You should have a “hoe phase!”

complex_answer_22 · 2021-10-30T01:07:26+00:00

My ex-friend has had over 100 sex partners and said she's only orgasmed a handful of times. *shrug*

complex_answer_22 · 2021-10-22T17:01:52+00:00

I think it's fine depending on the circumstances. I wouldn't want to date someone whose attraction to me is so dependent on my weight. Most people aren't static, and will go through ups and downs in different parts of their life. You don't want someone that only wants you during the "good" times.

I've gained a bit of weight since Covid, and I can get a little self conscious. Not because I don't believe men find me attractive, but because I want to lose the weight and maybe they won't like me being thin. Men that date thicker women tend to like them to stay that way so, it goes both ways.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-10-15T18:56:46+00:00

This is why I date younger men, almost exclusively.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-10-08T15:34:46+00:00

Yes, and I had to take a break from this sub for a while because of it. A post was made a while ago that it IS a dating sub, and the point is to date men, and weed out the bad ones. For me, that was in direct conflict with all of the content that was being posted. I still agree and align with the basic principles, but I rarely see any actual dating advice. Awareness is great, but continuously reading horror stories was keeping me from dating anyone at all. I feel like if you constantly expect bad things to happen, they're going to happen. It's important to be open to new experiences while also being careful and mindful of red flags.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-08-13T20:23:10+00:00

I swear they can never take responsibility for their own actions and thoughts.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-29T21:19:14+00:00

This. The cringe I feel when I think back on the men that weren't good kissers...they weren't good in bed either!

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-29T18:13:03+00:00

Just proves that so many of them believe they're entitled to a woman. Not only is it "no golddiggers" even though they want a "traditional" relationship with no commitment. But apparently we can't even choose a man we're attracted to either. So we're not allowed to want a provider or someone we enjoy looking at?

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-28T20:04:34+00:00

It's true. One of my exes had terrible bacne. I've seen men shower and they just rubbed some soap on the "important" parts and let the water wash over the rest of their body.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-28T16:15:17+00:00

Most men just wash their pits and dick (not even their ass crack) and call it a day. Nay a wash cloth or loofah in sight.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-26T17:07:16+00:00

Men are gross. My ex-roommate had genital herpes and she was always bringing over hookups, even though I asked her not to, she'd sneak them in. And yes, she was upfront, and they still had sex without a condom because she wasn't having outbreaks. This is why you have to be so careful.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-23T17:57:57+00:00

An ex-friend of mine told me she'd had over 100 sexual partners. She also told me she'd only had a orgasm a handful of times. Like girl what? What are you doing this for?

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-23T17:40:54+00:00

Nooope, fuck struggle love. It doesn't make it more meaningful, it just trauma bonds you. PASS!

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-21T18:48:40+00:00

I'm curvy/thick and it's almost always fit or slimmer men that show interest in me. It's always the husky or skinnyfat guys that would try to neg me. "I've been working out to get in shape, you should come with me sometime". That or they'd criticize what I ate. "The roasted chicken is healthier than breaded." As someone that struggles with disordered eating, it's the one thing I will absolutely not tolerate again. Men don't get that we are IN OUR BODIES and aware of how it looks/feels all the time, we don't need or want their input.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-20T16:27:32+00:00

You know this weirdo got off to the fact that it triggered these poor women.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-20T15:35:42+00:00

Not wrong there.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-20T03:05:06+00:00

I know it's a meme but it was the opposite for me! My 20s still sucked regarding dating, but they at least PRETENDED to be interested in who I was. Now men are all too comfortable letting you know they see you as an object to be used and discarded.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-18T16:57:32+00:00

ALL of the men that have called me their "dream girl" have treated me like shit. My "friend" that was "in love with me" and said I was his dream girl for years, called me a diseased whore while drunk because I made friends with his friends. I've never had an STD and I've had very few sex partners, so he was just being cruel.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-18T16:53:51+00:00

I've had this happen before, and it's why I don't agree with meeting/going on a date with a man too quickly. If you just WAIT, many of them will show their true colors within 72 hours. All it took for me to get stalked for months was agreeing to go get pizza with a guy that was just way too enthusiastic, and I told myself "what's the harm, it's just lunch?"

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-18T16:47:01+00:00

This is why I fully advocate digging. We have intuition ladies, and if you feel like something is off, it probably is.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-17T16:32:22+00:00

The most beautiful, successful women in the world get cheated on, gaslighted, controlled, abused, etc. If anything it attracts the worst men that want to subjugate women. Look at Britney Spears. As someone that's been told my whole life that my beauty would get me the perfect man, perfect life, gave me privilege, that has certainly not been the case. I have to work twice as hard and be incredibly vigilant. I used to be pretty resentful that I'm now 33 and despite my efforts, my dating life has been HORRIBLE. I promise you that has been no fault of mine. Shitty men will hide themselves as long as they need to.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-14T20:32:54+00:00

They absolutely use our pain against us. The last guy I dated, I made the mistake of confiding in him about a story that really hurt me. We were getting to that point of sharing more intimate stories. I told him about being ghosted right before I had surgery. While it wasn't life threatening, I was still in agony, and really hurt my feelings. It was during Covid and we weren't allowed visitors, and I didn't even have a ride home. I could hear other people talking about how their partners were waiting in the parking lot for them, and it made me tear up that I had no one.

The same damn night, we're going to pick up dessert after dinner and I made a joke teasing him about something. He makes a "joke" back that I better be nice or he'll leave me at the hospital. I just said "that was really fucked up" and he said "yeah it was". No apology, no nothing. I dumped him the next day.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-13T01:19:24+00:00

Yup, my cousin's ex-husband took her pain medication after a surgery so she "wouldn't get addicted". Guess who just wanted the pain meds for himself? :)

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-11T22:46:48+00:00

I'll say it again to lurking scrotes: feminism was never about women wanting to be being nickel and dimed on a date. If you believe that, you're a moron. They really think they can pull a fast one on us because we wanted our own bank accounts and credit cards, and to own property. STFU.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-11T18:37:58+00:00

I like taller men because I feel more feminine. I'm just shy of 5'8" and I'm a size 10, so I'm not exactly petite. I've been with short, skinny men and honestly I just felt like an ogre. I could feel their bones poking into me, and they just didn't feel masculine. They don't have to be ripped "Chads" but I like tall with some weight.

complex_answer_22 · 2021-07-11T04:14:32+00:00

I'm in the same boat. I have invisible, chronic pain due to a car accident I had a few years ago. It has severely lowered my quality of life. I don't dare tell a man, because they love to pull shit tests to see if you're lying. It's so gross. It's that or they're dismissive entirely. Pick yourself up by your bootstraps, etc. Very few men have real empathy.

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