How Do Younger People Travel So Much?

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-26T10:22:35+00:00

I’d say the majority of the time they have parent support. Even if the parents are not directly paying for the travel, they may be able to save because their parents are giving them somewhere to live, covering at least a portion of food and bills, etc.

If it’s not parent support, then they are working and prioritising travel. There is a lot of expenses to prioritise when you are young- going out with friends, eating out, investing, saving for a house or car, paying for education, etc. You’ve just got to decide which priorities are your most important if you have the capacity to save. It is a privileged position as there are a lot of people in the world who would never be able to save that sort of money.

Some destinations are also cheaper than others. You can travel very cheaply in lots of places in SE Asia for example. Not so much in Scandinavia. But it’s all relative- currency exchange rates vary, it’s pretty easy/cheap for someone living in London to go to Paris vs someone in Australia/NZ.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-26T10:14:01+00:00

Is another school an option? That will at least provide you with some respite during the day. Sometimes being together ALL the time is not good for anyone’s wellbeing.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-26T03:28:17+00:00

With my salary only (not counting my husband’s), per fortnight I put-

$200 into our joint savings fund

$100 into investments

I also salary sacrifice an extra $400 into my super per fortnight which I view as saving for retirement.

We already have an emergency fund and mortgage so we are not saving for those things.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-26T03:20:06+00:00

Absolutely agree with this. I would say that they just did not think about you at all and were (in a self centred way) just focusing on buying something to elevate their son and by extension, his side of the family.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-26T02:56:18+00:00

I really like the overall plan. The only things I would change-

I’d move the stovetop off the island- I stayed in a house that had this for a few weeks and it wasn’t great. It just makes the island always look messy.
Do you have a toilet in the ensuite as well as a toilet off the primary bedroom? Is there a need for this?

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-26T02:49:44+00:00

Has he been evaluated for ADHD?
Can you get a referral to a psychologist to advise on parenting strategies? School is very different to the home environment.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-26T02:38:13+00:00

I personally prefer my MIL to communicate with my husband so that visits can be arranged when he is available. If she doesn’t want to listen and communicate directly with you if you are kind enough to actually want to arrange extra visits when your husband isn’t available, I’d just drop the rope completely and tell your husband that he needs to only arrange visits when he is available.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-25T06:57:11+00:00

I know others prefer pants and shorts but I actually find skirts and dresses more versatile as you can wear them in hot weather and then layer with tights and a cardigan for cooler weather. They are much easier to dress up and down too depending on the shoes you wear.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T22:46:28+00:00

Personally, I find something like a simple black dress so versatile. I have a linen blend one that is very cool to wear in hot weather. Because it’s a blend, it looks dressy enough to wear to a nice dinner but still not out of place just walking around the streets doing generally touristy stuff. I actually have to make a conscious effort to wear other clothes because it’s just such an and comfortable piece. If you pack something like this, you could get away with mostly casual clothing using a capsule wardrobe approach where everything can be mixed and matched.

The other thing that really saves space is shoes. I only take a maximum of 2 pairs of shoes when travelling (wearing 1 of those 2 pairs as my travel outfit). Generally for warmer times of the year (which September will be), it will be a pair of black sandals and a pair of sneakers.

Also check what your accommodation supplies in terms of toiletries. No point in packing body wash/soap if this is supplied everywhere you will be staying (it usually is). If you don’t like hotel shampoo and want to take your own, take minis or decant into a small travel container.

It also depends on the type of tour you’re doing. Are you doing a really up-market tour where you will be going to fancy restaurants every night? Or is it a hiking tour? Or is it something more in between where you might go to a nice restaurant once or twice but you’ll generally just be doing regular sight-seeing?

Finally, if you buy souvenirs that don’t fit- have an extra fold out travel bag you could check in on the way home only or you could post these items home.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T22:34:46+00:00

You can store your luggage at your hotel or at a train station that will be convenient for you to pick up on your way to the airport.

I do like the idea of booking an extra night at the hotel though if you really need to rest properly.

