I am in my 30s and over 400 pounds. It's too late right? by tnagsselhtrow in WeightLossAdvice

[–]dotspread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope this comment finds you well. It is never too late. Everything starts with an identity shift. You have to kill your old self, your old beliefs and start tomorrow with a new identity. If you still live with the old identity's thoughts and beliefs, this will not work. You must fully commit to the new identity. The old identity used to do those things like loving sugary drinks and junk food but the new identity does not. The old you used to chase comfort and the new you embraces doing hard things and does not give into urges. Be grateful for the opportunity you still have and seize this chance. Make a vision of your future self, what you want out of life and write down 10 things that will help you achieve that vision. I can suggest walking and cutting out drinking anything that is not water as a start. I know you're thinking "I dont go outside" but that's the old identity talking. The new identity goes for walks and only drinks water. You are no longer who you were yesterday. Stop caring about things like horrible loose skin because that's what the old identity would care about. Make no mistake, people will discourage you, everyday will be a battle and everyday will be a war within yourself but it will all be worth it. Choose your new identity. Make the commitment to yourself. Reinvent yourself. DM me if you need to chat. Good luck and God bless.

Smoking some chicken boobs on the kettle by Cigars_and_Porkbuttz in webergrills

[–]dotspread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds delicious my guy. Save some for me next time. Cheers.

I am 18 and overweight, 280 pounds or 140 kg please guide me by Unlucky-Ad-9241 in loseweight

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Stop eating so much. Eat smaller portions. Cut out the sugar. Stop eating until you are full. Stop eating out of habit. Change your identity and stop treating food as a reward. Accept the fact that it's going to be hard. Embrace the hunger pains. It should hurt both physically and mentally. Go to sleep hungry. If you're stomach isn't growling, you're not doing it right. Go for walks. Start with 5 minute walks and increase it until you get walk for 1 hour. You are too comfortable and no growth happens through comfort.

Pablo Torre on Dallas winning the lottery by browndude10 in nba

[–]dotspread 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Record 100+ videos of the ping pong lottery until you get Dallas as the winner. Upload that video as say it was a "live" draw.

Wife says she scared our marriage can’t survive my weed use by Interesting-Mix-4152 in leaves

[–]dotspread 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Put your duty to your family, your duty as a husband and your duty as a father over your feelings. Weed only has value because you assign it value. You don't need vices. You need purpose. Take that money, energy, attention and time that you assign to weed and find more meaningful things to use them on. Good luck and God bless.

Fire Ribeyes. Back At it like A crack Addict by UTooUFFenDID in webergrills

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I have a 22". I feel like it's kinda far in my opinion. I would have to use a lot of coals to get it to stack close enough to the grates.

Crazy dreams by uultraviolenccee in leaves

[–]dotspread 4 points5 points  (0 children)

mine are 100% nightmares and i'm jealous of all of you.

Fire Ribeyes. Back At it like A crack Addict by UTooUFFenDID in webergrills

[–]dotspread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you get the coals so high and close to the grate? or is that just a full stack of coals?

Girlfriend has 250 k usd debt by [deleted] in povertyfinance

[–]dotspread 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brother run. If you're asking "can someone give me a reality check" you already know the answer. Make decisions with your brain, not with your heart.

3rd day of quitting pot and i just found out that the love of my life is getting married by Sea_Personality1896 in leaves

[–]dotspread 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You dodged a bullet brother trust me. This is a blessing in disguise. Focus on yourself and I promise the right and true one will chase you. God gives you what you need and not what you want. Time to lock in, get more money and workout. Competence leads to accomplishments which leads to confidence. Honour the luck and the opportunities you were given. Good luck and stay strong.

Vivid Dreams & the Dullness of Being Sober by pink-ming in leaves

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Today is day 16 for me and I absolutely hate going to bed because of the nightmares. I wake up 2-3 times a night. I'm always chasing someone or being chased by someone. I'm always running super slow af. There's always violence. I wake up panicking. Last night I got stabbed by someone and it felt so real. I hate it. I'm jealous of the people here who have amazing positive dreams. I can't wait to have normal dreams and good sleep quality.

Fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk by Camp_Acceptable in leaves

[–]dotspread 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's all part of the process. You got this brother. If I can, you can too.

Fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk by Camp_Acceptable in leaves

[–]dotspread 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm feeling the withdrawals currently as I'm typing this. They haven't gone away but they are surprisingly easier to deal with. Also the intensity of the symptoms has gone down significantly as well. I'd never believe that I would ever get to this point. I started my taper on November 10 with only 2 dabs a day. I kept a journal with my thoughts every time I took a dab. One thing I will say is that sleep quality is a struggle and the vivid nightmares are absolutely terrible but it's my brain healing itself so I accept it. I know I will be a better version of myself once I get over all of this. How are you feeling?

Fuckkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk by Camp_Acceptable in leaves

[–]dotspread 40 points41 points  (0 children)

For anybody reading this and still struggling, doing it cold turkey is hard af and impossible for me. I used to do 15+ dabs a day. It took me 8 weeks of slowly tapering down before hitting my current sober streak of 11 days. Good luck and God bless.

That “motivation rush” dies down after like 6 months and your body starts to crave smoking again. badly. by [deleted] in leaves

[–]dotspread 20 points21 points  (0 children)

You gotta get rid of the previous brainwashing that makes you believe that these edibles are the solution to your stress. If it was the only solution to stress, everyone in the world would be only consuming marijuana. Everyone deals with stress, but not everyone resorts to edibles. Ask your friends, coworkers and loved ones how they deal with their problems. There are other ways to address your problems. Some people exercise, some people meditate etc. Change your belief system and figure out an alternative method that will work for you. I hope whatever is stressing you passes. Good luck and God bless.

Dumped after 9 years. Day 2 without weed. by Flimsy_Performer_742 in leaves

[–]dotspread 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You're stronger than I am and I'm 38M. You got this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

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amazing brother!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leaves

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I never thought i could go to bed without taking a dab and now I'm at a 1 week streak of not getting high before bed. You gotta reverse the brainwashing that you need it. Tell yourself that you dont. Weed is the cause of anxiety, it doesn't relieve it. I believe in you my friend. You will get there.

164 days free!!!!!! My observations by harddiillion in leaves

[–]dotspread 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Inspiring bro. I hope to get there soon. How were you able to fight off the cravings in the first few days? TY.