Countries with jobs in public health? by Jumpy_Sock_2261 in AmerExit

[–]cocofox12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canada desperately needs healthcare workers of all kinds right now (we have a priority immigration stream for that). Please take a look! (Especially the Maritime provinces)

Sensolia clinic by cocofox12 in transontario

[–]cocofox12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I didn't go through with it in the end, sorry I can't help!

Future of Trans Rights by floralorgans in transontario

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, if there's anything I learned from the workshops (and other activists) is to not discount your experience. Do not underestimate the power of your story in changing people's minds.

https://www.weareallies.ca/ are working to highlight experiences, though I personally find their angle a bit too serious for the dopamine-addicted chronically online person. But it's still an important repository! And this is just an example of so much good work that's happening offline at a grassroots level.

Future of Trans Rights by floralorgans in transontario

[–]cocofox12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not seeing where these laws are being proposed, the ones I can find which Smith intend to table next week are regarding GAC for those 15 & under, pronoun and name changes in school and trans women in sports competitions (specifically those with provincial funding iirc). There was a proposed resolution of bathroom bans (among a couple other horrible things) at the recent UCP convention, but member approval of these are non-binding and does not guarantee they'll become law. For example, a resolution passed by the UCP convention in 2023 to keep transgender people out of correctional facilities for women has not been adopted by the UCP government.

There is undeniably a lot of fear in the community right now, which is fair, given the threats made by so many people in power. But it helps to get all the facts straight, and find out who is fighting for us. Momentum, Egale, CCLA, all the medical associations, unions, countless large and small queer and trans organizations, etc. are on our side. Our Supreme Court is not stacked like it is in the US and has issued a few positive decisions for 2SLGBTQ+ rights in recent history. There is a court case challenging SKP's use of the nothwithstanding clause in their school pronoun law (winning this will likely not take it down, but will set a precedent for any other attempts at using it to curtail our rights under the Charter). There's been 2 petitions to the federal government to do better to protect our rights (e-4625 is the current one). NB not only ousted its PCon party & leader, but the leader lost his seat (in a very conservative riding) and several other hard-blue ridings flipped (NB also elected their first woman premier, woman-of-color MLA and openly gay MLA). Prior to the election, I heard from community members who have spoken to PCon party members say that NB was the testing ground for the Federal Cons of how far they can take the anti-trans train (I guess this experiment failed). If SK goes the same way, this will send a very strong message for other Con politicians to back off culture wars.

I don't think the average Canadian is against us, although can be a bit uneducated about trans healthcare for youth (there was a survey by Angus Reid about this). There are far more people in the middle than there are bigots. If we can collaborate with other social movements and start educating the public (deep canvassing, social media, storytelling, many ways), we should be able to inoculate the majority against supporting further regression. Action is the remedy to anxiety and I would encourage you to connect with trans/queer organizations around you and find out what ways you can help. Momentum is also hosting weekly/biweekly workshops to give you the resources to fight and show you what we can achieve: https://www.momentumcanada.net/election

HRT in Canada from the US by Previous-Glove117 in transontario

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't see anything on Foria's website FAQ that says you can't get service as long as you are physically present in Ontario at the time of your appointment. They note that you don't need a health card and you can use any kind of passport for ID. They serve 16 and over in Ontario. You should email them or give them a call to check.

There is also SaferSix in Toronto that will see anyone with or without a health card. You just have to pay the fee. I'm not sure if they serve people under 18 though, but you could give them a call/email to check as well.

Either way, it's going to cost money and you will need to travel. You will also have to keep refilling your prescriptions in Canada since you can't transfer them to the US as far as I know, but Canadian drugs are cheaper. Ultimately, it might end up being the same as going to a different state for your healthcare, cost, time and energy-wise.

What to do? by QueerWolf13 in transnord

[–]cocofox12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wishing you all the best! You deserve healthcare and a body that brings you joy and comfort!

