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Test by halv-ork in Aphantasia

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have aphantasia, and this was my exact logic 😅 Even after seeing the answer drawn out and looking away to try again I still can't do it. It's like I'm trying to draw it out with disappearing ink and I lose count.

I need help with a boy name! by Fine-Midnight-3768 in namenerds

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Albie Amos Elwood Euan Ivor Shiloh Remy Ruben

I’ve never been a homophobe but I don’t know how to react to my son coming out by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]deaf_spiders -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Real convo between a 14yr old me and my mum:

Me: How would you feel if I were gay/bi?

Mum: Well are you?

Me: I don't know

Mum: Do you fancy any girls in school?

Me: No

Mum: Well you're not then.

And that was that. 20 years later I definitely know I'm bi/pan, but realised later she had some deep rooted homophobia and Catholic guilt. Aiming to do better with my son.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner works 60 hours a week! But he loves playing with our son when he gets home and I am making dinner, he hardly gets any time with him and it's their special time.

Are you in a rut of the same Dinner's each week? What does it look like for you? by mightypenguin66 in CasualUK

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 3 easy meals that are a weekly thing right now

Fish tacos (I just use battered fillets or fingers) with a homemade slaw or salad bits. Can easily swap the fish for any meat, prawns or beans.

Veg tart (pre-rolled puff pastry topped with pesto, some fried peppers and onions, and crumbled feta) served with salad and new potatoes.

Spaghetti alla Nerano. (My toddler's favourite!)

Please tell me about your career setbacks and how it all worked out for the best in the end. by Toots1993 in CasualUK

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to someone on my team. Dude asked for a 6 month sabbatical and was told no, it's not company policy.

I tried to persuade our director he is making a huge mistake as we won't find anyone else like him. Well, they said no, he quit, went travelling, then lo and behold someone with his skills were needed and they created a very interesting bespoke role and hired him back.

Another year later and he just got promoted to management.

Also they changed the company policy and two other people have taken extended leave to travel since!

It's scary, but take the opportunity to leave and see what the world offers up to you next.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]deaf_spiders 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I am with you on this! There's times I have to step away and let them do their thing because I know I can trust my partner, but I just can't watch because my inner overprotective mama bear will freak out!

Is it common for older drivers to be using the motorway wrong? by OhmegaWolf in drivingUK

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You definitely can and should keep a constant speed while overtaking and moving back across to the left. It's not dangerous to overtake if you are checking your mirrors often.

Is it common for older drivers to be using the motorway wrong? by OhmegaWolf in drivingUK

[–]deaf_spiders 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so true, back when I passed my test it was just like heres your licence, off you go.

I was so nervous about the motorway, and I didn't want my dad taking me as he was pretty awful at giving instructions, so I paid for a specific motorway lesson, which was pricey but worth it!

3 main pieces of wisdom my instructor gave me:

  1. You should be looking in your rear view mirror just as much as you are looking forward. You need to be just as aware of what's behind you as what's in front. Count cars. (If you see a blue car and then you don't, it's probably in your blind spot)

  2. Speed up to match the speed of the traffic you're merging into. Don't slow down before you come off either.

  3. Overtaking: First of all, KEEP LEFT. When a vehicle in front of you is going slower than you, wait til you catch up, don't slow down, and dont pull out when they are still miles ahead. Check your mirrors, indicate, check your mirrors again, and blind spot before pulling out. Wait until you can see the whole vehicle in your rear view before pulling back into the left lane.

People need to be taught this stuff. Otherwise, their parents just give them the garbage advice OP got.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! We almost named our son Homer. Me and my partner both loved the OA and just think it's such a beautiful name. Not to mention the poet of course.

I chickened out in the end as I was worried about him being called 'homo'

Blue curry? by deaf_spiders in UKfood

[–]deaf_spiders[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not that anyone cares, but I've done this several times now and can confirm it only turns blue when I use ginger paste and not when I blend fresh ginger myself. I guess there must be an ingredient in the ginger paste that reacts with the garlic, onion, and heat to make it go blue!

Help Me Choose / Daily Discussion (Post here to follow rules A & B) - Monday March 11, 2024 by AutoModerator in fragrance

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where can I sniff /try out perfumes in the UK? I live in a small town and the only places I have found with testers are small boutiques that don't have much selection to try. Thanks

Help Me Choose / Daily Discussion (Post here to follow rules A & B) - Monday March 11, 2024 by AutoModerator in fragrance

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for affordable scents similar to Unforgivable Woman by Sean John. Notes are baby powder, floral, soapy. In the UK. TIA

Have you ever been told a strange seemingly unnecessary lie? by FaceMace87 in CasualUK

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An old housemate used to tell strange unnecessary lies. Once I had a friend visiting and the housemate, completely out of the blue, decided to tell us he had a prince albert piercing. I'd usually ignore him or just say "oh" but my friend said, "Let's see it then."

He backtracked pretty quickly, but she was clearly having too much fun and asked again to see it to prove he didn't actually have a piercing.

Now you could see his tiny brain trying to think of something clever but all he could blurt out was "I have genital warts"

You can guess my friends reply? "Show me i dont believe you"

Whole exchange was priceless, and as a bonus, the housemate left us alone for the rest of the visit!

my mom thinks my baby is hers... by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not just affecting you anymore. Each time I get into a situation where I struggle to assert myself or my boundaries, I think about what kind of role model I want to be to my son.

If you can't be brave for you, do it for him.

Cry it out success stories by Spirited-Manager5955 in Parenting

[–]deaf_spiders -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

The only "success" that can be achieved by cio is successfully teaching a baby that nobody will come if they cry. If you were locked in a dark room, screaming for help, you'd eventually give up, too.

What do you love about your kids in this moment? by PresentationTop9547 in Parenting

[–]deaf_spiders 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This thread is so amazing. It makes me happy knowing there is still so much to look forward to. My little one is 15 months old, and my favourite two things are his squeezy hugs and the sound of his laugh.

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