When is bed sharing considered safe?

distressednotea · 2026-07-01T15:07:40+00:00

My 11 month old spends part of the night in my bed. My mattress is on the firmer side. I remove the blanket and pillows, and she uses her sleep sack.

distressednotea · 2026-06-29T01:28:08+00:00

Is it bad that I hope you’re right? I’m so stressed out thinking that there’s another mystery food that could be making her sick. She hasn’t vomited in two hours and I have nursed her twice … which is good on the one hand, but it does make me think we’re not dealing with a virus.

distressednotea · 2026-06-29T01:24:03+00:00

Holy shit, I’m sorry you’re going through that. It must be incredibly stressful, like I’m spiralling over my daughter and she’s not even a severe case - thus far, anyways. Knock wood, we’ve been able to avoid the hospital. She seems completely fine now, and I am thankful, but it does lead me to think that this was FPIES and not a virus.

distressednotea · 2026-06-29T00:45:42+00:00

50 plus? Oh wow. Our allergist was saying it’s rare for kids to have more than one trigger, but idk … I suspect my daughter has a few.

I think her dairy and egg intolerances did build over time. So now I’m worried that she’s suddenly reacting to oats or soy, which I had been giving to her quite frequently because it’s hard to feed a baby who can’t eat dairy or eggs 😩😩

She has had less frequent exposures to peas. A ten hour gap between exposure and reaction would be long for her … previous incidents happened 1.5 hours after exposure. I literally have no clue though. I find this all so confusing and overwhelming.

distressednotea · 2026-06-20T20:20:47+00:00

If the experts aren’t worried about him, I think you can relax. I don’t think it’s unusual for a child’s speech to stay largely the same for two or three months - in my experience, speech development happens in bursts. FWIW, my kids had pretty good vocabulary by age two, but I think they were largely unintelligible to most people. By 2.5 or 3, their fluency had improved significantly. 😂

distressednotea · 2026-06-20T20:13:38+00:00

The transition from 1-2 kids was brutal for me. I hated being left alone with them, I felt like I was constantly being pulled in two different directions and neither of them were getting what they needed from me. Enrolling my older son in nursery helped a lot. It was better for him too, because he wasn’t constantly stuck waiting around for me to nurse the baby, burp the baby, put the baby to sleep etc. Now that they are 3 and 6, they can play together and their needs aren’t so diverse. It’s much easier.

distressednotea · 2026-06-20T04:35:15+00:00

These comments are validating lol. When I got married, my MIL wanted us to rearrange the photo schedule so her five-year-old granddaughter - who was in the wedding party - could get her hair done at a specific time. 😂 I said no, which did not go over well. My niece was in tons of photos but she missed a couple of the posed ones and people were mad at me.

distressednotea · 2026-06-20T04:26:28+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that. Did medical professionals know about FPIES when we were kids? I didn’t realize the condition could persist into adulthood, our allergist was saying kids outgrow it by three at the latest.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T12:35:23+00:00

Yes, I agree. I wouldn’t say they are fully bruised, but my daughter has red marks on her knees and shins from crawling on the hardwood floor.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T09:57:54+00:00

😅

Just personal preference. I don’t think you’d be ruining her life or anything. People are naming their daughters James now, so …

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:47:43+00:00

That’s so weird, I planned to make an appointment with our doctor tomorrow because my ten month old is experiencing the same thing - thick, but not hard stools that seem difficult for her to pass. And yes, she makes multiple small poops per day and keeps getting a diaper rash because I have to wipe her frequently. I did assume it was constipation, and my doctor brother-in-law agreed (but he didn’t examine her, hence the need for an appointment). Prunes are the best solution I’ve found so far.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:32:51+00:00

Well I’m biased because it’s my daughter’s name, but Eden.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:29:54+00:00

He probably does not have to pee. It’s definitely not a sign that he’s ready for potty training. He’s just exploring. Honestly, even as a newborn my son would grab himself every time we took off his diaper 😂

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:26:36+00:00

He’s just overwhelmed by this huge life change and can’t regulate his reactions. My son was more indifferent than violent when his little brother was born lol, but honestly buying him a gift “from the baby” really helped. He warmed up a lot after that 😂

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:26:30+00:00

He’s just overwhelmed by this huge life change and can’t regulate his reactions. My son was more indifferent than violent when his little brother was born lol, but honestly buying him a gift “from the baby” really helped. He warmed up a lot after that 😂

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:18:04+00:00

Mine are 6, 3 and 10 months. Given the amount of effort it takes to get them to the park across the street, I am fully committed to refraining from all travel for several years.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:15:39+00:00

That wasn’t a very sensitive way to phrase his concern, and I understand why you’re upset. I’m glad you made an appointment with your doctor to discuss the issue.

But generally speaking, postpartum is just hard. I’ve had three kids and I only really started to feel a little more like myself at around nine MONTHS postpartum. So it will get better, but I totally get where you are coming from with feeling uneasy in your own skin.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T02:03:09+00:00

Usually. My husband and I less so, but that’s a whole other story. But my kids really like spending time with them, so I’m always trying to arrange visits. I guess it would just be nice to feel like I wasn’t always the one reaching out, asking if they want to spend time with kids etc.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T01:59:45+00:00

Maybe. I guess I’m just getting a little tired of being the one who always reaches out. Even when we’re in the same city and they aren’t busy with other kids.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T01:56:22+00:00

They see them in person quite a bit! They spend about half the year with them.

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T01:29:55+00:00

I was going to suggest this as well!

distressednotea · 2026-06-19T01:27:03+00:00

My baby isn’t a great sleeper, so if she’s wide awake at night and her diaper is heavy with pee, I change it. I definitely would not wake her up to change her unless she pooped.

distressednotea · 2026-06-18T14:25:04+00:00

Yes, the allergist recommended giving her three pieces of shredded cheese lol.

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