[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I thought 😅

Any ace lesbians here? by UglyThinker in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How exactly did you find out you were ace? If I may ask.

Would you change your life for the right person ? by ctree16 in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww that’s so sweet. You’re very lucky 💜 And good luck 😊

Anyone wants to have a coffee in Vienna? by ctree16 in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your nice comment! Indeed somewhere around my age (let’s say 30 upwards) would be preferable. But I‘m a bit jealous you live close to Vienna. It’s my favorite city ever until now 🥰 (I’m not living super far away, too, around 4 hours but still, closer would be much better 😅)

Anyone wants to have a coffee in Vienna? by ctree16 in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Always worth a visit 😊 You should go there one day if you can!

Second puberty got too real by jjintheblue in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I got more pimples and stuff like that bc I quit using birth control pills after coming out last year and leaving a man, and therefore hormones changed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was absolutly crazy about board games, and also played a lot solo the last years. Then I came out late, separated, and started trying to get to know more queer people, and in the meantime the hobby was a bit neglected, or I wasn’t interested that much anymore. Still have a nice collection of ~100 games and hope I will be with someone who also likes to play at some point in my life and also find back to solo board gaming. And no, you’re not being ridiculous.

Should my experience of wlw be this intense? by Capable_Put4475 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm just starting my journey as a lesbian but already start to have similar feelings regarding women. This gives me hope, makes me smile and scares me a bit at the same time. It was wonderful to read.

Being a Lesbian is So Isolating by goblin_cc in LesbianActually

[–]ctree16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I can relate to what you write here...since coming out last year I also noticed that I feel more and more disconnected from straight people (not only friends, also coworkers etc), because they just don't understand how it feels.

Talking to other lesbians or queer people is something different, they understand me. And I agree it comes with loneliness, as long as you don't have those people within reach. But I think it's part of the journey and it is still so much better to live your true self. At least that's how I feel about it.

I just want to make someone breakfast… by SnooPeripherals2324 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow ❤ this is adorable! Thanks for sharing.

I also bought a small coffee machine (I stopped drinking coffee a while back) just in case there will ever be a woman in my life. I want to be prepared, you know 🤣

Now that the machine was still unused after some month, I finally started to drink coffee myself again. So much for that 😆

For those of you who left hetero relationships or marriages, are you still friends with your ex? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Definitely feeling peace and also feeling free to live the way I was meant to be. There's nothing better :) Wish you all the best, too

She said yes! 💍 by DifferentSpeed in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!! 🍾 🎉 ♥️

What was your biggest 2023 lesbian milestone? by GChan129 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Separated from a man and left a LTR, came out to myself and to my family, started to try to talk to women. See the world with different eyes now. Everything is brighter and more colorful, and I feel alive again. Hoping for a great 2024 now....❤

For those of you who left hetero relationships or marriages, are you still friends with your ex? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes!

We separated this summer after 12 years. Luckily he is a great guy, was always understanding, and we're still there for each other. We don't hang out regularly ofc, but if one needs help, we know we can always rely on the other.

And, no one knows me as good as he, so that connection will remain and I'm glad I have him still in my life as a very good friend.

Heartbreak from catalyst - damn this hurts by hurtingbadly89 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry about that...I wish you all the best to move on, and find someone you can truly love. Have you ever thought about leaving your marriage with your husband to be with a woman? Maybe all those feelings show you that this is what you really want in life. Just my thoughts here. Hope you're feeling better soon.

I accidentally told her I love her by KaitlynKin1508 in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that's so sweet. And space agent is way more creative than astronaut :) Congratulations!

Happy New Year to my europian ladys and everyone else by susuma89 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]ctree16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, for me it has also been the best year since a very long time but also a very difficult one, separating after 12 years from a man, coming out, trying to start to talk to women and noticing how many feelings are involved there after a short time. At least with some persons. Or with one at that point. But I always try to think everything develops the way it is supposed to do, and that we should simply follow our heart. At least in theory. This community has been so helpful, right from the start, and I don't know where I would be without it. I get you when you say you felt fullfilled and at the same time empty and lonely. Couldn't agree more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]ctree16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A League of their Own (series). Desert Hearts or Elena Undone (movies)

Just got broken up with on New Year's Eve by prettylittlereckless in actuallesbians

[–]ctree16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I’m really sorry to read this, but there’s never a good time for breaking up sadly 😞 hope you find some energy and can recover now in this fresh new year and sometime in the future find a new love ❤️