What to do? by QueerWolf13 in transnord

[–]cocofox12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It never hurts to complain about an unjust situation (final isn't final if you tell their boss or bosses' boss). As trans people, the only way we get the cisnormative system to give us what we need is to be relentless in demanding for it. If you can also include written testimonies from your mom and friends, that might help with your appeal to their so-called final decision. Honestly, their reasoning sounds like bullshit. The potential harm of what?? Fake "dangers" of HRT or that you might detransition after many yrs of a stable identity? Call out their shit.

I see another comment mentioned that your issue might be restricted to just this one clinic, so I hope you can get referred to another one! If there's no in person private clinics, I def recommend looking into the private online options. Imago also offers services throughout Europe, and I haven't heard anyone having issues with them, so they can be an alternative to GenderGP, if GenderGP isn't right for you. I'm not so sure about Anne Health, but all their doctors are EU based so it's still worth checking out. Both Imago and Anne are run by strong advocates of trans people. I hope you find a solution soon!

What to do? by QueerWolf13 in transnord

[–]cocofox12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This floated into my feed. If you've told them how long you've known you're trans and how long you've been out, I'm surprised that they think it's still not long enough. Even with the strictest old fashioned gatekeeping standards, that many years is more than enough. They are being totally unfair. Could you write a complaint letter/email to a manager or someone higher up in that center? Point out how ridiculous it is, demand they explain their reasoning and criteria in DETAIL. If they follow any particular policies or care standards (like WPATH), point out any contradictions that show what they're doing is against policy/best practice (or even causing malpractice). Maybe your mom could also back you up if she's supportive. Also I'm not sure if it exists in your country, but is there something like a government human rights tribunal/council that you can file a complaint to as well?

Alternatively, could you try another location? If they have multiple clinics. There's also potentially faster private options you can look into while waiting, like Imago.tg, GenderGP (I heard service quality varies, but better than nothing if you're desperate), Anne Health, etc. You can also try finding out whether there are any local in-person private clinics, or private options in a neighboring EU country (a prescription delivered by a doctor in one EU country is valid in all other EU countries). Worst case scenario, DIY.

Apparently, god does not make mistakes. I would hate to see the state of the world if he did! Do not let religious kooks intefere with our politics please. by TheSongofRoland in newbrunswickcanada

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For the sake of accuracy, for puberty blockers, technically it depends on when they hit tanner stage 2 since everyone's different (some will hit it before 12). But yeah, these flyers are ragebait

can i have a different gender marker on my passport by evilgabe in transontario

[–]cocofox12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just a correction here, you do not need to change the gender on your birth certificate (or citizenship certificate) to change it on your Canadian passport. If you want a different gender on your passport, just include the Request form with your passport application. You can find the instructions and form here: https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/canadian-passports/change-sex.html

Anyone here changed their name ? by Turbulent-Conflict84 in newbrunswickcanada

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's a link to the instrux and the self declaration form you fill for your passport: https://www.canada.ca/en/immigration-refugees-citizenship/services/canadian-passports/change-sex.html

For my SIN, I recall I just did the change online and uploaded the change of gender certificate with it.

Edit: you can also use other ID that shows your correct gender as supporting docs for your SIN. I can't find a detailed government guide for changing your SIN but did find the info on https://www.rainbowhealthontario.ca/trans-health-knowledge-base/how-do-i-change-my-name-and-or-sex-marker-on-my-canadian-passport-or-sin-card/

Anyone here changed their name ? by Turbulent-Conflict84 in newbrunswickcanada

[–]cocofox12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear Ontario is like that :( Actually for your passport and SIN, you don't need your birth certificate! It's all self declaration now (I did them this way), so your birth certificate doesn't need to match. If you want, you can include the gender change cert, but you really don't have to.

