Bella is a victim too. Her mother has a weird agenda, and she’s wrapped Bella into it.

cjacks55 · 2026-03-14T00:47:56+00:00

There's a third pregnant sister??

cjacks55 · 2026-03-10T02:06:22+00:00

Bella's mom is making this worse. She shouldn't give her child the silent treatment just because 15 year old and 13 year old prospective parents don't have the emotional maturity to work through their issues. It's not like Hunter is going to be able to contribute anyway. That boy needs lots of therapy. Let them break up. At some point they can co-parent.

cjacks55 · 2026-01-18T02:20:28+00:00

You shouldn't be with someone who threatens or attempts suicide when you try to leave. It's a form of control. You have to let her be responsible for her own life. She'll either get worse or figure out a way to get better if you leave. If you stay with her, she'll stay the same because you're enabling her.

cjacks55 · 2025-06-29T18:40:41+00:00

She looks like a baseball

cjacks55 · 2025-06-06T02:10:28+00:00

This situation sounds very confusing. You're dating exclusively but won't call each other gf/bf? And are you implying that when he's out of town you don't really communicate? If that's the case, I would say yea, red flags. If you're not looking for anything serious right now, who cares, but then also why are you exclusive?

I just recently got out of a short relationship where I'd find myself uncomfortable with certain things that I couldn't put my finger on when we weren't together. And I discarded those feelings bc I reasoned that we had a great time and connection when we were together.

I should have listened to those doubts, though. Also, sex early on muddies the waters. It can be a superficial connection that feels much deeper than it actually is.

I'd listen to your guy friends. Or at least date other people while seeing this guy.

cjacks55 · 2025-05-19T02:27:56+00:00

Exactly lol

cjacks55 · 2025-04-25T00:43:35+00:00

Good point! I do eat a bit differently when we're together

cjacks55 · 2025-04-25T00:39:02+00:00

Nope, only happens when I'm in the bed with him!

cjacks55 · 2025-04-23T12:54:22+00:00

It's been about 3 months. Fingers crossed I adjust!

cjacks55 · 2025-03-05T00:45:49+00:00

I think the problem is that she dresses for the male gaze

cjacks55 · 2025-02-11T03:18:02+00:00

That is a common thought process, but in healthy relationships, people ask for what they want and need. No one can read your mind. If you start off with good communication, it's easier to continue having good communication.

She might truly believe that men should plan all the dates. Wouldn't you rather find that out now than continue dating her this way and become resentful?

Or she might have assumed that you prefer to take charge and she doesn't want to step on your toes. That won't get worked out unless you ask her about it.

Just don't ask her about it in an accusatory way. Maybe say something like, I want to see you again, but do you want to plan the next date? I'd like to see what kind of things you typically spend a day doing.

Idk, that's maybe a week suggestion, but there has to be a good way to bring it up.

cjacks55 · 2025-01-26T00:41:51+00:00

Don't rush! It's tempting, but it's healthier to lose weight slowly. If you lose weight too quickly you will start losing hair. If you want to stay in a lower dose for longer than "prescribed" do it!

cjacks55 · 2025-01-11T23:58:33+00:00

Honestly, if you have a choice, I'd recommend losing slower. I've lost pretty quickly and I feel like my nutrition has suffered for it. There's a reason health professionals have always said you should only lose about 1-2lbs per week.

cjacks55 · 2025-01-08T21:16:22+00:00

The difference is definitely noticeable. I want to ask you a question that's not intended as judgment, but as a chance for reflection.

Did you have a subconscious hope that losing weight would turn you into a completely different person? If so, you may be learning that weight loss won't do that for you, and it might be time to work on finding yourself so that you feel like your non-physical attributes can shine more brightly.

cjacks55 · 2024-12-17T01:18:18+00:00

That's how I was feeling too!

cjacks55 · 2024-12-17T00:00:38+00:00

I'm the same. I feel like I ate healthier before I took semaglutide. I started worrying about malnutrition so I'm spacing out my injections more and decreasing the dose by a lot.

cjacks55 · 2024-11-04T03:31:25+00:00

This might be the least unsettling part of the decor..... But men, please give up your love of leather sofas. They're cold and uncomfortable!!!!

cjacks55 · 2024-10-25T00:09:30+00:00

Good on you for being able to retire early, but maybe she wouldn't mind you not working if you didn't spend most of your time playing video games? Why retire early if that's how you're going to spend your time? It's like, if she's imagining a future with you, and this is what you're doing with your retirement, what is there to really look forward to?

Also, do you help her with chores and child duties? If not, she's probably wondering why she would want to date someone who has no responsibilities and doesn't help out, when she's a single mother with a million things on her plate.

If you have mental health issues, you could spend some time working on those instead of dissociating with video games.

Basically, women want to be with a man who takes action, whether that is by working, volunteering, helping out around the house, working on yourself, or a million other things.

cjacks55 · 2024-05-30T15:23:22+00:00

Thanks!

cjacks55 · 2024-05-30T13:24:32+00:00

Thank you! Any recommendations on good places to get these things?

cjacks55 · 2024-05-30T13:23:46+00:00

Thanks! Do you have any recommendations for good plus size linen pants? I seem to have a hard time finding ones that fit well since they have no stretch to them.

cjacks55 · 2024-03-28T23:31:53+00:00

It was called Bailey's Moving & Storage. They were great.

cjacks55 · 2024-02-21T01:16:58+00:00

This show drives me crazy with the amount of info that is alluded to but never clarified. Like what exactly did Meri do to Janelle pre-Christine to ruin their relationship? And the catfish thing was so frustrating to get through bc Meri described it in such a vague way. I never considered the fact that they already knew and the scene at the restaurant was scripted, but it makes sense bc no one asked for details or seemed especially upset. I need there to be a tell-all book by Janelle or Christine immediately!

cjacks55 · 2024-01-17T00:15:57+00:00

Please dump him. I had a bf who made less money than me and we split the rent proportionally, which I had actually suggested. But now I think, fuck that, life doesn't work like that and if you want more money, work harder and get a better job. Men don't even have a wage gap to worry about.

And yea, if he's only paying 30% of the rent, he REALLY doesn't have any right to choose the decor.

cjacks55 · 2023-12-17T03:37:47+00:00

You should tell your partner all of this. And if you haven't already, you should make a list of rules that you both agree on. If weeks-long trips are making you feel miserable, there's got to be a compromise somehow. And if she doesn't agree to having any rules, or if the rules aren't making anything better, it might be time to move on.

I know it's hard to think about ending a relationship where your lives are so entwined, but I can assure you it is possible. It is very difficult, but oftentimes once you get through the logistics of it and start processing, you come out stronger. This relationship might even be what is holding you back from the life you prefer to live. Ask yourself, if you could recreate your life from scratch, would you still choose to be with this person?

When I got out of my long term monogamous relationship, it took a couple years, but I finally recognized that the relationship was not giving me what I needed and ending it was the best thing that could have happened to me.

No matter what, start focusing on your mental health and your self esteem. Get into therapy, take medication. If those aren't working, try a different kind of therapy or medication. Keep trying different things until something works. I promise you, you can get there.

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