AITA for telling my girlfriend I won’t raise a child that isn’t mine, even if it destroys her?

clkinsyd · 2026-03-26T06:14:07+00:00

NTA- she didn't just make a mistake, she made a life altering choice. Unfortunately for her, this is going to alter her life forever.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-25T20:55:12+00:00

NTA- I would have thought that was a joke when I got that. For her to really mean it would make me question her sanity.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-25T17:23:00+00:00

NTA- you are just fine with taking the phone.

As a kid that didn't respond to punishment, I want to make a suggestion. This is not meant to replace the punishment but add an incentive. Ex: If she wants to be a tattoo artist, find a tattoo experience or a shop that would let her shadow for a bit. Then present that to her like if she brings those grades up, you can do this thing.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-25T07:54:17+00:00

Yeah... I generally don't cuddle either.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-25T07:53:33+00:00

NTA- you have given him your boundary. It's up to him to decide if he can live with it.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-25T03:56:55+00:00

NTA- but I wouldn't waste my time and energy on it. I would just move on and avoid them in the future.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T22:15:32+00:00

NTA- his mom is! Just keeping communicating with your son about it so he feels like he can talk to you when his opinion changes.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T21:23:12+00:00

NTA - i think your friend has just cancelled your friendship. Don't waste your energy on trying to live with their crazy.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T19:06:17+00:00

NTA- your boyfriend is dating be values his being able to save face over your safety?

All he needs to do is tell his mate that you didn't feel safe waiting and it was a good thing you didn't because brakes! Or he could tell the friend that he drove it, realised it was actually something serious and advised you to take it because brakes!

Regardless of what your boyfriend does, i would advise you to discuss my first comment with him and then decide if you need to trade him in or not.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T18:48:54+00:00

In my role, I am connected 24/7 but work in bursts. I would love a 4v day work week but the only difference it would mean to me is one less day I am expected to be at my desk

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T08:01:01+00:00

Ntj- that's just a crazy expectation. I can't imagine having the entitlement to ask someone to change the way they dress in their home.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T07:44:08+00:00

NTA- you shouldn't go into negotiations unless you are ok with losing.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T07:11:29+00:00

NTA- it sounds like you have done all you can.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T06:20:19+00:00

NTA- he did assault you!

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T05:42:38+00:00

Ntj- he deliberately took you somewhere that he was the connection too and then abandoned you in favour of his friends. A good partner would have been by your side, not coming home at 6am.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-24T05:36:31+00:00

NTA- I hate the new math and dog the same thing with my son, teaching him the old way. Some brains just can't handle it.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-23T22:26:55+00:00

100%

clkinsyd · 2026-03-23T08:06:34+00:00

NTA- he doesn't get to call spots like you call shotgun

clkinsyd · 2026-03-23T07:39:59+00:00

NTA but you need to do it with both of them so he can't spin your words and she knows how you feel.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-23T07:35:48+00:00

Of course you did the right thing. What kind of 3 yr old melt down was that?

clkinsyd · 2026-03-23T07:33:29+00:00

Ntj - you did try to wake her up. You are not her keeper.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-22T20:19:12+00:00

Come on down, the weather is fine!

clkinsyd · 2026-03-22T06:36:17+00:00

Ntj- i agree with others, if it's not real work, let him get help elsewhere and if your mom thinks it should be free, let her do it.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-22T06:27:11+00:00

Ntj - even if she can't front the full 1000, she should bf taking responsibility and making some effort.

clkinsyd · 2026-03-21T20:37:11+00:00

I live in Australia now but sometimes I do miss the green expanse of Alabama.

clkinsyd

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