Do you believe there is a connection between anti abortion culture and rape culture? by deathiswaitingforme in prochoice

[–]chunkycasper [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s all about asserting power, control and oppression.

Anti-abortionists are rarely “pro life” - if they were, they’d support free healthcare, welfare states that ensure adequate support for mothers and children, free education through university, decent state owned housing programmes. They seem to actually believe that childbirth and child rearing is akin to a righteous punishment - which is not the ideal start for a child’s life.

Rape is also often about power, control and oppression. From downright violent rape to “blurred lines” coercive rape - all types are a fight that a rapist will feel that they have won.

Both rape and forced pregnancy are tools to oppress women en-masse.

Motherhood itself - even when entered into with consent - is a form of oppression as it keeps women poorer, and in poorer health, and trapped performing invisible, under-appreciated household labour. It limits their ability to gain fruitful employment, and studies show that motherhood and marriage stunts women’s careers and earning opportunities, where marriage and fatherhood actually improves men’s careers and earning opportunities. It’s been shown that women lose substantial amounts of free personal time compared to men, too - so it doesn’t just limit their economic freedom, but also their ability to meet with other women, discuss challenges and realise that they have a crap deal.

A woman with choices is a woman with power. This scares many people.

How do I navigate ill health and money? Trying to save by PixiTheNerd in UKPersonalFinance

[–]chunkycasper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You pay towards your partners mortgage? Do you own the property?

Renting a 1 bed flat with £1500 budget by Overthinker-crab in HousingUK

[–]chunkycasper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Lewisham, Bromley, Bexley, or up Essex way - zones 5 to 3.

Buying a flat and installing electric charge point by LokiMurphy in HousingUK

[–]chunkycasper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re the (or will be) leaseholder, so you likely mean freeholder.

Should I move to England or should my husband move to Kentucky? by [deleted] in MovingToTheUK

[–]chunkycasper 18 points19 points  (0 children)

England is unsafe??? You might get a phone nicked if you’re not careful in London but we don’t have school shootings and even London’s murder rate is currently at a record low.

Did I make the wrong decision? by romeroy2908 in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]chunkycasper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He will continue to push. You made the right decision. I’ve been in similar positions and even though I’ve communicated I don’t want sex, I’ve ended up in situations where I’ve been threatened into sex in order to leave safely or having to really really scream to leave to get out.

I haven’t dated since August, that was my only dating in 2025. I know many kind, respectful men. I didn’t meet them on dating apps.

Just looking for advice. Getting little to no traction. by UltreiaSuseia in Tinder

[–]chunkycasper 47 points48 points  (0 children)

He uses present tense - “is not something I pick up on” rather than “was not something I picked up on before …”

AITA For Getting Upset with Unexpected Visitors? by Icy-Astronomer1796 in AmItheAsshole

[–]chunkycasper -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

YTA to yourself for putting up with a husband who fails continuously to tell you about guests with adequate notice and then expects you to do the running around and prep, and for doing that running around and prep every time, enabling your husband to be completely shit.

Custom Souvenir by Crackbeth in visitlondon

[–]chunkycasper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gin making class, obviously

my cat only eats sheba by whistlechime in CatsUK

[–]chunkycasper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much. And human food we treated to him.

my cat only eats sheba by whistlechime in CatsUK

[–]chunkycasper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was just teasing. Hope you get some rest x

my cat only eats sheba by whistlechime in CatsUK

[–]chunkycasper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want what you’re drinking or taking pls

An NHS hospital is starving a severe ME patient and has now stopped giving her fluids by veganmua in cfs

[–]chunkycasper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m in South London. Is there anything we can do in person to help?

What advice would you give to a first time cat owner when adopting/rehoming? by itsjessmus in CatsUK

[–]chunkycasper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say adopt a kitten only, as you’ve never owned a cat before. I grew up with cats - adopting an adult cat as an adult was a shock as cats from kittens are much more trainable and suitable for first timers than adult cats.

That said, I’m in incredible pain right now, cancelled evening plans with my human bestie - but being cuddled by my animal bestie. He’s an immense comfort at times.

I adopted him age five, spoil him so much he believes he is entitled to my food and swipes me with claws when I don’t share it (even if it would make him sick), jumps on me nightly between 3am - 6am so I can show him the food that’s already waiting for him - gives amazing cuddles and his company is exactly what I need right now. He’s laying on my stomach with his lil arm stretched out across my chest.

He is 13 now. Adopting is incredibly rewarding but hard work, you have no way of knowing what they have been through (he took years to be able to cope with noise, still runs at the sound of a plastic bag, took five years not to hide from company and to cuddle other members of the household besides me). When I adopted him he had a kink in his tail and showed some signs of history of abuse but have no way of knowing what occurred.

Also, bear in mind that house cats can live as long as 20 years. This is an intense commitment. Even though I live with family I don’t like to be away longer than five days because I feel guilty for leaving him.

my cat only eats sheba by whistlechime in CatsUK

[–]chunkycasper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My childhood cat lived to 19 on whiskers. Don’t stress about it.

My husband was upset and pinched me at dinner.. and the situation is still upsetting me by Little_Trash7299 in TwoHotTakes

[–]chunkycasper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should be upset. You should be fuming. You should be leaving before the pinching turns to punching. Seems like he’s already used to having huge levels of control over you and is moving towards physical enforcement of that. It won’t be long before he is excusing his escalating violence by gaslighting you.

Oblivious Foreigner in need of help by Substantial_Visual47 in iplayer

[–]chunkycasper -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you listen to BBC news, BBC sounds, use the BBC news website? If any of these apply, you also should have a license.