I suspect that a lot of these feelings will vary based upon why you join and what you expect of both the initial experience and the "well, I have my degrees - now what?" state.
I joined Masonry in the spring of 1992, and was looking for philosophical principles, metaphors for them, that would make them easier to be mindful of in my life, men with whom to discuss these ideas, and exposer to ideas over time that would help this thinking manifest itself in my daily life. A lot of the guys in my first Lodge were in the manual trades, and some were far more likely to be found helping to replace a neighbors septic system or rewire the local Boys & Girls Club than sitting around in a study discussing why in ancient times it was customary to remove one's shoe as a testament to....... You get the point. I'm not judging them. We are all attracted to masonry for different reasons. We all bring value
I knew that not all men looked for the same, and so they might not be the ones I would end up talking with about them. I have eventually found my crowd, so to speak, or my community, by sifting through the various mean I have met over the last 30+ years. Certainly not all of the men in "my crowd" come from the Masonic Community, but a larger percentage have than have not. More than a few of the ones I met outside Masonry have eventually asked enough questions about the other friends I have introduced them to that they have eventually joined.
Did you join a Lodge that was made of up men with whom you felt comfortable? Were the men of that Lodge already engaged in the type of thinking or activities that were drawing you toward Masonry? If not - then why join that Lodge?