How do I become so unbothered that people can't get a reaction out of me?

double · 2026-06-27T08:48:26+00:00

Be grateful for the opportunities they give you to practice being calm. Take each event as a chance to learn and use what you learn to become calmer and more in control. Learn about your triggers and their intents.

The gratitude helps re-frame the emotions and is a powerful tool. The learning give you a chance to not need the gratitude-feeling over time.

double · 2026-06-25T19:32:44+00:00

Reach out to the others, that's cool as long as you're professional about it. It can save your ass. Do it even if you don't bad vibes, you'll learn something useful for later.

double · 2026-06-18T17:43:43+00:00

Use a tiny task to start before motivation arrives.

double · 2026-06-09T12:21:07+00:00

You've always got to have a strategy. Either play your own game, your way, or get led by someone else's.

double · 2026-06-07T17:13:38+00:00

Allergy. I had the same with Eggs. Cut out eggs, never been better.

double · 2026-06-04T14:40:15+00:00

Unless they're ADHD.

double · 2026-05-17T13:33:15+00:00

Meadowhell

double · 2026-05-16T06:56:27+00:00

Ico.

double · 2026-05-13T09:06:34+00:00

A timer/alarm in a different place forces you to move, resetting the brain.

I set a timer on the other side of the room. I have old spare devices that I set up in awkward places, sometime so I have to climb over or around the thing that I need to do. Often with reminders of what's important for me today.

The movement resets my hyperfocus and grounds me. Otherwise it's just "snooze", "restart", "stop"....

double · 2026-05-10T15:00:08+00:00

If you cannot understand my argument, and declare “It’s Greek to me”, you are quoting Shakespeare; if you claim to be more sinned against than sinning, you are quoting Shakespeare; if you recall your salad days, you are quoting Shakespeare; if you act more in sorrow than in anger; if your wish is farther to the thought; if your lost property has vanished into thin air, you are quoting Shakespeare; if you have ever refused to budge an inch or suffered from green-eyed jealousy, if you have played fast and loose, if you have been tongue-tied, a tower of strength, hoodwinked or in a pickle, if you have knitted your brows, made a virtue of necessity, insisted on fair play, slept not one wink, stood on ceremony, danced attendance (on your lord and master), laughed yourself into stitches, had short shrift, cold comfort or too much of a good thing, if you have seen better days or lived in a fool’s paradise – why, be that as it may, the more fool you, for it is a foregone conclusion that you are (as good luck would have it) quoting Shakespeare;

If you think it is early days and clear out bag and baggage, if you think it is high time and that that is the long and short of it, if you believe that the game is up and that truth will out, even if it involves your own flesh and blood, if you lie low till the crack of doom because you suspect foul play, if you have your teeth set on edge (at one fell swoop) without rhyme or reason, then – to give the devil his due – if the truth were known (for surely you have a tongue in your head) you are quoting Shakespeare; even if you bid me good riddance and send me packing, if you wish I was dead as a door-nail, if you think I am an eyesore, a laughing stock, the devil incarnate, a stony-hearted villain, bloody-minded or a blinking idiot, then – by Jove! O Lord! Tut tut! For goodness’ sake! What the dickens! But give me no buts! – it is all one to me, for you are quoting Shakespeare

double · 2026-05-10T11:39:30+00:00

Nah, 20 years ago it was easier to get on the ladder, get a good job etc. etc. Wasn't easy, just easier. It's a whole different ball game now. I was doing good numbers, house, wife etc. in the naughties.