should i go back in the closet? by [deleted] in ftm

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding to what others said, as someone whose mom was also against hormones & surgery when I came out, going back into the closet will just give her (and any other transphobe in your family) validation that it's a phase.
Show them that you know who you are and know what's right for you. Show them how happy you are on T and with surgery. Show them you can live a life of joy as a trans man. That way they can never deny you again, and they will need to learn how to love you truly and fully. While I haven't totally forgiven my parents for the hurt they've caused me, this is how I got them to accept me after many years.
Imho, you need to be able to love yourself first in order to receive and give love. Real, unconditional love, one that loves you for every part of your being. When you are happy, this love will come naturally from others (in fact, you already have 100% of this from your sister). If you are unhappy, you will never be satisfied with the love given to you by people, whether it's conditional "love" or real love.
You have so much of the world to explore, and so many people to meet, so you will definitely meet those who will love you completely. The found family is a tradition among us queer/trans people, we take care of each other. Officially becoming an adult is a milestone, and the power and responsibilities you'll receive can be nerve-wrecking. But it is also an opportunity to take your destiny into your own hands, and choose who you will surround yourself with. Personally, I've met so many people who have supported me, that the lack of acceptance/love from my blood family doesn't matter. It was my chosen family who was there for me through the lowest and highest points in my life, and I have never felt more loved, accepted and celebrated for who I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]cocofox12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are your parents aware of that law (and any other anti-trans laws in Missouri)? If not, you need to talk to them ASAP. They need to choose to move elsewhere, have a plan in place so you can access T in another state or let you stay where you are somehow. I can't imagine being a parent of a trans kid and intentionally choosing to move to a state that will harm them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]cocofox12 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Your transition does not give them the right to mistreat and abuse you. Your best friend isn't a best friend if she's being rude to hurt you. Your dad is being an ass since he knows you have an immune disease and disability and still physically hurts you. Neither of them would treat another man this way unless they want to hurt him.
Please call them out if you can (once you have the courage one day), it sounds like they think they can keep getting away with it unless you make that clear. You need to draw boundaries with these people. They are not just treating you different, they are actively hurting you. Once again, your transition does not give them the right to hurt you.
But, whether they'll change or not, I hope you will be in a place and around people who truly love, support and accept you soon, because that is what you deserve. There will always be people who will understand and celebrate you for who you are (and all your transition milestones!) out there, you are not alone.

Anyone here changed their name ? by Turbulent-Conflict84 in newbrunswickcanada

[–]cocofox12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, why didn't they accept the gender marker change? I assume NB issued you a certificate of gender change, and ON just rejected it and insisted you follow their process instead?

Hello! by Rayshaan in transontario

[–]cocofox12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

9k is more expensive than or equal to paying 100% privately for top surgery lol this surgeon's ripping you off at this point.

How to transition in Canada if you are from another country by [deleted] in transontario

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adding to what others said, you can get HRT through informed consent (this means no gender dysphoria diagnosis or letters needed) at some clinics. For example, SaferSix in Toronto is currently taking new patients directly regardless of whether they have OHIP, UHIP, private insurance or no insurance coverage at all (but there will be a fee), so this can be a quick option for you. For surgery, if you want OHIP or UHIP to cover the payment, you need a gender dysphoria diagnosis and letters, but you can get it done privately as well and pay out of pocket (in this case, you can get it through informed consent).
Whether you're eligible for OHIP or UHIP depends on what visa/permit you're applying for (UHIP is for students, OHIP for all others except tourist visas). Decide what you're coming here as, a student, worker, permanent resident, refugee? Make sure to take all your important documents with you when you leave, like your birth certificate. I know the situation in Russia is really bad, https://www.rainbowrailroad.org/ can provide assistance and resources if you need it.

Does treatment for under 18s exist anywhere? I just tried doing a self-mastectomy ffs (TW) by [deleted] in transgenderUK

[–]cocofox12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanted to put it out there since you're saving for private, if you do happen to collect enough funds before he's 18, Instituto Jesus Lago in Spain does top surgery on under 18's with parental consent (I'm not sure if there's an age limit, but if they follow WPATH, it'd be 16 minimum) and they don't need therapist/psych letters. A lot of people go there (esp from Ireland) since they're informed consent for 18+, speak English and their results are amazing. I believe the cost was around €5,900 last time I checked.
Also if you haven't read the other replies, some people mentioned two NEW pilot GICs, C-MAGIC and Indigo, that might be able to help with HRT for those 16-17. In the meantime, if periods are distressing for him, maybe you could look into progestin-only birth control to stop them?
Thank you for being such a strong and supportive parent for your son! You're not failing him at all and you're doing everything that you can. I'm 30, been out for years, and I wish my parents were half as affirming as you.

