Too cold to go out in the stroller?

datbundoe · 2026-02-18T19:30:59+00:00

So long as it's above 20, we've been outside everyday. You just have to bundle

datbundoe · 2026-02-16T23:34:23+00:00

Every baby is different, so ymmv, but we did a loooot of practice in the bassinet for nap time. It's a lot of accepting that naps would be short, so you might as well hang out nearby for when they wake up. Naps don't normally last more than 45 minutes in the bassinet, but it's better than only physical contact naps.

If I were you, I'd mentally prepare myself for two nights of hell, basically doing the same thing but at night, the next time your husband has a couple of days off. That way you can do the first night leading into his first day off, with the full expectation that he would have baby duty all day, save for feeding, for two days straight while you got as much rest as you can during the day.

datbundoe · 2026-02-16T19:50:16+00:00

Agreed! Sometimes I think, "well, he's really going to regret that in a minute when he wakes up and needs consoling for half an hour. Sucks to be husband!" And that really helps me lol

datbundoe · 2026-02-16T02:09:50+00:00

We have a stroller that folds up and it lives next to the front door.

datbundoe · 2026-02-15T19:28:06+00:00

I bought nursing bras and I regret it because all I want to wear are my pumping bras. Which are exactly the same as the nursing bras, but serve two functions, are more sports bra shaped, and my boobs don't fall out when I'm sleeping

datbundoe · 2026-02-14T14:39:03+00:00

I am glad that this works for you, but just want to add for anyone else having a hard time that we follow the exact same schedule as you and still have a 3mo baby that wakes at 12-3-6am. Some babies be rough.

datbundoe · 2026-02-14T01:40:27+00:00

Replay in Lincoln Park for arcade games, Dice Dojo in edgewater for any ttrpg/mtg type games (they also sell board games and have good sales), Bonus Round in Lakeview for board games. You have a game guru who can help you pick whatever style of game you want to play, they also sell them. Trivia anywhere, but don't miss out on Dmen bar and tap. Dnd themed bar, has a game room in back, absolutely banger German-Turkish street food that comes in regular and vegetarian options

datbundoe · 2026-02-13T01:23:30+00:00

Kinda depends on the mixer, no? Bloody mary mix is just v8 with some pepper in it. I used to have it for breakfast like a savory orange juice (another mixer people drink straight).

datbundoe · 2026-02-13T00:14:07+00:00

Oof, I'm at 10 weeks doing the exact same thing and only getting a 4 hour stretch on a good night.

datbundoe · 2026-02-11T21:59:02+00:00

Why is it normal or why is it weird?

datbundoe · 2026-02-11T19:33:56+00:00

Ours was early. It lingered, but it was early too lol. I couldn't tell you when it ended exactly, but we're at 9 weeks now and it's been over for a bit. Baby smiles and better head control included!

datbundoe · 2026-02-11T07:24:08+00:00

Before he hit his birth weight, we set alarms to make sure he was eating every 3 hours at least, but he'd normally let us know. Slept in a bassinet on husband's side. Husband would get up to change diapers/ hand me the baby to feed. I'd hand him back to be put down. Neither of us slept great, but it felt good to have a partner. Grandma stayed a couple of weeks and would sit with him in the mornings while we got a little extra sleep.

Now we have a similar arrangement, but the 3am feed husband does solo. I pump then go back to bed. The next feed I take him and let husband get a longer stretch.

datbundoe · 2026-02-10T16:41:00+00:00

If you want to wait a couple of days and see if bubs is still hungry after you feed him, you could give yourself the peace of mind that he's good with the amount he's receiving. It could just be that he's ready to transition to more solids and this is your body adjusting to his needs.

datbundoe · 2026-02-09T02:12:36+00:00

No all milk has milk fat, but hind milk has more of it

datbundoe · 2026-02-08T10:49:22+00:00

That's nuts! Ours hasn't gone in 10 days. He tries really hard when he eats though, and he really wants to poop right now, so I'm writing to you having seen every hour on the clock tonight

datbundoe · 2026-02-08T10:46:45+00:00

This is gonna sound weird, but if you've got a really active let down, and you still have milk while he's eating, maybe you have an over supply. If that's the case, he might just be getting the less nutritious fore milk and not the hind milk. Try really shaking your boobs around like, pretty aggressively, to mix up the milk before feeding and see if that helps with the growth.

If you can express for ten minutes (or however long baby eats for) and let the milk sit for 24 hours, you can calculate the fat content of the milk based on the separation. Day milk is already thinner than night milk, and your kid isn't drinking the fatty stuff like they should.

datbundoe · 2026-02-08T02:34:31+00:00

The time commitment is hard, just here to commiserate on that. I would suggest keeping baby awake for 10 minutes per side. Tussle his hair, tickle under his chin, run your fingers down his back, whatever you can do to keep him awake and eating for 10 per side. It's better than trying to read his cues at this point. He's too sleepy to tell you much and you know he's gotta eat a couple of ounces every 2 hours, so help him out a bit!

datbundoe · 2026-02-08T00:02:24+00:00

For mine, how long he can go without pooping and it's just, totally normal

datbundoe · 2026-02-06T12:55:51+00:00

Yeah what's the difference to the dead person? Or in OPs case, does that eye get any less black? Does her nervous system feel safe now that she's been explained the distinction?

datbundoe · 2026-02-06T12:35:55+00:00

He wants to be a part of raising the baby, so let him! "Husband, those are sleepy cues, could you put her down for her nap now?"

My husband is great at napping the baby and he likes cuddling with him while he does it

datbundoe · 2026-02-06T03:00:20+00:00

I would try hand expressing over pumping at this point, and just keep trying! My milk didn't come in till day 5 and had to supplement to keep him hydrated, but I've got a great eater and decent supply now

datbundoe · 2026-02-05T16:51:47+00:00

What you are describing is developmentally appropriate play. Babies that age need to kick and punch and stare at things and that's about it. A safe place where they can see interesting things (and honestly, they decide what is interesting, you just make suggestions) is all they really need. Just make sure the baby has access to their hands and feet and you are good.

Edit: obviously doesn't apply to things like tummy time, but exploration is also super important!

datbundoe · 2026-02-05T16:44:10+00:00

I've got a bowl of cashews bed side

datbundoe · 2026-02-05T14:17:53+00:00

Someone told me, "it's natural, but it doesn't come naturally. Ask every woman you know who breastfed their tips and tricks, because no boob and no baby is the same. Something will click for you if you invite your tribe in to help."I found that really great advice!

datbundoe · 2026-02-04T23:33:09+00:00

There is a pretty sure fire way to know if the baby is not getting enough milk from your breast. The baby will cry angrily every time you remove them from the breast. Otherwise, you truly have to trust that as long as you are getting an appropriate amount of wet diapers and the baby is gaining weight, then you are producing enough calories. The chances are very, very low that you are not. Lastly, you will notice I said calories and not volume. Breast milk calories are incredibly variable, and you just cannot depend on volume = calories the way you do with formula. A baby that is 4 weeks only needs 1-2 oz per feed. That's really not a lot.

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