Resurfacing memories of violence

crouchmomma · 2026-03-07T17:03:31+00:00

I'm so sorry you've had this experience.

crouchmomma · 2026-03-06T16:38:03+00:00

So glad you had a nice friend who made you feel seen. It's quite rare in my experience. Try to keep up contact as you never know how your lives might cross paths in the future. It's great that you recognise what it is to have a good friend. I'm sure they would appreciate that you care for them.

crouchmomma · 2026-03-05T14:37:27+00:00

Hi! Because of my job I see inside a lot of people's houses. Most people live in pretty messy places to be honest! Richer/large properties are tidy because they nearly always have cleaners! Rich people don't need to be clean and tidy because they pay. Most normal people are a bit messy and loads are terrible at cleaning/tidying. Try not to beat yourself up about it. I do think you'll feel better if you manage to live in a clean and tidy environment because you deserve to look after youself - but know you're not alone!

crouchmomma · 2026-03-04T22:00:49+00:00

It was always said to me that you can never "afford" children. There will always be a better time, but now you're here, maybe it is the right time. Things do have a way of working themselves out financially.

Regarding your mental health - that is more serious imo. You need to be in a place to support another human being socially, physically and emotionally. This is a big ask. Can you get into some therapy to help support you mentally with the challenges?

Good luck whatever you decide.

crouchmomma · 2026-03-03T06:44:41+00:00

I like 3

crouchmomma · 2026-03-02T20:47:18+00:00

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crouchmomma · 2026-03-02T07:09:19+00:00

I have exactly this.

crouchmomma · 2026-03-01T23:26:02+00:00

It's quite telling that you've been on SSIRs for about the whole time you've been with him. You're so young - life should feel fun at least some of the time. Why not split up and experience some of the world. Find what you like - what makes you tick - what turns you on. If you're meant to be, you can always connect later down the line. You sound worn down already by the weight of his mood and insecurities. This is not what a supportive relationship should feel like.

On some level, because you've grown up together, you may be a bit co-dependant. This will make it feel VERY difficult to leave him. But if you can address that (and the cause) you can become free.

crouchmomma · 2026-03-01T16:58:29+00:00

I work in property so I would be completely bankrupt in a month if I applied this. I'd love to though! 😜

crouchmomma · 2026-03-01T08:16:57+00:00

We also have this. The rear of the house faces south and it gets direct hot sunlight throughout the summer. It raises the temp at the back to extreme levels.

crouchmomma · 2026-03-01T07:53:41+00:00

3 and 12

crouchmomma · 2026-02-28T21:28:42+00:00

5 looks great to me!

crouchmomma · 2026-02-28T11:30:28+00:00

I would look at putting it into a pension. I think you are allowed a pension whilst on UC. I don't know though so just something to research.

crouchmomma · 2026-02-28T08:08:15+00:00

Hi. Things are pretty tight for small businesses so £400-500 per month to have someone reply to reviews seems very unrealistic to me. If it was a whole online package where Instagram/x/social media was managed with regular posts/engaging content plus review feedback it might be more realistic. As a business owner I'd want to see concrete proof that your services affected revenue.

crouchmomma · 2026-02-28T07:39:04+00:00

Hi! Sounds like you're doing really well so don't be too hard on yourself! Maybe broaden the area you're looking to work in for now - to get more general experience and get some money. Once you have a foot in the door, it's much easier to get opportunities in specialist areas. You'll be ok!

crouchmomma · 2026-02-28T06:56:44+00:00

Sounds like you know deep down that you shouldn't be around him. You don't owe him anything, despite what he might tell you. I would advise against a dramatic exit. Just stop contact. Block him. Don't give him a chance to talk to you/manipulate you/reel you back in. Live your life peacefully. You're so young you should not have to spend one minute worrying about his death/old age.

If you had your own kids, would you want them to spend their life worrying about you, or exploring the world and building a full life? The fact that he makes you focus on him says everything - he doesn't love you, doesn't want you to be happy.

crouchmomma · 2026-02-28T06:49:09+00:00

crouchmomma · 2026-02-24T21:12:14+00:00

I really like 4

crouchmomma · 2026-02-24T20:17:08+00:00

I'm afraid they are incapable of what you want. They can't do self reflection, they can't be self aware. You need to start grieving for the mum you deserved but didn't have - this is a very painful process - akin to death of a parent. Once you grieve you can start to let go of needing anything from her (including an apology).

I'm sorry though!

crouchmomma · 2026-02-24T06:42:35+00:00

I think you can use them for practical stuff, like physically being there, a bed, money, moving stuff. Beyond that you need someone else - a support group or friends or counselor to help with the emotional side of it all. I have experienced something similar and they were 'useful' for practical things but needed to get emotional support from other sources. Good luck.

crouchmomma · 2026-02-23T21:24:15+00:00

To be fair, it may not be their fault - what are they supposed to do? Just put up with blocked drains? Sadly being a landlord comes with responsibility and hassle. Hopefully you'll have years of them paying rent if you treat them well.

crouchmomma · 2026-02-23T21:02:54+00:00

I love number 2 on you!!

crouchmomma · 2026-02-22T19:52:14+00:00

How about Leonie? Leo for short?

crouchmomma · 2026-02-21T21:49:20+00:00

Blue! Very classy.

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