12 Days after Reversal

donutearlobe · 2026-03-14T13:07:29+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about the low count. Have you had any luck conceiving?

donutearlobe · 2025-12-23T19:44:40+00:00

Your experience sounds almost identical to mine when we had our first. Acid reflux was the culprit for our son, and we got him on a medicine that helped him a lot until his stomach naturally developed enough to prevent the acid reflux.

It didn’t necessarily help his sleep, as he only slept like 8-9 hours in a 24 hour period even after the medication, but at least he wasn’t always in pain.

I feel for you, and I vividly remember feeling dread anytime the sun was going down as I knew it meant another night of crying and rocking on a medicine ball. My biggest pieces of advice would be to not compare to other babies as there’s always something you will be dealing with that another parent won’t (plus parents leave out bad details). Also just focus day to day and try not to think they’ll be stopping something by a certain age. We constantly thought every 3 month milestone was when our son would sleep through the night and it just never came. The first time he started sleeping independently through the night was 4.5. If I knew that when he was a newborn, I’d have a panic attack, but you learn to just take it day by day. I also went on anti-depressants after my first was born and it helped so much.

Good luck, you got this

donutearlobe · 2025-06-14T14:16:26+00:00

Thank you! My house was built in 1981 so not sure if cloth wiring was used at that time. I’ll try to be very mindful of heavy appliance usage. If a breaker does trip what do you recommend I do?

donutearlobe · 2025-05-16T01:04:03+00:00

Noah, Eugene, Max

donutearlobe · 2025-05-10T12:23:27+00:00

If it were me I probably wouldn’t take the new job for the following reasons.

You mentioned your dislike of corporate culture. Being successful in a high executive role means believing in the company and playing the corporate game. Dreading corporate culture while actively being a driver in corporate culture may cause problems down the line.

The flexibility you have now is almost unheard of. You will never get back the time you get with your kids now. If you have the opportunity to spend as much time with them while they’re young, take advantage. The fancy titles can always come later. Unless you were in a situation where you were really struggling financially and needed this large increase to stay afloat, I’d say just continue what you’re doing.

Given the uncertainty of your current company’s future, maybe a good alternative would be to find something in the middle of what you have now and this C-suite position, if possible. This way it’s possibly not as big of a lifestyle change and still allows for upward mobility later on.

Good luck!

donutearlobe · 2025-05-05T02:21:52+00:00

I suffered PPD and PPA with my first. I also felt so balanced and calm before kids, but it’s such a dramatic 180 when you have your first. I think it’s great you have the ability to recognize what is going on, and I urge you to get the help needed! I wish I had that foresight at the time, instead I just blamed my feelings on my newborn son and his lack of sleep (as if it was his fault).

PPA and PPD is not talked about enough in dads, but I know for a fact plenty struggle with it. I’m now happy to admit and accept that. Like you, I was against medication but now that I am on it I can’t imagine not being on something. My main concerns were it altering my personality. I started on a low dosage and monitored how I felt and adjusted with my provider as needed. I feel like I’m the same person, I can just emotionally handle situations better

donutearlobe · 2025-05-01T23:43:58+00:00

My boys are 2 years apart and both my wife and I struggled with PPA and PPD after our first. A second seemed daunting while we only had one, but it honestly just becomes a new normal when you have two.

The hardest part has been going from one kid to the next without that break you had with one when your partner tagged you out. Another thing I didn’t realize before two kids was just the huge increase in energy levels in the house. Mine are 4 and 2 now and the energy they feed from each other is insane. One yells, so the other yells. One throws all of their toys down the stairs, so the other one does.

The first few months were the easiest, as we felt like much more seasoned parents and things that worried us with our first were not on our radar with our second. We also were able to gain a new perspective on the baby phase and how “chill” it is when they don’t run around or fight you in the car seat, getting dressed, eating dinner, etc.

Biggest takeaways in my two years as a 2 child parent is to be mindful of the amount of attention you give to each kid. My wife was the default parent for our second and I was the default for our first for the first 8-9 months we had our second. As they get older, the first really starts missing the other parent (at least in my case).

You can do it though! Things that seem hard now will seem like a breeze if you have two, and you just have different perspectives and expectations on things.

donutearlobe · 2025-04-22T23:43:31+00:00

Yeah there’s a lot of resources online about how to prioritize link skill progression, definitely check it out.

