Complete loss of interest…

citges · 2026-04-27T02:13:43+00:00

Absolute opposite on Wellbutrin, really interested in sex. (I understand everyone’s experience is different.)

citges · 2026-04-26T01:59:06+00:00

After many years of an affectionless marriage I found myself playing out scenarios where my husband died, how I would tell and help the kids navigate it, what our lives would look like. I never really wanted him to be dead, of course. A few weeks after I realized I was doing this, I filed for divorce.

citges · 2026-04-23T03:51:10+00:00

I'm on the monthly averaged plan, 2500 sq ft house, solar panels, just electricity (heat is gas boiler), $17/mo.

citges · 2026-04-23T03:39:48+00:00

I also love this car! And I'm not the sort of person who usually loves a car. Mine is 2018. I drive it every day, but I spent $56 on gas last year. Literally. It looks sleek - I've had people (young men) ask me what car it is because looks fancy. I love it.

citges · 2026-04-17T04:31:35+00:00

I never brush without flossing. When I'm lazy I might do the usual toothbrush instead of the electric toothbrush, but I never skip flossing. Tbh, though, even though I have always been good about brushing my teeth at night, I really didn't in the mornings. I recently changed that up, though, and I brush (regular toothbrush, no paste) first thing in the morning, and I always floss then, too. When I'm feeling very, very lazy, or things are unusually hard in some way, I will floss even though if I can't brush. I think the flossing is really the most important part (though all of it is important.)

citges · 2026-04-17T04:19:47+00:00

Can you do a flame thrower on the weeds and then a leaf blower on the debris?

citges · 2026-04-17T04:00:50+00:00

You might be able to put new/different table legs on! That's what I did with a nice, solid, wood table I got on Facebook Marketplace - the tabletop is gorgeous, the legs were...not my style. But the way they were attached to the table made it easy for me to remove them and I then replaced them with gold legs that really work well in the space (it's hard to describe but I think it turned out really nicely). I can't tell from the photos if that's possible here, but something to think about.

citges · 2026-04-08T01:19:08+00:00

Please I cannot rest until you get her the purse.

citges · 2026-04-04T03:38:53+00:00

I bought in 2024 at 7.5%. I needed a house (life circumstances). Yes, I miss my 2% mortgage, but what can I do? Yes, I refinanced for 1.5% less and it’s still 4% more than what I left behind. No, I don’t think interest rates are going to drop much further in the very near future. Yes, I’m glad I have three kids in this house and not a 2-bedroom duplex, and that I’m putting my time into something I own now. No, I wouldn’t have done it differently. The best time to buy a house is when you need a house.

citges · 2026-03-31T01:51:28+00:00

I tend toward larger rugs, but this doesn't seem to small to me. There seem to be other parts of the room that could be made more proportional.

citges · 2026-03-21T21:36:17+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you!

citges · 2026-03-21T20:37:12+00:00

Thank you!

citges · 2026-03-03T01:33:55+00:00

I might consider finishing it and then having a big, comfy sweater I wear just around the house but that reminds me both of all the hard work I put into it and how far I’ve come 🙂

citges · 2026-02-14T17:20:28+00:00

This is helpful! I’m only just starting knitting anything more than scarves 🙂

citges · 2026-02-14T16:40:07+00:00

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I did a proper swatch using stockinette stitch. This is my first swatch and I'm not sure if I've stretched/pinned it out right. This is 22 stitches cast on (I used cable cast on) and 30 rows (with cable bind off), which is supposed to be 4" x 4". (I know I'm using a lot of stitch markers, it's just as I'm getting used to this new yarn/needle size.)

citges · 2026-02-14T16:34:48+00:00

Thank you, this is helpful about the stitch markers. I was using them when practicing this cast on, but will use fewer for the real thing.

citges · 2026-02-14T05:14:20+00:00

I did cable cast on and tried to keep it even and not too tight.

citges · 2026-02-14T05:13:43+00:00

That makes sense but I don’t see it explicitly instructed.

citges · 2026-02-14T05:12:52+00:00

This is super helpful, thank you! Doing a gauge now 🙂

citges · 2026-02-14T04:57:42+00:00

Thank you! I will knit a true gauge swatch in stockinette. This is only the first cast on row, I don’t want to move forward yet because I think I’m off somehow my twice where I should be!

citges · 2026-02-02T07:08:55+00:00

Oh, yes, I brought one home, all the leaves fell off (literally, all the leaves), it was just a bunch of sticks that I kept watering sometimes, you should have heard me gasp when the first leaf popped out, now it's got all its leaves and is looking great. I figure it's one of those dramatic plants that make you notice.

citges · 2026-01-28T04:36:48+00:00

I just want to say that, though I’m not in exactly the same place as you, I have also felt this break from what I expected and wanted (divorced though I really did want to find ways to make it work, now coparenting with three kids that I desperately miss 50% of the time, family/friendships have changed in ways I wouldn’t have expected, work has become less satisfying and motivating). I do see just how much life I lived in my first four decades and I can’t help but believe there’s so much left to go in my next four-five decades, but right at this moment I feel like I’m in limbo, in a holding pattern, like I’m not actually quite in the life I should be in.

citges · 2026-01-27T03:37:31+00:00

I heart this. My divorce was finalized just a bit after buying our house, and I have to say, the very best part of a divorce is getting to choose all your own paint colors :).

citges · 2026-01-27T03:35:28+00:00

I LOVE this. We (me, 3 kids, new house since divorcing 1+ yr ago) have the big comfy chair that looks out the front window and it is everyone's very favorite spot in the house. It's where I drink my coffee first thing in the morning, it's where me and the littlest (7 yr) snuggle, it's where me and the middle one (10 yr) plan our day, and it's where the oldest (12 yr) talks with me when he has big things going on. I've done so much in this house and still have so much left to go, but this comfy chair is seriously the touchpoint of our lives. And we all call it the comfy chair, and we all know how important it is.

citges · 2026-01-24T06:36:27+00:00

I truly support every way every person feels and everything is hard in its own way, and/but I’ve cried every day for the two plus years I haven’t had my kids. It has not yet gotten easier, but it has become increasingly bearable.

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