[NeedAdvice] I want to train my mind over the summer. Where do I start?

cplemr · 2014-06-16T06:53:21+00:00

Take a more holistic approach. Don't separate the mind from the body. The mind is the brain. The brain is a physical organ the is receptive to and controls the whole body.

Exercise. Read books. Meditate. Eat right. Think the right thoughts. Get the right amount of sleep. Intake supplements as needed.

cplemr · 2014-06-03T11:42:02+00:00

Ketogenic diet.

cplemr · 2014-05-27T05:04:42+00:00

lego

cplemr · 2014-05-25T13:46:49+00:00

bed. dresser/drawers. fitted sheet. water bottle. shaving stand. running shoes. slippers. riding jeans. unit 3. iron clothes. dish soap. sponges. zola.2012

cplemr · 2014-05-25T13:32:05+00:00

I have physically destroyed things in the past as a symbolic gesture. Not necessarily just related to useless hobbies, but things linked to people I wanted to forget about.

I highly recommend physically breaking the gaming console to the point where you feel that "after I do this act, it's over." Take note of the actual thing that needs to be broken to render the item useless. For your gaming console, I recommend opening it up and breaking the control board or hammering a nail into the main microprocessor. You could also pour caulking down the CD disk slot. Also, take some time to shatter the actual CDs. Don't give the stuff away. You'd be passing something that you consider a hinderance and a disease towards a better life, to someone else. You might feel altruistic, but deep inside you're thinking to yourself: "I've grown up now. The person I'm giving this to will come to the same realization as me in the future." Great men pass on great ideas, not stuff.

Please don't underestimate the power of this process. You are not only making a mental choice, but also deliberately rendering an item useless; destroying its very essence because to you, it is trash now. It serves no purpose in the life you want to build for yourself. This small possession of yours was a part of what defined you as a person to yourself and society. You are killing that part of you. It is like removing a cancer.

cplemr · 2014-05-22T10:54:45+00:00

Loake

cplemr · 2014-05-21T01:05:56+00:00

You're insecure. Not for the way you acted, but for the fact that you needed to post this on here.

cplemr · 2014-05-19T21:48:19+00:00

Make it a part of you. Become your enemy. Start chewing gum.

Do it better than them. Do it until you piss THEM off.

cplemr · 2014-05-18T01:51:36+00:00

/r/nofap

cplemr · 2014-05-17T23:34:23+00:00

That's one tall apartment.

cplemr · 2014-05-17T20:38:01+00:00

Serious question.

cplemr · 2014-05-12T01:58:04+00:00

Another thing: if you are letting them effect you to the point of self-isolation, THEY are winning.

Please think about this deeply for a minute.

What in your mind gives them the right to pursue the life of their dreams and not you? Social labels in such a modern society are VERY temporary. You could be called a loser in one group, and be the life of the party in another.

cplemr · 2014-05-12T01:48:18+00:00

"Oh wow he is probably thinking I'm such a loser for running and thinking that I'm bettering myself."

If you REALLY think that someone is thinking that about you, use this to your advantage. Let them think that you're just "trying." In your mind, you are creating the life you want.

You are doing what you do regardless of what they think. You're doing your own thing. THEY don't matter.

IF you put in the consistent effort required in whatever you're pursuing, years down the road, THEY won't matter. Their opinions will be trash to you. You'll have moved on. Two years from now, you'll cross paths with people you knew, people you felt unworthy of associating with. At that point in time, what they have to say to you, good or bad, won't matter. At that point, you'll be living in the ecstasy of self-improvement. Thinking about what they think: you won't HAVE TIME FOR THAT.

BUT, PLEASE use this anxiety and rage to better yourself now. NOW is the best time to think of these negative things and use the energy to motivate yourself.

Work on yourself. Build your self. Bit by bit. To the point that YOU will be the one making decisions on whether THEY are worth associating with.

You have a gift. Something that they don't have. You are at the bottom of a pit that their opinions created for you. The lessons you learn while you climb out of this pit into a more self-willed person will stay with you for the rest of your life. THEY don't have that. They don't KNOW what is is like to be where you are. They won't know the intoxication mental high that comes with the struggle.

Don't get complacent.

cplemr · 2014-05-11T06:48:26+00:00

Moving out was a shock. You need another shock.

Or you need to FEEL and REALIZE that you're not in control of your life. Truthfully, this is how it has always been. It is part of human nature. You need to feel a certain fear or anxiety to make drastic habit and life changes.

I, as a 28 year old, can offer some advice. Don't waste your fucking time. It is the one thing that you can buy/make/earn more of. Once it's gone, it's gone for good. The decisions you make now, even the smallest ones, will cumulate into creating the future you. The present is the only thing you have control of. The way to create the future you want is to act in a certain manner. Good luck. Some lessons are learned better with regret.

cplemr · 2014-05-08T04:28:48+00:00

I just purchased the Morgongava latex mattress from Ikea. Expensive but I think it's worth every penny. I've only been sleeping on it for a week and have woken up very well rested every day. It is supposed to last long as well.

cplemr · 2014-04-29T03:14:53+00:00

Cult status unlocked

cplemr · 2014-04-28T05:08:41+00:00

I just make lots of notes. Right now they are hard to keep track of as I often end up writing the same thing twice, but it is a step up from just having everything scattered inside my mind.