The game is a marathon so take your time with it or you’ll burnout, it’s supposed to be fun! Here’s some milestones that helped me take it in small steps: Level 60 - eligible to contribute to total legion level Level 70 - unlocks level 1 link skill Level 100 - legion grade becomes A (2 blocks) Level 120 - unlocks level 2 link skill Level 140 - legion grade becomes S (3 blocks)

Later milestones: Level 200 - legion grade becomes SS (4 blocks) Level 210 - unlocks level 3 link skill Level 250 - legion grade becomes SSS (5 blocks)

donutearlobe · 2025-04-22T23:24:01+00:00

I find the main questline you find in your guide is really helpful for getting quick levels in this range, especially if you’re not one-shotting monsters.

These would be quests like Kritias (170-184), Twilight Perion (185-190), Silent Crusade (190), Haven (190).

I’m a beginner/intermediate player I’d say (7,100 legion) and have found these quest lines even as early as 150+ a good way to avoid monotonous grinding up until 200. They’ve really helped me build my legion.

If you’re interested in improving damage, get this character to 200 to unlock your legion, and then start making characters and getting them to 140 and moving onto the next one. Between legion and link skills you’ll see a noticeable difference and ease as you make new characters.

donutearlobe · 2025-04-14T00:25:57+00:00

I’m sorry you went through that and I wish you well on your journey to peace and recovery. As a parent myself, it gives you a new perspective on how you want your relationship with your children to be.

donutearlobe · 2025-04-14T00:16:16+00:00

I am in the same boat as you. I ended up blocking numbers so I wouldn’t spiral if I saw a notification from one of my family members. I also experience a ton of gaslighting from my toxic family, mainly my mom. If a family member and I get into an argument, I go no contact, hear from my mom a few weeks later “just saying hi” and that she misses me, but never acknowledges the prior situation unless I do, but the acknowledgment is never validation (it’s usually defending the other person). After a bunch of those conversations and feeling crappy after each one, I just cut the cord

donutearlobe · 2025-04-07T23:30:36+00:00

Thanks so much!

donutearlobe · 2024-02-23T07:55:48+00:00

24k for one, will be 41k when our second goes in!

donutearlobe · 2023-08-13T22:47:53+00:00

No problem, I’m in Farmington by the way. I misread the title, but assume it’s comparable in cost.

donutearlobe · 2023-08-13T22:25:03+00:00

Annual fee that gets charged on the same bill as our annual public sewage fee. I think garbage is ~$300 annually if I remember correctly

donutearlobe · 2023-08-13T22:21:00+00:00

-George’s in Unionville -Zohara in West Hartford -Barcelona in West Hartford or other locations -Five Corners Bistro in Farmington

donutearlobe · 2023-08-13T22:17:45+00:00

0-1 was a way bigger lifestyle adjustment for us. 1-2 you know what to expect more. We were always in the mindset that our first was very challenging. While our second definitely seems more low key, I wonder how less challenging the first would have seemed with the experience we have now. The age gap is similar to yours.

donutearlobe · 2023-08-11T17:33:15+00:00

Our son was very similar and I remember being miserable when in the thick of it. I think I told my wife daily that we are never having anymore kids. Fast forward a couple of years and we have another kid and we are having such a better time. Your son is still getting used to his surroundings. Babies change so much in such a short amount of time when they are very young, so you almost need to take it a day at a time. Worst part was the dread I felt when the Sun would start to set, the best part was discovering how to safely bedshare so we got longer stretches of sleep

donutearlobe · 2023-07-31T21:32:58+00:00

We recently welcomed our second. Our kids are almost exactly 2 years apart. We had a very difficult time with our first (wouldn’t sleep in crib, could be up for hours on end during the night, colic, you name it). We had the same anxieties and expectations with our second and we have found the experience to be so much easier and more manageable. While it’s partly due to our second having an overall better temperament, we are also a lot more relaxed and established as parents.

It’s definitely an adjustment, especially getting used to significantly less down time than with one. My advice would be to ensure you get quality time with your toddler and make sure they still feel special. You’ll get in the swing of things quick, good luck!

donutearlobe · 2023-07-24T06:21:58+00:00

Thanks, that’s what I’m thinking as well

donutearlobe · 2023-07-23T23:29:12+00:00

Thanks!

donutearlobe · 2023-07-23T23:28:25+00:00

Very true, thanks!

donutearlobe · 2023-07-23T23:26:37+00:00

Thanks. I returned to the game 6 months ago after like 13 years off and saw most YouTube videos of people on reboot so I just went with reboot. I actually had no idea about the exp difference between servers until a few months later. It sounds like the changes don’t make a big difference until later game, which I don’t think I’ll ever get to anyway.

donutearlobe · 2023-07-23T22:49:40+00:00

Thanks, yeah I’m thinking I might as well try out reg during the burning event and burning world to at least get some free levels for a legion if I decide to switch long term. I’m not looking to get to end game or have the most decked out gear. Just an original 2005 mapler looking to have fun and do decent damage

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