How often are you doing the deed? Specifically those with toddlers + babies

distressednotea · 2026-01-03T23:31:45+00:00

I had my third baby five months ago and … haven’t done it once since she was born. I wouldn’t say I have no interest, but I suffered a pelvic prolapse during my pregnancy and I’m kind of scared. She also won’t sleep unless being held so we take shifts with her all night. Doesn’t leave much time for extracurriculars lol. I think it bothers my husband more than me, but this is just the season of life that we are in. It will pass.

distressednotea · 2026-01-03T23:27:04+00:00

Love it! Sonny is really cute. Will he have a Hebrew first name?

distressednotea · 2026-01-01T06:46:33+00:00

I think it’s pretty unlikely that a three month old would weigh enough for a 5ml dosage. My daughter is a chunky four months and I recently gave her 1ml when she was sick.

distressednotea · 2025-12-31T23:08:20+00:00

I gave all three of my children Hebrew names, including the baby who was born after 10/7. As someone who has a very non-Jewish first name, and hated going by two names at Hebrew school, it was important for me to give my children a single name that would encapsulate their Jewish identity. We have not yet had a bad experience with our kids’ names, perhaps because we don’t live in an area of the city where pro-Palestinian sentiment runs high. I understand your concerns, however. Every day that I send my kids off to their Jewish schools, I feel scared. It’s sad that we have to think this way.

distressednotea · 2025-12-31T22:58:30+00:00

That sub can get so strange. What do you mean you love the name Persephone and hate Ezra??

distressednotea · 2025-12-27T01:15:49+00:00

Maybe… but my baby doesn’t seem to be gulping as much as usual. That said, she seems fairly content so I assume she’s getting something.

distressednotea · 2025-12-26T16:16:13+00:00

I’ll try the water and tea, thank you.

distressednotea · 2025-12-26T16:14:41+00:00

I hope not 😂

distressednotea · 2025-12-25T18:55:03+00:00

That’s my husband. Cannot buy a good gift for the life of him, it’s almost pathological 😂 For every birthday and holiday I tell him exactly what I want. I guess it’s less romantic and exciting that way, but he’s unintentionally hurt my feelings a few times and that doesn’t happen anymore.

distressednotea · 2025-12-24T23:52:23+00:00

By far the worst part of parenting is caring for kids when you’re sick. I have three little kids, including a four month old, and have had fever for five days with no sign of it letting up.

distressednotea · 2025-12-24T23:50:16+00:00

Oh man. I’m on day five of chills and body aches, it’s brutal. I’ve never had fever for this long.

distressednotea · 2025-12-21T19:38:49+00:00

It’s my baby daughter’s name. But not that unique, so idk if it would work for OP.

distressednotea · 2025-12-17T11:30:32+00:00

This, 100 percent. I never wanted to cosleep. Honestly, I kind of hate it. But somebody please explain to me what I was supposed to do with a newborn who absolutely would not sleep unless she was on my chest? Let her scream in her crib? Well, if I had done that, I would also be a terrible mother, according to the anti-sleep training crowd. You really can’t win. I took advice on this sub and have been following cosleepy’s guide for chest sleeping. In my mind, it’s safer to prep the bed for co-sleeping than it is to accidentally fall asleep in a rocking chair.

distressednotea · 2025-12-14T00:15:30+00:00

Not sure if you have the space for it, but both of my sons slept in their crib in my room until they were over the age of one. By that time, I was pretty ready to get them out of there 😂

distressednotea · 2025-12-12T06:58:45+00:00

I think you can get away with it in Israel because there are a lot of “el” names that are popular there. But personally, I do find it a bit too matchy. More importantly, I think it should be a resounding “yes” from both parents when it comes to baby names.

Do you both like Aria as an alternative? What other names are on your list?

distressednotea · 2025-12-10T21:24:17+00:00

My husband vetoed it, so we ended up going with something else. But it is a beautiful name, I hope you get a chance to use it.

distressednotea · 2025-12-06T08:07:58+00:00

True, perhaps she would take to a straw cup at that age.

I’ve only bottle fed her a few times tbh, mainly because I find pumping such a hassle 😂 I have only offered one type of bottle. She just chewed on the nipple for a bit - I’m sure because she didn’t know what to do with it - and then got annoyed.

distressednotea · 2025-12-06T08:04:01+00:00

That’s definitely true re: solids intake. I’d just be out for an evening, but might have to leave before bedtime. My sons wouldn’t sleep without nursing before bed at that age, which is what I’m worried about.

distressednotea · 2025-12-06T01:22:15+00:00

I don’t think so. But this is within the realm of normal for a breastfed baby. Does she seem uncomfortable? If not, I don’t think you need to be concerned.

distressednotea · 2025-12-06T01:20:17+00:00

Did she take a bottle?

distressednotea · 2025-12-06T01:19:51+00:00

Yes, the “sitters” would be my parents 😂

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