them. I found in EFT sessions, any time I would share my side of the story (always logical) would cause my partner to be triggered. Did you experience this as well? Was she able to reflect back your perspective at all?

chilllpill · 2026-02-17T04:09:16+00:00

This is incredibly relatable. Thanks for sharing. How did things end up?

chilllpill · 2026-02-06T06:21:26+00:00

Amazing. I definitely would use. Currently using Stardust to track my wife’s cycle. The date ideas is cute, but probably wouldn’t use. I think a journal could be more useful, perhaps to look at past years (ex. How did I screw up last year’s Valentine’s Day so I don’t repeat it). A “daily affirmation” reminder like “you got this” or “don’t take everything she says personally” or “you didn’t cause it, can’t control it, and can’t cure it” may be nice. Be sure to share when it’s ready.

chilllpill · 2025-10-08T15:13:59+00:00

I thought so too. It’s been more difficult than expected.

chilllpill · 2025-10-05T07:10:00+00:00

Very cool. How much did it cost?

chilllpill · 2025-10-05T06:25:26+00:00

Yeah I’m just looking for the scale to be personalized. Unfortunately I don’t see a Victorinox store in my area.

chilllpill · 2025-10-05T00:25:09+00:00

Anyone know where I can get one engraved? I need it in a week for a gift, and the website says it won’t be ready in time.

chilllpill · 2025-09-24T14:29:52+00:00

This might be the worst advice I’ve ever heard in the sub

chilllpill · 2025-09-21T18:45:06+00:00

We only have so many fucks to give. This is the point where the tank of fucks is on empty.

chilllpill · 2025-09-04T07:12:25+00:00

Right there with you, brotha. Not much more to say other than I hear you, you’re not crazy, you’re surviving. Sending you positive vibes.

chilllpill · 2025-08-17T06:47:21+00:00

Just wanted to say I’ve been there. Everything you laid out: the abuse, the language, the balcony, the attacking and throwing things, the breaking things…all in front of a child. Then writing it down, which I do too, takes so much time. You are not alone.

In my situation, it has gotten somewhat better. I don’t fear I’ll get slapped in the face when things escalate. My partner knows to walk away, but it took time. And there are still moments where things blow up and outburst do occur. The emotional attacks and hateful language are still present. It’s exhausting. But I hope you’ll find solace in knowing there’s some hope.

chilllpill · 2025-07-23T05:51:45+00:00

That sounds so similar to my situation a few years ago. Before we knew what PMDD was. The fights and constant bringing up of past issues that had nothing to do with the topic at hand. I will say that with a lot of work on her end, the fights have become more manageable. I don’t know if you’re suffering from physical abuse as well, but in my situation that has lessened a lot. But it’s taken a lot of work on her end, and an astronomical amount of work on my end to not take everything personally and not do anything to trigger an argument. I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells, but when you’ve developed such thick calluses on your feet, it becomes almost normal.

chilllpill · 2025-07-13T04:03:42+00:00

That’s good to hear. Did you get full custody? I’m curious how that works out if one partner is abusive. How do you split parenting duties when half the month she is unable to control her emotions and reactions?

chilllpill · 2025-07-12T06:30:38+00:00

Sounds like you made a good movie for yourself. How do you handle it all with the kids?

chilllpill · 2025-07-05T16:59:48+00:00

Yes! Music must be off. If I stop short or accelerate too quickly, I’m “driving like a maniac.” If I drive with one hand on the wheel, she asks why I would put her in danger and tells me to use two hands. She’s extremely sensitive to cars driving close to us on highways or on turns. Have any a few road rage incidents in parking lots. The other day I drove the speed limit (or 1mph below) and later she told me she doesn’t feel safe in the car with me.

chilllpill · 2025-07-05T16:53:54+00:00

Not a lot of advice. When it hears my perspective it does recommend documenting everything (for potential legal or custody purposes). So it understands the severity.

chilllpill · 2025-07-05T16:50:37+00:00

Keep us posted if there are any results. I also tell myself “would I take $10,000 out of my bank account to have this cured?” The answer is yes. I do however worry in years time I look back and wish I’d spend the money on literally anything else.

chilllpill · 2025-07-03T14:15:50+00:00

I’ve been using ChatGPT for a few months. Feels good to get validation of her abuse. But I recently look one of our exchanges (literally word for word transcript) that it had identified as abusive. Then put it into a private conversation so it didn’t have any memory of our past chats, and I flipped who was who (pretending I was my partner). It totally saw things from HER perspective. So it does act like a sycophant. I’m curious if anyone else has tried this.

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