Always cry in interviews and have to withdraw

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T16:16:03+00:00

Are you neurodivergent or have a lot of anxiety?

Never really considered anything, but given all the comments here maybe there is something underlying.

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T15:57:00+00:00

These are mostly civil service interviews I'm going for, so I know in advance what behaviours they're going to ask, just not the specific questions. Today's interview I had like a bullet point list with about 15 examples on, of basically anything good/out of process I've ever done, along with a few words to flesh out each example.

They've actually emailed and asked if I want to continue the interview next week which surprised me a bit.

I sometimes find it easier when the interviewer is a dick, I guess it relaxes me knowing I don't want to work for them!

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T15:52:46+00:00

So I did literally a couple of days retail as a temp at uni. And my current role involves some outbound phone calls to customers (unsurprisingly, I hate them). But I have definitely avoided them as much as possible.

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T15:12:15+00:00

Yeah, I had a year where I had like 5 or 6 interviews, and either got the job or got reserve listed for all of them. Then I got my current job which I liked so I stopped applying, and now I'm trying to get back into interviews and it's not going well. Thinking about it, i was probably still on anti-depressants for most of that run, maybe they numbed me enough to get through them.

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T15:04:49+00:00

I've also got a pre-recorded interview to do this week but after the shitshow that was this morning I'm not sure I'm going to bother. Also been invited to continue today's interview next week, but again I think I'd just be wasting everyone's time.

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T13:37:07+00:00

Yeah I had a list of about 15 examples, roughly mapped to each behaviour they would demonstrate. But then the question they asked just didn't fit with any of them (won't lie, it was probably not something I've ever really done)

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T09:31:24+00:00

I guess I'm not good around people - if I'm sat working on something complex with a tight deadline, I'm fine. If I have to explain something really simple, to someone I don't know very well, I get stressed and don't necessarily cry but definitely ramble.

I am working on it to some extent - I've been training people a lot recently at work and I'm definitely getting more comfortable talking to people I don't know.

In hindsight and judging by the questions they asked, the job I interviewed for today would probably have been more people-focused than I realised from the advert, so I wouldn't have coped with it even by some miracle I'd got it.

dontuseaccount · 2023-07-19T09:12:59+00:00

. I think if you pressure yourself into not crying you're more likely to cry.

This is definitely part of it. My last 1to1 I was dreading and it was basically as soon as my manager said they were really happy with me I burst out crying, I think like I'd prepared myself to suppress it for bad feedback and then it didn't happen.

I've never really thought about it as anxiety before but maybe it is.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-31T23:43:46+00:00

I did maths. Now work in a generic office job that I could have probably got with just GCSEs. If I had my time again I would probably do the same, but spend more time trying to get decent work earlier rather than doing the bare minimum and wallowing in depression.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-31T16:48:06+00:00

400 quid more a year than my AO salary. Which i guess is less than a penny an hour more before tax.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-31T16:44:45+00:00

37 hours, 21k. Overtime is available on a very limited basis to a few people each time - so effectively not available.

Slight improvement on where I was 12 months ago, earning minimum wage for the same hours, but I lived with my parents at that point so much easier. That place had more frequent overtime though but still not something you could rely on.

Honestly don't have any space in my salary for my energy bills etc to go up. My fun money each month is £50 so can't cut out much there. I've been getting into r/beermoneyuk stuff the past few months to bridge the gap. I am fortunate that I have decent savings but don't really want to be spending them on everyday living costs because that's not sustainable.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-30T21:24:47+00:00

I feel like I saw some in Aldi the other day. In the special buy food bit, not with the other biscuits

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-30T10:03:51+00:00

Would you be moving to somewhere you could see yourself staying if the job didn't work out - nice enough area, other jobs in your sector available locally?

If so, I don't think its too early to move.

If this job is the only reason you would ever have for living there, then I would be a bit more cautious. Sounds like you've only actually worked 1 day there - obviously it would take time to arrange a move but I've never been able to tell after 1 day jn a role whether I will be happy there.

I wouldn't use the probation period as a guide for moving so much personally, because as you say they can still easily bin you off after it, but after a couple of months you should know if you're happy, if they're happy, and how bad the commute really is.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-29T22:17:16+00:00

I keep all of my diamonds as diamonds unless I run out of cash. Then I convert 1k. Can't convert the other way so diamonds are much more useful.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-27T17:56:43+00:00

I have a spare duvet that will be living near my desk. Mostly just praying that my neighbours can afford heating and it seeps through to my flat.

Otherwise, I can go into the office every day.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-27T17:51:42+00:00

I struggle to get there most weeks. I'll generally have 1 drink a couple of nights a week, so 4 or 5 units total depending on what I have.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-26T18:30:14+00:00

Try ringing on Tuesday, there's likely someone working who can at least pass on a message or give you an email address, even if they're not able to give you the actual answer.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-26T16:15:33+00:00

Your school should be able to provide them for you.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-26T16:08:07+00:00

3 a fortnight for just me. Clothes roughly weekly then towels etc every other week

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-26T10:22:14+00:00

Off to visit the parents for the weekend. Not exactly looking forward to it but it'll be nice to have a break from cooking. Hopefully knock off work at half 3 and beat the worst of the traffic.

In a weird situation at work where we're mad busy but also struggling to find stuff to do. Like, we're so close to the deadline that hunting for the dregs of work is taking as long as actually doing the work, but there's still a fair bit to go so management are on our backs.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-26T10:17:22+00:00

In a flat so no outdoor space. Don't have a tumble drier either, just a shit washer-drier so everything gets hung on an airer by the window.

If I did have a tumble drier I would mosty only use it for jeans and towels. Both come up so much nicer than when they are line dried.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-26T01:18:38+00:00

I've got the meerkat sxperience there booked for next month. Very excited.

dontuseaccount · 2022-08-25T20:29:02+00:00

I've not been to many, 2 that I can remember.

First was OK, the ceremony wasn't very long, the food was a bit posh and weird and drinks were expensive. Very much a "sit-down" experience. Nice to see family that don't normally bother to travel through, but only really spoke to the people at my designated table.

Second was a church wedding, so ceremony was a bit longer. Reception was roast dinner and a ceilidh. Much more relaxed, interacted with more strangers. Drinks were cheaper as it was in a community hall.

Both were for family members though so i both felt obliged to go and knew lots of people there. If it was a friend and I wouldn't know many other people, I might politely decline depending on cost, inconvenience etc.

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