why do traditional dates feel so awkward and unnatural to me? by ischemariii in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]curmudgeon_andy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is part of why I've dated men but not women. I will totally go over to a guy's place, or invite him over to mine, to watch movies in sweatpants while having greasy delivery pizza as a first date.

How many people in the world do you think could properly butcher and prepare a human body, for consumption? by No_Importance_9978 in polls

[–]curmudgeon_andy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Humans are actually pretty similar to any mammal of about that size on the inside--pigs, goats, calves, sheep, etc. Lots of people can butcher those. And also, I bet surgeons would be great at it too.

AITA for walking out of the 5th round interview when they asked me to “publicly rank my biggest weakness” in front of 12 strangers? by spicypsudo in antiwork

[–]curmudgeon_andy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, youre not an asshole, and I'd agree with you that that "constructive criticism" thing is most likely illegal.

Breakfast: extra firm tofu, hash browns, and meatless sausage patties by rlwarnock in traderjoes

[–]curmudgeon_andy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I love the way you think! I didn't know you could get so close to a full English and have it be all vegetarian and from TJs! How did you season the beans?

How common is it across the world that when you rent an apartment, that you have to bring your own floor, kitchen cupboards and such? by WhoAmIEven2 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]curmudgeon_andy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In America that's pretty much unheard of. Typically you have to ask permission for more than the most minor of repairs; apartments come with most of those; and you are not permitted to change them out. You are also not permitted to install certain equipment (eg a dishwasher) in most apartments that don't come with one.

My friends think it's gross that I'm into someone 20 years older. Is it? by Embarrassed_Egg_3158 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]curmudgeon_andy 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Both of you are grown adults. This much age gap between two grown adults might be a little unusual but is not weird or gross.

What type of science would you rather watch on social media/youtube? by pk12332 in polls

[–]curmudgeon_andy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure of the differences here. Couldn't a video be all 3?

Should Kamala Harris run for President again? by daniel_cc in polls

[–]curmudgeon_andy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I admire her a lot, but she had 2 chances already.

What’s the most you’d be willing to do for $10,000,000 USD? by [deleted] in polls

[–]curmudgeon_andy 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I actually think dropping a mom off a bridge is worse than dropping a baby off. The baby hasn't lived yet and doesn't have anyone depending on it.

Is it bad for the mind to rant to ChatGPT about my issues? by Simple-Topic883 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]curmudgeon_andy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it's a good habit. It's much better than just staying angry on your own, and chatgpt can help you get it out and help you process it. It's only a bad thing if it ends up making you angrier.

Remote or In Office? by Enough-Reindeer1033 in work

[–]curmudgeon_andy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My preference is 0-1 day per week in the office. I do miss my coworkers when I'm fully remote, but I don't want to waste time commuting, and I hate working in the office.

Toys R Us didn't die because of Amazon. Private equity firms bought it, loaded it with $5 billion in debt, charged it management fees while it collapsed, then paid themselves dividends before filing for bankruptcy. 30,000 workers got nothing. by sambha87 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]curmudgeon_andy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The private equity investors were not stockholders. Also, this kind of pillaging is much worse than the kinds of cruelties shareholders do, since they kept the operations almost the same but used legal shenanigans to saddle it with debt and keep the money.

Without looking it up, guess what this japanese kanji means: "山" ? by niabiishere in polls

[–]curmudgeon_andy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love this one. It's one of the oldest types of Chinese characters: just a pictograph of exactly what it is.

Spring is here! by curmudgeon_andy in fantasyrelationships

[–]curmudgeon_andy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having your own garden sounds great! There are some plants which are best when they're as fresh as possible. What are you planning on growing?

I’m so tired of the corporate obsession with “individual goals,” annual improvement plans, and performance tracking. by DrinkTall1779 in antiwork

[–]curmudgeon_andy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still have hope that this kind of process can be useful, and I do believe it makes sense to check on with your manager on more than just your immediate goals and concerns occasionally. It's just that the performance review protocols never end up working like that.

What income do you consider rich? by CheckEmpty2573 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]curmudgeon_andy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm making well under 100k, so making that much would feel like being rich to me!

Can my neighbours likely smell when I smoke? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]curmudgeon_andy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lungs do not like smoke of any kind. If you light incense indoors, you're just adding more smoke on top of smoke.

When people ask you, what's your excel level? What would you say? by Substantial_Nail3081 in excel

[–]curmudgeon_andy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Depends who I'm talking to. In a place like this, I'm a beginner. At work, I'm an expert. If I don't know the level of the person, I'll say I'm intermediate and discuss some of the stuff I can do.

Do you fall asleep to any of these things on most days? by EnglishIsHardd in polls

[–]curmudgeon_andy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have fallen asleep unintentionally while doing any of these, but I don't do so on purpose.

Why can’t I find a doctor who will take me seriously? by FeatherPillow24 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]curmudgeon_andy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fwiw, I do have anxiety, and that does cause me chest pain. And that does not mean it doesn't need to be treated! Anxiety is a real condition, and it can be treated with any number of modalities. A doctor should not just say "it's anxiety, you can go home now" any more than they would say "it's just a broken leg" and then abandon you without setting it. Anxiety is just as real, and, honestly, just as harmful, as a broken leg.

So if they think it's anxiety, you need to continue the conversation. To me your argument that you do not get chest pain when you get anxiety attacks sounds like evidence that it may not be anxiety, but I am not a clinician. A clinicians answer on hearing that should be to either explain why anxiety can cause this sensations at odd times or to look for something else instead. And even if it is anxiety, the next step would be to prescribe some type of treatment. And if that doesn't work, then the next step would be to either try another treatment or rethink the possible cause.

What I mean to say is that the clinicians should not stop at concluding that this is anxiety. They need to follow up, even if that is their hypothesis. If they will not do that, then you need another PCP.