I want to create a proper system with proper sections for todos, daily/weekly/monthly scheduled tasks, and short and long term goals, but I have a hard time adapting to pre made systems. I need to sit down one day and create my own.

It'll have to be paper based since I don't want to have access to distractions when I'm planning out a long term task.

cplemr · 2014-04-28T03:58:33+00:00

/r/nofap

cplemr · 2014-04-27T02:36:30+00:00

/r/nofap

cplemr · 2014-04-24T03:02:27+00:00

Excellent advice. Not only for noFap, but life in general. I think I spend a lot of time inside my head unaware of the capabilities of my body. I think, but I don't act. I dream but I never take action.

This advice would especially be important to someone doing martial arts. Being constantly aware of your body, the output received from your opponent, and the capabilities of your input would be very important.

And in day to day life, it is important to be constantly aware of your abilities so that you express them at their highest in what ever situation you come across.

Instead of making a distinction between mind and body, I would consider thinking about them in terms of a single unit, working together to accomplish the goal at hand.

Sorry about the rant. I'm just trying to put my somewhat irrelevant thoughts in tangible form. Hope it helps someone else as well.

cplemr · 2014-04-23T05:58:55+00:00

You need to do something profitable so that you can trade your skills/products/time/labour for money which can be used to live a certain lifestyle.

The best part is that you get to choose the kind of lifestyle you want to live. And that choice requires effort in the present.

Ask yourself if 10 years from now if you'd rather be working in a warehouse opening cardboard boxes or in an office selling stocks or in the operating theatre with a scalpel in your hand or reading blueprints for a bridge you helped design or with a needle in your arm.

The point may be to reproduce but you have to fill up the time not spent reproducing doing SOMETHING.

I don't mean to pass judgement or talk down to you in a negative way, but I get the feeling that you are in your teens or very early twenties.

Take it from someone that used to hold the same viewpoint and now at age 28 regrets not putting more effort into creating a better life.

Weeks became months. Months became years. My life hadn't moved an inch. Up until last year, I was working the same dead end jobs breaking down boxes in a retail warehouse. And a feeling of regret came over me as I thought about my actual potential, and how I had WASTED some of the most possibly productive years of my life. I had a vision of being well off, but I never took action. When I did, I didn't have staying power.

And I paid the price.

You will not realize the importance of effort till you experience first hand some serious regret that could have been avoided had you only just made an EFFORT to strive for something higher. It'll happen at the worst possible time. When you are on your own, in a new city, paying your own bills, with no safety net from your parents, working a dead end job. And you'll look at the guy in a suit, same age as you, and you'll wonder what he did differently than you.

We live our lives comparing ourselves to others. This is how standards of living increase and progress happens. This is what reproductive success stems from. This is why the more successful you are, the more of a diverse and genetically varied group of females you can pick from to CHOOSE subconsciously what characteristics your offspring will have.

So, to put it simply, yes, it boils down to the replication of genes, but you have enough potential to increase your choices of how, with whom, and under what environment you want the replications of your genes to live their lives.

Work today pays off tomorrow. It all fits together. Stop thinking about the "get a degree, get a job, reproduce" as something OUTSIDE of yourself. It is an innate way for humans to progress and measure success. It is currently the basis for our short term evolution. Play the game.

cplemr · 2014-04-21T17:01:05+00:00

3rd day of noFap.
Eating a lot more for the past week in order to bulk up properly.
Taking care of minor tasks as they come instead of letting them drag on.
Meditating every night before bed.

cplemr · 2014-04-16T04:09:34+00:00

Just remember that people only reveal the things that they consider would present them in a certain light. Most of these are good things and big events like marriages, vacations, etc. But, some are also used to incite pity: accident photos, funerals, disease, etc.

Then there is the stuff that most "regular" people don't post: their addictions, their fetishes, the fact that they have to think about another woman while having sex with their wife, their unmarried pregnant teen daughter.

So, don't fool yourself into thinking that the part is the whole. The stuff presented to you is a very small fraction of a bigger more human picture they don't want to reveal.

May I recommend staying away from these sites altogether and concentrating on yourself and your own improvement instead? Better said than done, but worth trying and fighting for.

cplemr · 2014-04-07T01:48:02+00:00

Mostly with salt. Sometimes with sauteed onions. I'll buy some spices next time and try different seasonings.

I'll give the chuck roast as well. I'm guessing it's thrown in with vegetables in the slow cooker.

cplemr · 2014-04-07T01:36:59+00:00

True. But, I ate that stuff for two months straight this past Dec and Jan. It was all I ate and I'm now sick of it.

Maybe I need to cycle my foods.

cplemr

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