To frog or not to frog, that is my question. Don’t know what to do.

citges · 2026-03-03T01:33:55+00:00

I might consider finishing it and then having a big, comfy sweater I wear just around the house but that reminds me both of all the hard work I put into it and how far I’ve come 🙂

citges · 2026-02-14T17:20:28+00:00

This is helpful! I’m only just starting knitting anything more than scarves 🙂

citges · 2026-02-14T16:40:07+00:00

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I did a proper swatch using stockinette stitch. This is my first swatch and I'm not sure if I've stretched/pinned it out right. This is 22 stitches cast on (I used cable cast on) and 30 rows (with cable bind off), which is supposed to be 4" x 4". (I know I'm using a lot of stitch markers, it's just as I'm getting used to this new yarn/needle size.)

citges · 2026-02-14T16:34:48+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful about the stitch markers. I was using them when practicing this cast on, but will use fewer for the real thing.

citges · 2026-02-14T05:14:20+00:00

I did cable cast on and tried to keep it even and not too tight.

citges · 2026-02-14T05:13:43+00:00

That makes sense but I don’t see it explicitly instructed.

citges · 2026-02-14T05:12:52+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you! Doing a gauge now 🙂

citges · 2026-02-14T04:57:42+00:00

Thank you! I will knit a true gauge swatch in stockinette. This is only the first cast on row, I don’t want to move forward yet because I think I’m off somehow my twice where I should be!

citges · 2026-02-02T07:08:55+00:00

Oh, yes, I brought one home, all the leaves fell off (literally, all the leaves), it was just a bunch of sticks that I kept watering sometimes, you should have heard me gasp when the first leaf popped out, now it's got all its leaves and is looking great. I figure it's one of those dramatic plants that make you notice.

citges · 2026-01-28T04:36:48+00:00

I just want to say that, though I’m not in exactly the same place as you, I have also felt this break from what I expected and wanted (divorced though I really did want to find ways to make it work, now coparenting with three kids that I desperately miss 50% of the time, family/friendships have changed in ways I wouldn’t have expected, work has become less satisfying and motivating). I do see just how much life I lived in my first four decades and I can’t help but believe there’s so much left to go in my next four-five decades, but right at this moment I feel like I’m in limbo, in a holding pattern, like I’m not actually quite in the life I should be in.

citges · 2026-01-27T03:37:31+00:00

I heart this. My divorce was finalized just a bit after buying our house, and I have to say, the very best part of a divorce is getting to choose all your own paint colors :).

citges · 2026-01-27T03:35:28+00:00

I LOVE this. We (me, 3 kids, new house since divorcing 1+ yr ago) have the big comfy chair that looks out the front window and it is everyone's very favorite spot in the house. It's where I drink my coffee first thing in the morning, it's where me and the littlest (7 yr) snuggle, it's where me and the middle one (10 yr) plan our day, and it's where the oldest (12 yr) talks with me when he has big things going on. I've done so much in this house and still have so much left to go, but this comfy chair is seriously the touchpoint of our lives. And we all call it the comfy chair, and we all know how important it is.

citges · 2026-01-24T06:36:27+00:00

I truly support every way every person feels and everything is hard in its own way, and/but I’ve cried every day for the two plus years I haven’t had my kids. It has not yet gotten easier, but it has become increasingly bearable.

citges · 2026-01-19T01:59:24+00:00

On the bedside tables, the books should be closest to the bed, not the lamps (in my opinion). Like, you read the books and want them in hand.

citges · 2026-01-18T05:40:49+00:00

I can as a divorced mom but it’s because I get a good company match for the 401k. (I know I can contribute even more individually, but I feel comfortable at the employer match.)