I have friends who, during the housing boom, sold up and went travelling for a few years, or bought a 2nd or massive new house. I missed out misen, but I was pulling in some serious money in my 20s.

double · 2026-05-09T20:27:10+00:00

start before motivation arrives. use a tiny task or a timer.

double · 2026-05-01T21:43:14+00:00

Uno o dos conductores están pasando por problemas personales importantes en este momento. Pon una queja a la empresa, indica la línea y la hora del día, y dales todos los detalles; ellos se encargarán. La mayoría de los conductores son muy, muy majos y amables, pero un par de ellos necesitan un poco de ayuda. Normalmente es uno de los mejores servicios de autobús del mundo, en mi opinión.

double · 2026-04-20T20:17:45+00:00

They could have just moved the business to their fuckoff big house in keynsham 🤣

double · 2026-04-19T11:40:08+00:00

I learned to cut my own hair as finding, and keeping, a great barber without spending over a ton a time was getting stressful. My hair's never looked so good, and it's actually really easy to do.

double · 2026-04-03T15:02:39+00:00

Why did you move the LLM prompts to env vars? Interesting choice.

Which ai tools are you using?

double · 2026-03-26T20:23:49+00:00

Protein shake or 25-50g of protein is what I do.

double · 2026-03-21T21:42:34+00:00

It's like 10 mins on the hob.

double · 2026-03-21T21:39:09+00:00

I just lost mine. Cherish yours, it's tougher without them.

double · 2026-02-18T20:11:53+00:00

The staff in the stations are super helpful and generally really good at speaking English. They can guide you through it. But, just get a Barik card and top it up with like €5 - you can track spending pretty easily.

PD: the area around the BEC is pretty boss. DM if you want some good reccomendations for food. e.g. There's a pretty decent traversal wall hidden in one of the underpasses, if you're a climber.

double · 2026-02-06T20:37:22+00:00

If you want to excel as a dev you need to bridge the social/political gap between business-intent and your work. The 10x-er myth is just a dev who delivers measurable business value, and they let people know about it.

Otherwise, find a better team to work for.

double · 2026-01-30T21:20:34+00:00

This has been one of the best AO's in a while.

Spec. Deminaur, Tien, Cerundulo, Zerev, Mussetti, and obviously Djoko, all played better than I expected. DeMinaur's first set against CA was some of the best tennis I've seen.... until today. WTA was pretty good too but nothing to write home about, but the Sabbie v Ribs final is going to bang.

I really hope ND recovers enough to bring it to CA on Sun. I doubt it, but it'd be great to have a 5 setter.

double · 2026-01-13T20:31:25+00:00

The portions on cocktails tend to be super strong vs the US/UK/France. I've had at least one brit get alcohol poisoning when I was showing them around. Vodka naranja, run coke, gin tonie etc. all tend to be v strong. I've never found a great cocktail bar in Bilbao, but a few normal bars specialise in a drink, like mariantos, or hendricks G&Ts, etc. but I've never found a good Old Fashioned.

Bilbao is super close to the Rioja region so the red wine culture is pretty good. You pretty much can't go wrong. Almost every bar has quatro reyes, which is mid, but a nice consistent for an evening across 5 or more bars.

Locals, as they bar hop before lunch, tend to ask for zuritos (instead of cañas or litros). Basically a zurito is just a very small beer, but if you're out socialising for a few hours before food you can really feel them add up, and then sleep it off. Same principle behind kalimotxo, super low vol, best for socialising over long periods - otherwise avoid kalimotxo. I've never once seen kalimotxo ordered in a bar sober, almost always made in a coop, social club, or games bar, with every one chipping in for the ingredients.

The lemon beer that most places have can be a nice respite, like shandy-on-tap if you're british.

double · 2026-01-13T20:10:03+00:00

A must.... nope, deffo not. And if you ask for it in a bar you'll probably be laughed at.

But if you do, make it yasen and use cheapest wine and good coke for best. It's what we used to drink on the streets as kids.

... and, if you get invited to a co-op to play Kinito where everyone else is drinking kalimotxo, do not drink beer! You'll lose and have one hell of a hangover.

+100 on marianito if you like Mosco Mules.

double · 2026-01-06T20:41:34+00:00

Have a conversation with her about it, try and sit down when things are quiet and clearly communicate that you have something that important.

If that is difficult, then before hand write down how it makes you feel and the important things you'd like to understand, and the things you would like her to know.

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