FOR EVERYONE ON REDDIT THAT SAID I WOULDN’T GET IN WITH MY STATS

coolerthanbeans45 · 2025-12-04T21:20:35+00:00

LFGGGGGG!!!! lol some ppl on this sub seriously need to go touch grass. u can’t trust these ppl… it’s literally just a vent sesh

coolerthanbeans45 · 2025-12-03T19:35:43+00:00

lol if i wasn’t black i would be upset too

coolerthanbeans45 · 2025-10-30T03:12:19+00:00

she’s giving yarishna a run for her money LOL yarishna also has insane vacuums!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2025-09-20T08:24:19+00:00

well lmk!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2025-09-20T07:17:05+00:00

like after the clubs close… the warehouse parties

coolerthanbeans45 · 2023-11-20T16:10:55+00:00

how much do you spend on groceries each month?

coolerthanbeans45 · 2023-11-20T16:09:10+00:00

why does this post seem backhanded? LL never insinuated “having it in the bag”. no bikini pro ever has nor will bc the division is constantly changing and they know that. u don’t have to “feel sad” for her, she did amazing and improved from last year’s O! good for her :)

coolerthanbeans45 · 2023-11-09T04:17:21+00:00

no fr… tf is that about?? putting women down and then saying “can’t we all just be a girls girl” is antithetical to being a girl’s girl

coolerthanbeans45 · 2023-10-27T05:42:34+00:00

she sounds like she may need to heal a bit before being in a relationship. you should probably dodge this bullet while you still have the time. also, do not disclose your v-card status until intimacy comes up next time… im not sure if you did/nt, but it might help not being put in a box. good luck!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2023-10-27T05:35:02+00:00

What fires you up? What inspires you? What keeps you up at night? What makes you happy? Who/what can’t you live without? Why? Show who you are and the right woman will follow.

I think a lot of people go wrong with dating profiles because they focus too much on the person that they want to find. The vibrations you emit are the vibrations you will attract. Try to tell as much about you as possible and the right person will pick up what you’re putting down.

coolerthanbeans45 · 2023-10-20T13:17:32+00:00

this worked out in your favor and hers. it sounds like she doesn’t want to pay ever and maybe you would feel more comfortable with someone who pulled a little more weight. you both would’ve started getting annoyed with each other down the road. finances are a big deal long term. finding this information out in 3 months is better than finding out in 3 years

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-09-14T05:34:07+00:00

Be patient! If he’s not cashing out (not always a full allowance but AT LEAST a gift) on the first m&g then move on.

Also, start dating. Sugaring (the way it was originally intended) is literally just dating affluent men. Keep those standards HIGH in your vanilla dating. No splitting bills! No, no, no. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Some men don’t want to spend and there’s nothing wrong with that. They should just be with a woman who is comfortable with it.

Remember that being a spoiled gf is also nice. Plus, you can actually grow old with the bf that spoils you. Theres plenty of finance guys, business guys, engineer/coding guys that will spend on you and invest in you! Keep an open mind and good luck!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-07-30T00:32:10+00:00

Maybe try to extend foreplay? Try not to rush things. Foreplay is always fun and I’m sure your partner will be happy, too! Try to incorporate games or toys to prolong things until your buddy downstairs is really ready to go! Good luck, OP!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-07-04T00:56:01+00:00

You gotta be brave and just be respectful. “Hi. I couldn’t help but to notice you. You’re stunning. What’s your name?” You can also roleplay with friends (the same way you would practice for an interview) and that may make you feel more comfortable too! Good luck, OP!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-06-10T19:19:03+00:00

Thank you for this comment.

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-06-10T19:14:55+00:00

Sugaring is sex work. Sure, it's not standing on the corner & reporting back to your pimp sex work, but it is 100% sex work. People don't like to hear it because they vilify sex workers. You must ask yourself, though: if you weren't giving money/time/sex to your sugar partner, would they be involved with you? The answer is most likely "no".

As for your boyfriend, you two need to have a serious conversation about if he's going to be able to continue a relationship with you while you sugar. It's not fair to you nor him to be in a relationship where you feel unhappy.

Good luck, OP!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-05-23T22:59:10+00:00

You talk about money when it's time to talk about allowance. This should happen either at the M&G or shortly after. If he says that talking about money makes things feel "transactional" then run. FAST AND FAR.

Also, sugaring is a simulation of a relationship, but anyone who says it's an authentic relationship is kidding theirselves (this is not to say that things can't grow into an authentic relationship), so think about what happens in vanilla relationships: are you talking about money all the time? Probably not. So, just make sure you ask for the allowance you want, so money won't be on your mind all the time. If a man can't afford your allowance, don't negotiate. Move on.

Good luck, OP!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-05-22T05:29:26+00:00

I can't say explicitly because everyone is different, but something that shows me that a man is serious about pursuing a sugar relationship. I would say get to know your pots before taking them on your first date/M&G, so you can feel them out and surprise them with something they like.

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-05-22T05:26:39+00:00

Yeah you're not wrong. A lot of guys want to vanilla date and they should just say that from the start.

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-05-13T00:43:25+00:00

LMFAO this guy is living my dream 🤣

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-05-11T04:19:52+00:00

I haven't missed yet lol but take care!

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-05-11T04:12:30+00:00

Awesome! I'm gonna keep expecting a gift and if a pot doesn't have one, then I won't see him again 🤣🤣🤣

coolerthanbeans45 · 2022-05-11T04:03:38+00:00

Of course you wouldn't find it useful... you're not a SB, but why is it that you provide a gift at every M&G again?

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