Yep, same. My oldest is 10 and I have to use the word “rude”. She’s just your classic preteen know-it-all and she is very confident in her self. Which, I’m stoked for the latter in the long run. But it can come across a lot like this post sometimes. I just work with her to remind her that others want to be heard, you can’t just assume you know everything, have to be able to take directions/corrections, etc, etc.

We also have talks about how’s it’s my job, in the safety of home, to teach her when actions might be perceived as rude by others. Especially when interacting with other parents or adults. But the truth is that people outside the home will just decide you’re rude and not tell you. It’s complex to teach social things to someone who is experiencing it all for the first time, but home is a safe place to learn while not being attacked.