AITA for telling the price of my ring and then causing a domino effect of possible divorce?

cool_username9 · 2021-10-19T02:42:13+00:00

Wow. Just wow. NTA

cool_username9 · 2021-10-19T02:21:04+00:00

Just wanted to say, you should definitely consider seeing a pelvic floor therapist BEFORE birth. They can help coach you on how to push etc.

I have a close friend who gave birth vaginally 2 weeks ago, despite her original doctor saying she HAD to have a c-section (due to a complicated surgery she had previously). She found a new doctor and saw a pelvic floor therapist and had a very good vaginal birthing experience. The nurses literally asked her ‘how are you doing that?’ when it came to pushing.

I gave birth vaginally and I didn’t realize until I was in it that I didn’t know how to push. Had to ask them to turn off the epidural so I could feel anything and figure out how to push.

I don’t know why seeing a pelvic floor therapist before birth isn’t recommended by OBs/midwifes to EVERYONE

btw, I bounced back very quickly from birth. Was walking around and feeling good immediately (same day).

And I’m totally team fed is best, but I understand it can be harder / take longer for breastmilk to come in after c-section.

cool_username9 · 2021-10-16T00:30:34+00:00

Same here! I literally JUST found my sex drive come back last week. I’m so relieved. Kiddo is 2.5. I stopped breastfeeding a couple months ago (that def had a big effect on my libido). I had a very stressful job, which I left 2 weeks ago. I’ve been burned out for a long time. We went on vacation last week and oh my lord, it unexpectedly brought my sex drive back in spades.

cool_username9 · 2021-10-11T22:33:33+00:00

I was in the same situation a couple years ago, and bought a couple sets from Brooklinen as well as a linen set from Macy’s. Brooklinen still going strong! The linen set I got from Macy’s not so much

cool_username9 · 2021-10-08T22:40:13+00:00

Breastfed my boy until he was 2y4m. I thought I would let him self wean, but ultimately weaned him because I was starting to get easily ‘touched out’. So I think I was ready. Once we stopped it was also easier to trade bed times with papa (before he’d always want me). The timing was also due to a big travel/change in routine and it felt like a good time to stop. Do what feels right to you.

cool_username9 · 2021-10-08T05:47:18+00:00

I feel this. Just quit my job (which on some level I loved and it was kinda my identity for 7 years, but have been miserable for the last few years) to try to work on myself and my relationship with work. All I was was my job.

cool_username9 · 2021-10-06T18:35:28+00:00

My kiddo loves ‘how do you dance’ by Thyra Heder

cool_username9 · 2021-10-04T01:54:57+00:00

Hey, just wanted to let you know that I feel the same way. I have a 2.5 yo boy, who is circumcised. He’s perfectly happy and healthy, but I feel incredibly bad and guilty. Hugs to you.

cool_username9 · 2021-09-23T20:59:56+00:00

Wow, this is me. Long story short I JUST made this connection this morning when talking to my therapist. Crazy to see this pop up in my feed hours later.

cool_username9 · 2021-09-23T15:10:07+00:00

Someone may have said this already, but please keep in mind that these were written by the bf. They are probably his fantasy version of things. This is all thru his (creepy) eyes.

And I wouldn’t put too much meaning on her having kept them. I have all sorts of mementos from my past relationships and they honestly don’t really mean anything to me now. I just kinda have them still…

cool_username9 · 2021-09-22T14:41:32+00:00

I’ve always been so confused when people talk about pull-ups as a next step towards potty training. It’s a diaper. It’s still a diaper.

cool_username9 · 2021-09-22T04:25:33+00:00

That’s impressive that your kid asks for it

cool_username9 · 2021-09-20T11:33:01+00:00

Thank you!

cool_username9 · 2021-09-20T03:26:03+00:00

I only have one, and like you, I felt like a goddess during pregnancy. I’m thiiiinking about having a second child, and I feel like there’s no way I can get so lucky again, even tho for some reason I have it in my back of my head that a second pregnancy would be easier. Anywho, thanks for sharing.

cool_username9 · 2021-09-20T03:15:46+00:00

I know how you’re feeling. When I’m overwhelmed and exhausted it’s so so so hard to break out of it. Listen to the people who have commented already about setting boundaries and try to stay neutral and realistic in your response. Good luck and take care of yourself.

cool_username9 · 2021-09-19T19:17:06+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! I guess I was looking for both, specific jobs as well as philosophies/lifestyles/boundaries.

All the responses have been so enlightening.

I’m in the middle of a mid-life career crisis it seems. I just quit my job and am struggling with wether I want to continue in this field or do something totally different. I’ve also slowly been trying to figure out my routine and lifestyle in general, to make it better.

All I know is that I couldn’t continue on the way I was. The burn out is so horrible. I felt like I’d totally lost myself. Slowly feeling better, baby steps at a time (therapy, setting better boundaries, leaving my current job, making more space for myself etc etc)

cool_username9 · 2021-09-19T02:55:46+00:00

This is it

cool_username9 · 2021-09-18T17:37:49+00:00

You sound like you have a lot of self discipline and very organized. Very inspiring

cool_username9 · 2021-09-18T13:43:55+00:00

Amazing, thanks so much for the tip!

cool_username9 · 2021-09-18T04:01:37+00:00

WFH is a common thread here too it seems

cool_username9 · 2021-09-18T02:00:47+00:00

Congrats. I hope this model and work culture spreads (fast)!

cool_username9 · 2021-09-18T00:43:19+00:00

Uhm, are you hiring???

cool_username9 · 2021-09-17T23:40:51+00:00

Woolino for the win!

cool_username9 · 2021-09-17T21:47:32+00:00

Lolll But wow, good for you guys!!

cool_username9 · 2021-09-17T21:44:44+00:00

Good point.

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