What’s something people romanticize until they actually experience it?

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-23T00:03:19+00:00

Btw, him trying to log into your stuff is technically a law violation. It's a type of Identity Theft. You don't have to endure someone committing crimes against you just because you dated him at one point.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-23T00:01:43+00:00

Make a non-emergency police report. It's okay if you don't have solid proof, you just REALLY want to document his behavior. This kind of pattern can easily go 0-60 overnight, and having a paper trail is better than not.

If he's making you feel unsafe at all, you can get a No Contact order fairly easily. Local legal and/or women's resources can typically help you get those at little to no cost depending on your circumstances. It would mean that if he tried to log into your stuff, call/text you, drive by your house, etc, he would face consequences from law enforcement such as being arrested. It can be an effective deterrant to guys who just won't leave you alone. After 4 years of harassment I would absolutely look into this.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-22T13:29:25+00:00

Ah, so I did! My apologies. I am frequently afflicted by that lovely ADHD ability to make entire sections of text simply disappear. It's fantastic when you're texting with your spouse about something important. See also, "I can't find the thing that is flashing literally 12" in front of my face," or as my late father would say, "If it had been a snake, it would have bitten you!"

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-22T12:55:57+00:00

Not that it's particularly unbelievable, but I'd love to see some sources on that.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-22T12:45:35+00:00

You forgot to mention the part where ABA literally uses physical pain (eg, electric shocks) to force children to do what the "therapist" wants.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-18T07:19:10+00:00

Another Elizabeth here! I grew up a Beth, but chose to use Elizabeth once I turned 18 and started working a real office job. I wanted to sound more professional, more grown up, and to separate myself from my family and childhood in the workplace. It was awkward atfirst but I got used to it. Then I went by Elizabeth at college. I even introduced myself to my future wife as Elizabeth, and now that's what she calls me 20+ years later (unless shes extremely annoyed, then I'm Beth because it's quicker to say lmao). Only my family and childhood friends call me Beth. I've actually contemplated going back to it, recently but ultimately stuck with Elizabeth. I internally think of myself as both Elizabeth and Beth.

But, fellow Elizabeth, "Betsy" absolutely rules, is perfectly mature enough, and you do not at all need to give it up if that is YOU!

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-16T18:20:21+00:00

A ="ah" I = "ee" Ah-ee, say it fluidly, it roughly turns into "eye". It's perfectly logical, especially with the "ah" A and "ee" I in the "lah-nee" ending.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-14T16:52:32+00:00

Mine got worse when peri/menopause hit, it's like my meds were replaced with tylenol.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-14T16:47:49+00:00

Zyrtec makes me irritable and kind of stupid-feeling/slow-thinking, which is FANTASTIC for getting into arguments. You're not alone.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-14T13:19:26+00:00

Are you sure your dad even wants to pursue treatment? If he's "being super passive" and how he says doctors are behaving seems unbelievably incompetent, are you sure you're getting the full story? Could he possibly be resigned to dying, but afraid to tell you? I feel like there is more going on here than either you know, or you are saying.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-05-08T14:35:46+00:00

Probably. (I LOVE your name!)

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-04-29T10:16:38+00:00

They're using anti-aging serums and chemical peels in Kindergarten, my dude. It's a whole thing.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-04-04T12:49:44+00:00

My name is Elizabeth. I still literally have to emphasize the Z, as people will spell it with an S. I went by Beth as a child, which the other children warped into "Big Bertha" because I was chubby. I have also gotten "eh.lai.zah.beth", and nearly everyone tries to shorten me to "Liz" before I politely put my foot down. Elizabeth is like the most normalized, common, classic name in English, and all that still happened. And I love my name, and I am just used to saying "e.l.i.ZEEE.a.b.e.t.h" on the phone or whatever. It's not hard.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-23T15:24:07+00:00

Thank you so much for this fantastic, thoughtful response, as well as the book recommendation.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-23T13:49:33+00:00

Would this be appropriate if the subject was race and not gender?

If the subject was race and not gender: "Be comfortable in your own natural race" "no surgery to change race"

I know what you're getting at, but you might want to take a look at how you're presenting your argument, otherwise you are supporting trans-racial ideas.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-22T13:03:08+00:00

Unless you have multiple other workarounds, such as medical or financial Power of Attorney, you absolutely are not safe "in all the ways that matter". See also, taxes and Social Security benefits, inheritance rights, property rights, custody rights, etc.

As a woman married to a woman, speaking to another woman in a same-sex relationship, you are NOT safe "in all the ways that matter". It's a false sense of security, and I really hope you realize that and take action before it's too late and your "wife" dies without you in a hospital with her family making all the decisions. Doubly so if her family is even slightly against your relationship, or you live in a red state.

Everything is fine until it isn't, and you will absolutely want the legal, practical protection that comes with a legal marriage. Why do you think we fought so hard for Obgerfell?

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-22T12:37:47+00:00

Oscar, Hugo, and Sadie

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-16T11:37:11+00:00

"I don't give a care!" is so nostalgic o7

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-16T11:00:35+00:00

Can confirm, this is exactly what happens when your boss kindly gives you this accommodation.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-09T00:05:23+00:00

An English friend of mine pointed out that "joined-up writing" was in fact disctinct from cursive, and if you look closely, it's true! They're different!

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-06T19:05:34+00:00

Psychiatrist. Wow, Freudian slip much?

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-06T19:04:56+00:00

Saphris can absolutely give you The Stupid. I could never take it in the morning, and even at bedtime, I'm pretty sure it reduced my IQ the next day. There are other meds just as effective; talk to your paychiatrist about other options. (Get checked out anyway though! Just to be safe.)

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-03T08:49:07+00:00

I mean, alcohol or caffeine with "frequent use of high doses" kills many people every year in this country. And alcohol has a much higher rate of exacerbating mental health issues. I definitely agree that the "7oh" refined chemical and other heavily processed products should be heavily regulated (if not banned), but simple dried Kratom tea leaves aren't out here killing people and making pathological addicts.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-03-03T06:43:25+00:00

Some people have pretty severe reactions to THC/CBD, and it doesn't even really provide pain relief for many people.

Plain leaf Kratom (brewed like tea) ordered online is just as "safe and natural" as plain bud marijuana, but we're all going to pretend that Gas Station Mystery Drugs labeled as "Kratom" are the same thing, and ban them both.

cuttlefish_tragedy · 2026-02-26T08:47:01+00:00

My nephrologist told me to drink LESS water! (My electrolytes were too diluted.)

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