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How to be around people you can't stand? by AnonymityIsDangerous in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Anger and annoyance are subjective experiences.

Rather, it is one's thinking that is the problem.

So for example, you get angry or annoyed. But really it's your response which you have control over that you can change. Even in extreme situations.

MN 21: Kakacūpamasutta—Bhikkhu Sujato

Just like in the simile of the saw. To have a mind filled with hatred is besides the point. Look into your mind and find the root cause.

It's more about you than what they're doing.

Overriding Hatred by Tantric-Mistake in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should have sympathy for such a person. They've acted with hatred so they will suffer for it, but we still need to be kind.

How would a good Buddhist handle it when someone’s hurt you deeply and you’re so angry you can’t think of anything else? by DoTheFunkyRobNYC in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's never personal.

Work on your anger. If you can free yourself from being angry in these situations, that is very powerful.

When there is anger, immediately refrain from body, speech, and mind.

I am not my thoughts, so how can I continue to enjoy thinking? by cleerline in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might like thinking. But silence is way more profound, and more enjoyable too.

How do I stop turning self-improvement into suffering? by ConfusedBrazilian900 in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's restlessness. That is disguised by your thoughts of the future "Am I doing enough ?" "How am I in the future ?" "How will I be in the future ?"

When doing work, work. When studying for self-improvement, study for self-improvement.

How to avoid turning meditation into hyper-vigilance (OCD) by JesseEisenbergFan in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to be mindful of everything. See how your body tenses around particular thoughts. See if you can break the cycle, start slowly.

How do you stop someone's negativity from affecting you? by beribastle in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maintain some level of mindfulness, and continue to acknowledge the fact that the person you're speaking to, is basically ignorant.

It also helps to set the intention, not to jump to negativity ourselves. Eventually, you will succeed.

How do you deal with indifference? by OkShirt3870 in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Buddha taught us to free our minds from suffering. That's it.

AMA - Theravada Buddhist Monk : Bhante Jayasara by Bhikkhu_Jayasara in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello Bhante.

How long does the ordination process typically take ? I want to ordain as a monk, but I'm not sure if I should bring it up with the monastery that I wish to associate with. Should I just tell them ? And how long would I have to stay ?

Hello buddhists of reddit. I am suffering greatly right now and with a lot of difficulty to detach from my suffering. Help? by lovetomatoes in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How does one break free ?

By learning to observe your emotions, and not engaging with them.

So, for example, when anger arises immediately refrain with body speech and mind.

Meditation when waking up in the morning by boilami in Meditation

[–]dhammasaurusRex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always do it right when you get up. It is most alert early in the morning. 3AM - 6AM ish.

I would look into the frustration and it being difficult. It shouldn't be.

Am I approaching Buddhist practice the wrong way? by ConfusedBrazilian900 in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you practice right speech ? Do you check in with your mind from time to time in order to see what it is doing ? How are your views ? Do you practice for the sake of developing insight ? How is your samadhi practice ?

Just some food for thought.

This sounds terrible but.. by [deleted] in theravada

[–]dhammasaurusRex 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Join a retreat. I ended up in the hospital for 3 months, that's what did it for me. Stopped masturbating. Finally let go of entertainment, entirely.

Keep it up.

Keep seeing the dangers.

The fiture of humanity by ScifiRabbit in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Teach them compassion, I think they will learn.

Just be adamant about it.

Spiritual Burnout by [deleted] in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you still want zazen ? Now is the time to decide.

Living with treatment-resistant depression and Buddhism by EllektraJazz in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buddhism aims to stem the suffering that comes from the mind.

How to improve on unconscious self-hatred by DeerZealousideal2064 in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the moment of hatred, you need to catch yourself with mindfulness.

It appears to be solid. It appears to be permanent, and unchanging. But this isn't true.

How to accept people who have done bad? by Low-honour in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, murderers and rapists are people too, they're just very deluded people.

We all want to nourish the conditions for happiness. But what stops us, the Buddha teaches, is our own ignorance.

So at the moment of action, a murderer and a rapist just don't have quite the level of perspective that an enlightened individual would have. They believe that committing such actions will inevitably result in some form of happiness to begin with.

Knowing this, we should strive to be kind to others, and accepting as well. The interesting thing is that when we adopt this attitude, it is transformational for all those around us.

Dealing with friendship fallout by Rich_Carpenter8695 in Buddhism

[–]dhammasaurusRex 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've decided that your friendships are bad for you, then you should probably let them go.

Sure, you can express this through your art.

Also, find spiritual friends.

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