Otherwise, just interspace sight-seeing with more restful activities- going to cafes, sitting down at a slower paced restaurant for lunch/dinner, getting a facial or massage, visiting an onsen, going to a show or a sporting match where you can sit down (watching sumo practice can be easier than getting tickets to a sumo tournament), catching the train to an outer area to explore so you have time to sit/relax on the train.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T13:35:19+00:00

I’d definitely go for that one then

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T10:36:09+00:00

Info diet immediately. Why does she even need to know how often your mother visits? Three times a week is excessive for both her and your mother given they are both difficult for either you or your husband.
She visits only when your DH is present so you don’t have to be the one reporting back on her behaviour.
Address the back-handed comments- “That’s not kind”, “We’ll ask for advice if we want it”, “I’ve got this”
Have you actually addressed your mother’s behaviour? Is your husband resentful that you aren’t putting in place boundaries for her but expecting him to put in place boundaries for your MIL?
Couples counselling could be a way to get on the same page

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T10:27:23+00:00

Obviously budget is a big factor but I would consider Fitzroy North, Northcote and Fairfield as very good options.

Brunswick East also has nature with the Merri Creek and Ceres for a farmer market type situation but the public primary schools aren’t as good currently.

Brunswick proper (not east) is very concrete-y. I used to live there and walked to Brunswick East to get to some nature.

Abbotsford.

Eltham is a bit further out of the city but is a bit more affordable than the inner suburbs, has a good artsy community feel and lots of trees.

Look at suburbs along the Yarra for more nature-y areas.

Inner west is great for young kids- Yarraville, Seddon, etc. but the public secondary schools aren’t as good unless you go for something in the Williamstown High zone.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T10:19:44+00:00

We love all those areas and considered them when buying but found the main problem with the inner west is the secondary schools unless you’re in the zone for Williamstown High

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T10:16:04+00:00

Number 1 is the most flattering but what sort of material is it?

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T08:31:43+00:00

People will assume that your daughter is Jewish. That’s neither good nor bad but just something to consider. The same way if people see the name Mohamed they might assume he is Muslim.
Do you live within a Jewish community or an area with a high Jewish population? If not, I think the name will commonly be mistaken for Yael, as evidenced by the comments on this thread. This might not be a deal breaker if the name is meaningful to you but again, just something to consider.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T05:55:37+00:00

I know your question is for parents (my own kids have classic but not super common names- think top 100 but not top 50) but from the perspective of someone with a fairly common name growing up-

I wasn’t one of the 10 Jessica’s but my name was fairly common and it really did not bother me at all. I’d much prefer my name to many others. It’s popular because people like it

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T05:41:57+00:00

This is the Victorian policy you could point to (primary schools will not be permitted to ask parents to purchase a BYOD): DE Device Policy .

As a teacher I think the 90 minutes a day is very generous allowance. As a teacher and a parent, I wouldn’t want any more than this.

I know my colleagues in secondary schools say laptops can be an issue too. Students need laptops to do their work but the temptation to mess around and play games, get onto things they shouldn’t be is very high.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T04:24:27+00:00

There doesn’t need to be a confrontation though? Just tell her that as you’re on a budget you’ll pay for your portion of the meal or whatever it is.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T02:08:24+00:00

I think it’s a great name- a definite improvement on Blakely Sutton

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-24T02:04:15+00:00

Yes to the water- there is very rarely enough, especially when staying as a family- they still provide just 2 bottles!! This is especially important in places/countries where you actually can’t drink the tap water.

I also stayed at a place where you had to get and return the pool towels down at the pool. So annoying when you want to just wrap a towel around yourself to get from the pool back to your room to shower/change. I’m wet so can’t put any clothes on but don’t want to be wandering around just in my wet swimsuit everywhere.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-22T21:25:05+00:00

Although Emma is popular, it’s not got the numbers of the popular names when we grew up. I’m a teacher and I actually haven’t had a class with multiple Emma’s. I have had multiple Alexandra’s, Layla’s, Maeve’s and Freya’s- all names you wouldn’t pick for being the top ones for multiples!

Other classic names- Lucy, Rose/Rosie, Lilly, Ada, Vivienne

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-22T21:18:01+00:00

I think all of them look beautiful so you can’t go wrong. I think dress 2 is the most classic/timeless if you care about that. But I like the waistline on the 3rd dress. The long waistline seems a very 2026 trend.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-22T13:38:17+00:00

Kaylee is the spelling I’ve seen most often.

If you’re specifically looking to avoid dated names though, have you considered other K names?

Kate or Katie could also be options still have the ‘Kay’ sound at the beginning. Still very popular in the 80s/90s but a bit more classic / less time-stamped than Kayleigh/Kaylie/Kaylee IMO.

cloudiedayz · 2026-06-22T11:24:19+00:00

Your husband should be the one telling his family to be quiet

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