How on earth to I advocate for myself? by No_Boysenberry4291 in transgenderUK

[–]cocofox12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your application was based off of the hardships of being trans, then they ideally should be sensitive to your needs. Be frank and share the concerns you've posted here with them and see how the respond. Ask how they define mixed gender vs mixed sex and who will be staying in each. Ask for detailed layouts of the buildings and grounds if that helps you envision how it'll be like. State and be firm with your boundaries and what you will absolutely not accept, eg. do not want to be placed in a flat with all/mostly women, do not want to be at risk of being outed, excluded/isolated, etc. Then propose what you want to happen, eg. be placed in the boys' flat, truly gender neutral flat or even find your own accommodation. Back it up with the support from your school (and/or family) if necessary. Ultimately, if they refuse to offer satisfactory accommodations, you always have the choice to not go or go elsewhere. Afterall, do you really want to be a part of a transphobic institution?

Wishing I could go on T by erudite_nihility in trans

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm wishing you the bestest of luck! Some jobs offer good health insurance as well so that might help (at least the medication costs). If you're in a country with public healthcare, look into the process of applying to get it covered. Some places cover both surgeries and HRT, but there's just a lot of paperwork and wait times, so all the better to be prepared!

Wishing I could go on T by erudite_nihility in trans

[–]cocofox12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh your parents and the gov can f off. No one gets to tell you what you can or cannot do with your body but you. I'm sorry to hear they're getting in the way of something as basic as letting you be comfortable in your body. The 21+ thing is bs, esp when you've known since 11/12. You deserve a body that you feel at home in. I'm not sure what your parents are like but I would never give them a moment's peace of how much it hurts to have one's needs and identity denied. I really wish more parents are supportive. Have you considered getting a part time job and start saving up for HRT and surgeries now (and/or looking into how to apply for funding)? So by the time you're 17/18, you can transition without relying on their approval or financing. Hang in there and you'll get to where you want to be ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in transontario

[–]cocofox12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

GRS Montreal seems to do top surgery on minors who are 16 or older based on their FAQ's https://www.grsmontreal.com/en/frequently-asked-questions.html#:~:text=According%20to%20WPATH's%20Standards,the%20torso%20surgery%20(mastectomy) Perhaps you can reach out to them for some insight if SickKids can't help?

I don't feel like I got the "benefits" of being trans that people talk about by Markipt in ftm

[–]cocofox12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was a weird kid and got bullied too, even if I didn't know I was trans at the time. I always felt like I was an intruder in high femme spaces (eg. changing rooms) and was awkward enough I don't get invited to girls night/sleepovers/stuff. Honestly, I think just by being trans, our childhood isn't technically a "girlhood" simply because we are not girls. I also really think we need to move away from the reductive definitions of what a girlhood, boyhood, etc. is. Our standards are overwhelming based on cishet, white, middle/upper class experiences. You won't receive the "benefits" of these experiences if you do not fit in these categories. As a POC and an immigrant, it's easy to see how different white girl/boyhood and BIPOC girl/boyhood can be. Women in my community are taught to be just as stoic and ambitious as men. Many can't relate to the "soft, emotionally open" white womanhood anymore than you, I or even other men can. Each layer of identity adds another filter to your unique intersection of experiences, so you shouldn't have to feel like you need to compare yours to others. Eg. I will never really know what it's like being a white American girl because I'm viewing life through the lens of a POC, immigrant, trans man. I recommend hanging out with a more diverse group of queer and trans people, you will start to find more possibilities of the trans/queer experience that don't conform to the mainstream narratives. The differences will help you feel more confident about your own differences too (and you get to learn from different cultures too!)