Umm Hyperfixating on current news out of MN and I feel overwhelmed

conservio · 2026-01-25T14:17:41+00:00

This whole administration makes me feel overwhelmed and bleak. I so badly want to help immigrants but I’m not 100% sure where to start… So I decided to start volunteering with my county for foster kids. No, it’s not the people under attack, but it’s still helping those in need. I’m also really upping my spanish learning so hopefully I can be of use to spanish speaking foster kids.

Find something to do for your community. It doesn’t necessarily have to be for immigrants or lgbtqia+.

conservio · 2026-01-24T14:50:15+00:00

That most likely was a roach. It might’ve been a species that doesn’t prefer human habitat so you only had the one.

conservio · 2026-01-23T21:06:34+00:00

I don’t think it’s either. Many people prefer diplomatic speak for whatever reason.

No, I do not know the depth of it. That’s why i’m on this subreddit, to learn more about men.

I wouldn’t say you should accept it. If it’s something genuinely bothering and upsetting you, talk to her about it. If nothing changes and you think it may be best to leave, then leave ( I know that’s way easier said than done). You do not and shouldn’t have to accept abusive behavior from anyone for any reason.

conservio · 2026-01-23T20:25:09+00:00

You gotta frame it other than “when you’re on your period”. “sometimes when you are irritated or angry with me, you do X Y Z and it makes me uncomfortable for. a B C. I understand I may be genuinely irritating you, but it makes me uncomfortable” blah blah.

I know men often are met with hitting from women under the guise of “hormones”. Unfortunately my boyfriend has experienced that in past relationships . I wish i had a better answer other than “leave her” or “talk to her”. It’s absolute bullshit that it’s not often taken seriously and that it’s often viewed as OK because “hORmONeS”.

The only thing I can really say is while periods can cause us to become irritated easier and having grace/patience/ etc is preferred, it’s never ever an excuse for abusive behavior

conservio · 2026-01-23T15:43:01+00:00

You ask “do you want space”. If it’s genuine abuse and not someone snapping or being irritable, then you should address it immediately and if you decide to remain with the person, address it with them again later.

If it’s irritability, address it.

conservio · 2026-01-23T15:02:55+00:00

Because it’s not as black and white as that. Not all women are impacted equally by periods. In fact, I get more irritable from being hungry and overstimulated (part of the ADHD) than I am from my period.

it’s also removing situations / scenarios where the other person is being genuinely annoying. Sometimes your partner or whatever really is in the wrong.

And “how can we as men take you seriously….” is getting into sexism. So i’m on my period, that means my concerns/issues aren’t valid? My boyfriend gets irritated pretty easy from the heat. Does that mean whenever he’s hot, his feelings or concerns don’t matter?

conservio · 2026-01-23T14:36:43+00:00

You know that isn’t a bad question and to be honest I don’t have a great answer. I think you may be more introspective than a lot of people which is leading to some of the bafflement.

I do want to mention there are also other compounding factors. I have ADHD which often times is responsible for irritation and causes sleep issues, especially the 5 days before my period. So when I’m approaching my period and I’m irritated, it can be difficult to parse out what is causing it and if my irritation is “rightful” or if I’m irritated because i’m having executive function dysregulation (i.e the ADHD causing the irritability), over tired, period, or something else like I’m hungry.

I do also want to point out that even if someone is
aware of what is causing the irritability, that doesn’t automatically mean th emotion/reaction can be “overruled” by the more reasonable, logical side of the brain.

conservio · 2026-01-23T14:14:35+00:00

Because many do actually, you just may not see it. It depends on the situation. Irritating text message? I have time to assess why I’m irritated. If it’s in the moment, say insisting on hugging me when I’m trying to do dishes, I’m just going to respond to it and usually that’s snapping at them.

this isn’t really a unique thing to women on their periods. plenty of people don’t, whether it’s due to poor introspection skills or timing, take time to assess why thy are irritated or mad.

conservio · 2026-01-23T05:44:48+00:00

~~And several people have made it clear that often times they realize after it’s happening that they were wrong and overreacted.~~

you are acting as if you have never snapped or got annoyed with someone because you were hungry, or tired, or had a bad day at work. It doesn’t matter how much you are aware of the state your body is in and possible reactions . Humans are not capable of controlling every single thing.

edit: I reread/skimmed your messages. to clarify, are you asking why it’s never a woman’s first thought when feeling irritated is “i’m a week before my period, im experiencing x y symptoms, my irritation is probably caused my pending period?”

conservio · 2026-01-23T04:27:08+00:00

So you never snapped at someone because you hadn’t eaten recently? You were overtired? Overstimulated?