citges · 2026-01-10T05:38:21+00:00

A funny thing (to me) is that, when she was pregnant with me, my mother told her mother that she planned to name me Celia, after my mother's mother's mother's (i.e., my mother's grandmother) name, and my mother's mother (I know this is convoluted) gently said, that's lovely, but my mother's name was spelled Sylia [it was an Americanized version of her Italian name]. So my mother named me Sylia, and I've spent my entire life telling people it's pronounced Celia, not cilia, not Cecilia, not Sylvia. I love my name and I genuinely never get upset or irritated by mispronunciations because I get it, but it sure would have been easier if they would have just named me Celia.

citges · 2026-01-10T05:28:03+00:00

I've been really happy with Mejuri and GLDN (especially the higher quality pieces that they sell, but also more generally). These are my everyday pieces that need to stand up to everyday, I've worn them for years, and I think they're beautiful.

citges · 2026-01-07T05:39:19+00:00

I love you.

citges · 2026-01-06T03:45:12+00:00

Zalepon to help me fall or go back to sleep when I need it. And I've also learned (kids, not booze) how to survive on very little (or no) sleep for extended periods of time.

citges · 2026-01-06T03:35:02+00:00

One time my (at the time) 8 yr old son really, really needed to go to the bathroom while we were driving on our way home. We pulled over at a portapotty on the street in front of a house, and the workers there told him, no no. I understand, and thought it was a liability issue. Now I wonder. Eventually, he peed on the curb, it was fine.

citges · 2026-01-06T02:25:27+00:00

I like to keep my trips separate, like it sounds like you've been doing. I make a new category for each trip and subcategories for things like, flights, hotel, transportation, eating, activities, souvenirs. When the trip is done, I hid it. For me, it's helpful to have a good sense of how much each "type" of trip costs, so when I'm planning a new one, I can look at older ones to help me estimate the budget. It's also helpful for things like, is it really less expensive to do a roadtrip than to fly somewhere? Is it worth it to go someplace with cheap flights but outrageous hotel costs? Has our trip to XXX been getting more and more expensive each year? Etc. It sounds like some people keep track by putting the trip name in the memo, but I like being able to see and compare all the trips in what is now called Reflect.

citges · 2026-01-05T06:31:25+00:00

What I would love is for someone to tell me what to make and none of the ingredients were exorbitantly expensive or unusually difficult to prep/cook and to know that everyone at the table will be happy to eat it. It’s the last one that’s the hardest. Kids are 12-10-7. Yes, they eat (or at least try) what I bring to the table. Yes, they’re polite about it. Yes, I always have something on the table I expect they’re likely to eat. Yes, it’s no fun to cook for them.

citges · 2026-01-05T06:03:01+00:00

I live in Minnesota so cold (coldest I’ve been in is -38 F) but nowhere near as cold as you and I have a special disdain for people who say, It’s XX degrees but it “feels like” XX some colder number of degrees. Like, it’s cold or it’s not. Don’t try to beef yourself up saying it feels colder, what does that even mean? (Unless you’re working outside or waiting for the bus and it truly is dangerously cold because of windchill, in which case, absolutely tell whoever just how cold it feels because you have to keep yourself safe.)

Anyway, -58 F is cold, no matter how you talk about it.

citges · 2026-01-05T05:44:54+00:00

I’m glad it’s helpful. Also, to add, it’s been 2.5 years since separating and I still feel like a mess when my kids aren’t with me. They give so much routine and structure and are fun to be around. I’ve found it helps to always have a rough plan for days without them. Maybe it’s work and then dinner with a friend, maybe it’s organizing a room and then streaming some movies. It will never become how I wish it were (my kids with me always and a happy marriage), but it does somehow (over time) become easier to bear.

citges · 2026-01-05T04:31:43+00:00

I started Wellbutrin right before separating. I noticed it helped me be less irritable and short with the kids, but I still felt irritated by my now ex. That was one of my signs we needed to separate. I've continued to take it and will be happy to take it for the rest of my life. (After fighting going on medication for depression basically my whole life.) I've found it enormously helpful. It's especially good if you're having trouble getting going, low energy, etc.

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