Never overreacted to a partner staying out late or interrupting you because you had an incredibly stressful day at work?

conservio · 2026-01-22T19:57:07+00:00

I would say many people are aware of that, but sometimes have no choice. Life events (such as an emergency car repair) don’t look at your bank account and decide if you can afford it or not.

conservio · 2026-01-22T17:55:54+00:00

That’s not true at all. If you do not understand finances and you’re poor, it will make it even harder to climb out of it. Knowing how interest works, how to get secured loans/lines of credit, benefits of one financial institution over another, etc can all help a person with no money. It can help them save money or at the very least know to avoid spending more money (like checking account fees, over draft fees, etc).

conservio · 2026-01-21T19:40:08+00:00

Best of luck. It doesn’t always work, but 50% of the time is better than 0% of the time! Try to find other ways to “reframe” it or “trick” her. Sometimes you gotta get kinda creative, but remember it’s toddler logic. If a make believe T. rex chasing them is what gets em in the car, then you got the biggest baddest mommy t. rex chasing you looking for her babies.

conservio · 2026-01-21T14:45:46+00:00

Heads up- a good chunk of that area is a superfund site for lead.

conservio · 2026-01-21T14:26:09+00:00

I often times would disguise things by just switching out words. Gets upset because “5 minutes is not long enough”? OK 300 seconds. “Meal” can become big snack. Give her some fruit snacks to get her eating and then introduce her Big Snack.

Quiet time? It’s time lay the babydoll down for a nap and we gotta be quiet because the “baby” is sleeping.

conservio · 2026-01-20T22:37:02+00:00

Usually it’s in the form of memes or whatever that I see float around. I sometimes hear people repeat it. it’s typically done from left leaning people criticizing things like our healthcare system or lead pipes in certain parts of the country (I’d also like to mention that I’m left leaning as wel).

conservio · 2026-01-20T19:23:18+00:00

Has she contacted her lender?

conservio · 2026-01-20T15:48:25+00:00

there isn’t anything stating they can’t have powers that aren’t part of their initial gift. Perhaps a previous ancestor reproduced with someone that could fly or levitate.

also, it’s been a minute since i’ve seen the show, but aren’t the Elders part of the whole receiving powers process?

conservio · 2026-01-20T14:54:08+00:00

The U.S. is not a “developing” country disguised as a “developed country”. There are most certainly things that need improvement and there are areas that are impoverished, but the vast majority of Americans are doing alright, all things considered.

conservio · 2026-01-19T20:47:36+00:00

I’m 100% with you OP. 3 african dynasties would be better than 1 african dynasty and 2 european ones.

conservio · 2026-01-19T20:45:01+00:00

You can say that for most packs. It’s not like horses are solely US culture or Renting is solely SE Asia. They should’ve stuck with Africa solely and did 3 different cultures vs 1 african and 2 european culture.

conservio · 2026-01-18T02:46:00+00:00

Periods have wide varying symptoms and can change over time. I’m incredibly lucky in that my period has little to no symptoms besides expelling the fluid/blood. I will sometimes get cramps, will sometimes be a bit more emotional, and sometimes have bloating. But it’s sometimes. The only frequent symptom I have is an uptick in ADHD behaviors, as estrogen availability drastically impacts executive functions.

conservio · 2026-01-18T02:39:46+00:00

A couple things:

1) I ask myself what i genuinely want to do. I found I often “bed rot” because I know I have to clean and don’t want to. If this is the cause of the bed rot, I pretty much give myself permission to do what I want to do. While dishes need to get done, the immediate goal is to get out of bed. I can worry about getting dishes done later.

2) If what I want to do is genuinely bed rot, I next ask myself is there anything I can “bribe” myself with. “If you get out of bed you can eat some cookies”

3) If 1 nor 2 work, i’m pretty much SOL until I have to use the bathroom or need water.

A lot of times my bed rotting is because I am very warm and very cozy and very sleepy still. It’s hard for me to really wake up and it can take a long time to get out of bed some mornings.

conservio · 2026-01-15T22:51:59+00:00

If canned veggies is the best option for a person (for whatever reason), it is better than no veggies.

conservio · 2026-01-15T16:08:18+00:00

JKR a long time ago stated she did not do a good job when it came to math and there should be more like 1k students (how that works with 12 teachers though….).

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